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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2009, 12:27 pm
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| both went this week, not quite ideal though in all fairness my (partner) did stress she wants to put her side, then take a step back until she feels comfortable ( there is an amount of anger still there on her part & that prob needs to subside first), never ever saying she won't & wanted to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Control |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2009, 2:38 am
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| i think with me its more a case of just calming it down a few clicks on the dial not saying i don't act totally in the wrong context at times ( but that isnt just AS based) but mainly i feel even if the emotion is right & for the right reasons i sometimes get it all out of sync & just go ove... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Control |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2009, 9:54 am
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| Yes, it's a common thing. Although some Aspies say they don't feel a great deal, there are others who feel things extremely intensely and become clingy in friendships. I am one of those -- I try to hide the emotional intensity of what I feel for some friends sometimes, because I think it would frea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Control |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2009, 3:07 am
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| Or lack of it ! !! :( I really struggle with containing my emotions, is this a common thing? Anything that i love/care about im OTT with emotion, it means so much to me I now perhaps realise that i need to temper that emotion & kind of even it out over a wider spread of situtations/issues Slidin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 24 Jun 2009, 3:59 am
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| went yesterday, was very interesting the counsellor really wants the both of us there, in meantime though she wants to concentrate on me & how the symptons effect me & the relationship did a real simple exercise with a jar of stones to depict our relationship & the weight aspergers is no... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2009, 3:17 am
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| yes im the aspie the thing is my partner HAS totally accepted me, has been very understanding & basically is saying stop fighting it emotions i find difficult, im actaully over gushing when it comes to anything i love :? which while i know isn't that bad a thing it's stifled here almost, she jus... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2009, 5:44 pm
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| It sounds to me like you think you can go individually to counselling and maybe talk to the go-between. It won't work. You need to be talking to each other. If you're both willing to work at it, you should consider doing a marriage encounters weekend together. It worked for me. http://www.wwme.org/... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2009, 1:52 pm
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| Don't answer my question, but WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU BOTH HAD SEX? the pastor of my church said sex works in relationship problems. he asked this question to a fighting couple they both could not rmemeber, so they did it the night of the counseling session with the pastor and the next day thing... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: CAN COUNSELLING HELP? |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2009, 1:08 pm
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| Break in relationship, guess its wore her down Now trying counselling (aspergers based) myself, she will go & explain her position to the counsellor on her own, with a view to giving the counsellor the lowdown on working with me to succeed hopefully making good the problem issues all sounds ok, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2009, 5:06 am
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| yeah my currently estranged partner only been just over a week since we broke up (again) but the love/feelings i have for her are just so unlike anything i've ever experienced for anybody else before love for my kids/family/friends etc sure of course but for a member of the opposite sex never ! ! wa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: break up again |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 1:39 pm
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| happened again last friday 8O altough i can certainly see (when explained to me ) some of the issues involved, im also left feeling "but we haven't tried" main bone of contention is my lack of thought, i care deeply for her but my actions don't quite match my intentions 2 cases in little more than 4... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: keeping your mouth shut |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2009, 7:46 am
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| have really been trying hard over last few weeks with some degree of sucess too :D however dropped a few out sunday evening & thought "here we go again ! ! " Frank views exchanged between us (not a bad thing at times i know), frosty the day after Im trying to be objective & honest (certainly... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Clutter |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2009, 4:40 am
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| The only thing that works for me is routine. I have a day for laundry, one for cleaning the whole house and so on. If for any reason my routine gets disturbed, everything gets messy and it's very hard to get back on track. Fortunately, my husband doesn't mind, as he's messier than me, so at least t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Honest thoughts on being diagnosed |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2009, 4:17 am
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Replies: 17
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| during the assessment Aston produced the images of peoples eyes to see how i "read people" must admit i didn't do too well score wise, if i remember right there were 36 different pics & i think i scored 16 correct But what i thought was amazing was even though she told me it was a poor score &am... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Honest thoughts on being diagnosed |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2009, 9:55 pm
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| i can exactly see why you should say that i went to my gp a couple of weeks ago to seek advice re this possible cause she didnt seem to think i particuarly was depressed but more importantly she also said i should be very wary of being "pushed" too far down the AS road, not denying for one moment th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Empathy do i don't i? are we aren't we? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2009, 8:34 pm
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| If someone keeps on responding in similar ways I get the idea they don't want a compliment from me so I stay quiet. Nail on the head my friend :wink: but only leads then to further chapters "you're sulking" being the classic comment no, im actually deep in thought about how to avoid further moments ... |
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