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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Marriage partner with Asperger's |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2009, 12:43 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,676
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nara44 wrote: my vision of love is me helping the other to understand himself and vice versa
I can entirely relate to that desire and thinking. I used to use the analogy that each person gave the other the key to their heart. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did anyone else get in trouble over not doing their chores? |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2009, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,000
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Always. Mowing the lawn, doing dishes, cleaning up - outright painful.
I'm damned doing it (painful) or not doing it (guilt = painful).
Life is hard, I enjoy it. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Son has head tingling, sensitivity to sound and light |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2009, 8:28 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,931
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| Tingling of the scalp/head developed for me at age 35 when I had no clue I had aspergers (realized 4 years later). I would SERIOUSLY consider this an allergy symptom (nerve problems). For me, it was gluten. It really isn't had to go Gluten-free for 2 weeks... then eat some bread and see if you feel ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Tension headaches and person to person behaviour |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 10:43 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 2,102
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| You may want to look at a gluten-free diet and see if your headaches clear up. It was my primary symptom, not stomach issues - but headache (swelling?) issues. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism Theory #4,596,143: we're lacking in Vitamin D! |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 10:35 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 3,559
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| Like the gluten-free thing, I say just try it. Maybe it is possible that Vitamin D symptoms for _some people_ can match Autistic symptoms. Especially if dealing with an adult or older kid - try it for a couple weeks. What is it going to hurt? If you see improvement... then great. It is these 'blanke... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Restrictive diets not appropriate for autistic kids [NYT] |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 10:16 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 3,570
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| I was suspicious of the stories that said that a gluten free diet or a dairy free diet is good for autistic people. If you are an adult, it's pretty damn simple. For me, I felt sick (drugged) all the time for years. I went gluten-free for at least 45 days... now if I eat regular bread I turn red an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NT needs advice about Aspie shutdown - please help me |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 9:58 am
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Replies: 86
Views: 13,701
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| Some time back someone passed along this resource to me on autistic shutdowns: http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1707940 What you're describing doesn't meet any definition of a shutdown I've ever heard of. I've always heard them described as lasting for hours at the most, not days or weeks, a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Food |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 9:54 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,827
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| Only eat certain brands or types of a certain food, texture, smell & taste issues that are just plain weird? I personally only like muenster cheese, 2% milk, seedless breads, & avoid greens/any crunchy veggies. I also hate the rubber like perogies (can't spell it :oops: ) my ex-HS served (t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My world, explained to NTs |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 9:47 am
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Replies: 50
Views: 4,916
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| When we are able to understand that there is no collective consciousness ganging up on us, then we have a better chance of understanding how we function and interrelate with those who think and work differently than ourselves. Are you so sure on this point? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collective_u... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: getting spouses to work with you. |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 9:35 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,234
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| I guess it is up to him tomarrow, if he wants to live with it or work through it with me. It isn't an option to _not_ work together. it's just a matter of time until the relationship fails if there isn't a true 'your problems are our/us/we problems' attitude. Let's be frank and to the point. Almost... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Better You Program, The Worse You Communicate - Why |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2009, 3:47 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,449
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Trying to help my daughter |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,342
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| My 14 year old daughter has been off school for 4 weeks with an undiagnosed problem. She keeps going into a state of semi-conciousness, usually on standing but sometimes while sitting or while walking. It is totally debilitating. She gets strong twitching movements and her limbs ( usually left hand... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Upbringing (for those diagnosed/realized as adults) |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 10:12 am
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Replies: 21
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| For those that were diagnosed (self or otherwise) as adults, I am curious as to what your living situation was like as a child? I was thinking about this today because I found it interesting that so many of us can go for 20/30/40 years without anyone really noticing our aspie traits. In my situatio... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: I apologize in advance for this huge post:\ |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 8:00 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,625
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1234 wrote: And of course he tried to get me on anti-psychotics again:\
Even if I don't end up having it, what harm can a test do? Why's he so against it?
That's why I suggested not tell him... hard earned experience. he is a paid professional that works for YOU, stop letting him manipulate you. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is politeness above all always? |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 7:47 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 3,192
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| PEOPLE UNITE> PURSUE YOUR PASSIONS where you can, and live in a place of joy. :) That is where we find it - in our special interests. That is all there is. I'm not sure "unite" and "pursue your [individual] passions" are entirely compatible ;) But I get your point. The lesson you emphasize is a ver... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Band of Brothers? |
| TobyZ |
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Posted: 26 May 2009, 7:38 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,184
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| Ok so a common person has .00666 chance of getting Autism, that's roughly half a percent, if we are such a rare group why is it we must spread apart so much? I don't agree with your premise at all. Certain society like the Japanese elevate and encourage those with nerdy talents. As did Silicon Vall... |
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