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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
| Arkadash |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2009, 2:07 pm
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Replies: 118
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| I agree with the initial statements of Arkadash and Janissy if they say that's the way the world works. If they are trying to defend this, I have no sympathy for their position. That's the way the world works. I didn't make it up, I just live in it. I'm sorry the white lie business gets on autists'... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
| Arkadash |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2009, 8:45 am
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Replies: 118
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| For the record, I never said you should have known all about the topic you were teaching; only that you shouldn't have been rude to a student who pointed out the difference between the things you'd confused. I wasn't rude to him at all. I just swallowed and accepted what he said. And somehow when y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2009, 7:04 am
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| Thanks for showing us all here how much more "polite" you are than Autistics. No one ever expresses themselves here with the venom you just did. My point's proven. Honesty and rudeness have nothing to do with one another. You asked me to be honest with you, and I was honest with you. Frankly, I'm s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
| Arkadash |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2009, 6:22 am
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Replies: 118
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| Since you've decided to come back and say more things after you said you had nothing more to say What I wrote was, "I have nothing more to add at this time." If you're too lazy or stupid to read the last three words, it's your problem. I'm still challenging you to provide an example of honesty with... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
| Arkadash |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2009, 2:26 am
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Replies: 118
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| I take pride in my work. You sat there and typed that you'd rather your students be confused about the information that you were teaching than question you, and you expect me to believe that you take pride in your work? The level of disrespect that that shows for your students and your university j... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 4:33 pm
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Replies: 118
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 4:21 pm
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| This is a university class that students are paying a lot of money for, and you want to give them incorrect information and not be corrected, just to save yourself a bit of a bruised ego? And when someone explained the information to you, you got pissed? I wouldn't want to take a class with a teach... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 4:06 pm
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Replies: 118
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| I sing, and I draw. I love doing both, and I will continue to do both for as long as I live, but I would like to know something: Am I good? Why do you want to know that? Do you want to do them professionally? Many of the people who tell me I'm good at either would do so because they think it would ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 3:56 pm
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| Coadunate, I totally agree. When you advocate for honesty, NTs immediately give you an example of a verbal attack as if it were the only alternative to honesty. Greentea, how do you reconcile this statement with "I think you should post a thread with this text, it's invaluable NT feedback", which y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 3:31 pm
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Replies: 118
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| I have nothing more to add at this time. I was sure of that :) I was tired. It was late afternoon and I'd just come in from running errands in the heat, dashing around town with the baby carriage, as my wife was at an all-day seminar. I had to rest for a short time before going out and teaching. I ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hullo |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 3:03 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Richie, thanks for the nice welcome. Leila, thanks for that info on the research on the eye thing. It makes a whole lot of sense. This evening I was talking with a student of mine whose cousin is autistic and doesn't look people in the eyes, and I told her about that. She thought it was really inter... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 8:45 am
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Replies: 118
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Greentea wrote: I challenge you to give an example of honesty without attack and prove that still, lying would've been better.
I think that Kajjie and Sophist have provided very good examples of this. I have nothing more to add at this time. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Bluntness and honesty vs. politeness and white lies |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2009, 2:25 am
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Replies: 118
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| Greetings, all. I'm the NT who wrote the comment to Greentea & I thought I'd respond to a few things. Xanovaria, all I know about Asia is what I've heard, especially from the hundred or so students I've had from there; I don't really know how saving face works there, but it's a term that's been ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hullo |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2009, 10:00 am
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Replies: 15
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| Three cheers for weirdos! It sounds like you're doing great work. Can I ask you a serious question? You say you finally learned to look into people's eyes without discomfort. Another person who posts here, LabPet, made a video offsite in which she said she couldn't look into people's eyes except for... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hullo |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2009, 3:06 pm
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Replies: 15
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| What were you doing in Rwanda? |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hullo |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2009, 3:05 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Ah, I've just graduated to butterfly! |
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