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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 5:43 pm
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| You know, I really don't care anymore about all that. What I need is my doctor to help me get thru this and not abandon me. But, I am pretty much done caring about anything in my life anymore. I really don't know why I ever tried so hard to be anything or do anything. My doctor is right -- my life ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 3:28 pm
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| I don't know what to say. I didn't go looking for this to happen. But it did happen, because that is how extraordinary he is, and this is how he made me feel about him -- nothing but the best things. That is, until he called my life with autism a "vast waste," right before he told me he was termina... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 12:40 pm
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| corr: "is part" = his part [quote="MKDP] No Exit, I am in a very severe depression right now, from something that happened last week .. just completely utterly devastated beyond devastated. I am having extreme problems communicating. It got me very spaced out (not taking any drugs), turned my artwor... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
| MKDP |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 12:24 pm
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| [quote="MKDP] No Exit, I am in a very severe depression right now, from something that happened last week .. just completely utterly devastated beyond devastated. I am having extreme problems communicating. It got me very spaced out (not taking any drugs), turned my artwork upsidedown, and I am not... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 11:39 am
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| I would never be one to stop a parent from all the child time a child needs. So many children are not so fortunate, So go have a great time with your daughter ! :) MDKP, I am still processing what you said in your post. I am going to try to explain why I'm still processing it. Have you read the res... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Say something positive about yourself. |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 11:04 am
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| There isn't anything positive about me. :cry: This is definitely how I feel, too. No matter how many achievements I manage to extract from my otherwise horrible existence as a savant with autism in this World, none of them ever matter, and the only thing in my life are the negatives, I don't mean a... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Why do I freeze up when she gets angry? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2009, 9:46 am
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| I have similar problems with "initiating affection". I've thought about why, and for me, it seems that the reason why is due to the stress that it causes. I mean, I get stressed out if my wife walks in and asks if I want to go out for dinner. It's the sudden change in plans that throws me. I someti... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Why do I freeze up when she gets angry? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 11:51 pm
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| I am grateful for your insight diamond. Are you currently married, how long now? Was your first marriage ended because of the AS? She seems to be calming down since yesterday, she is actually gettign a bit playful but that is her way. She vents and then dumps it. It is becoming a pattern. She grew ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you think of this description of AS + NT marriages? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 3:49 pm
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| I've got to take care of my daughter right now so I can't write in any detail. But, in fairness, I have to say that my life was hell but not as difficult as what you describe. But, I think it might be interesting to tell the story of a reasonably well adapted aspie who lived through many of the thi... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 3:18 pm
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| Empathy is much more than understanding of one's feelings. It's very easy to understand why someone is crying when a loved one dies. With Empathy, it goes beyond that. You will feel sad as well. Actually, that's the definition of sympathy, not empathy. And IMO it is a common mistake that many peopl... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 2:47 pm
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| apologies I am making so many typos today -- I am having extreme pain syndromes everywhere. Corrected some below. "because without the slitting and compartmentalizing off of the sterssor/trauma event" = because without the splitting and compartmentalizing off of the stressor/trauma event" "It is a m... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 2:41 pm
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| Sympathy is when you feel sorry FOR someone - as in "oh, the poor guy has lost his relative" Empathy is when you feel the emotion in their shoes - as in "oh... it would be awful if I lost my relative" I have never found a definition of empathy that contains the word "feel" in it. IMO that's a slipp... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 2:32 pm
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| Empathy is much more than understanding of one's feelings. It's very easy to understand why someone is crying when a loved one dies. With Empathy, it goes beyond that. You will feel sad as well. Actually, that's the definition of sympathy, not empathy. And IMO it is a common mistake that many peopl... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 2:24 pm
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| Understanding why a person gets stressed out in stressful situations is not empathy in my opinion. I also don't think wigging-out over little things is a female thing. It's a stereotype. Aili, You are so right and I apologize for being overly general in what I said. In this regard, I've had similar... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 2:03 pm
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| A definition that kind of made sense to me is this: Sympathy is having feelings for a person, key word FOR. Empathy is having feelings with a person, key word WITH. Sympathy does not require experience, while empathy usually does, that is to say that to sympathize with someone you need never to hav... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
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Posted: 31 May 2009, 1:45 pm
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| Are you trying to understand female emotions through logic and reason? That would drive Spock to a mental breakdown! LOL. I tried the logic approach for many years and failed miserably. I'm just trying to figure out what her emotions look like and then what she likes to hear me say in response. Tha... |
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