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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: My Husband just Diagnosed with Asperger's |
| the_wife |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 10:08 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,873
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| How was he before being promoted to management? It probably depends a lot on the company as far as their reaction to his diagnosis. My husband was diagnosed about 5 years ago and his counselor offered to disclose to his employer, but my husband didn't want that, however, he's had no problems or thre... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the women, trying to understand something. |
| the_wife |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 9:25 am
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Replies: 89
Views: 9,253
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| And where are these girls who find the vulnerable AS quality attractive? Most seriously dating, relatively mature young women would. Because they're dating to find someone for THEMSELVES, not dating to find someone who their vapid girlfriends will think is "acceptable". So, maybe you should be spen... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the women, trying to understand something. |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2009, 8:05 pm
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Replies: 89
Views: 9,253
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| And just you all wait til after the new movie, "Adam" comes out. Its premise is a love story between a young NT woman and an aspie. A lot of people may learn about adult HFA in a favorable light. That could be good for everyone's love lives, eh? I sure hope so. :wtg: Oooh! Hadn't heard of this movi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the women, trying to understand something. |
| the_wife |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2009, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 89
Views: 9,253
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laura123 wrote: KenM wrote: I don't stay away, I'm fascinated by aspies  . I've got one at home  and I love him very much exactlly the way he is. But that's just me.
Oh yeah. I've happily got one at home too!  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the women, trying to understand something. |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2009, 4:50 pm
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Replies: 89
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| I get the vibe before I get to talk to them. It's not always very strong, sometimes it difficult to identify what exactlly is diferent but I get the feeling that something IS different. So when you get that vibe, do you automacally stay away from them? You are not giving them a fair chance if you a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the women, trying to understand something. |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2009, 2:15 pm
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Replies: 89
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| I can never totally cut loose in a social situation. Every time I do, I make odd jokes, rant, say socially unacceptable things, & so on. I have to remain guarded all the time. Women have a strong sense for anything seeming out of place, & my filtered, overthought conversation technique is n... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Furious with girlfriend - or am I being stupid? |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2009, 9:44 am
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Replies: 71
Views: 7,712
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| My husband thinks the same. But I can't see what the problem is :scratch: . It would be ok to be upset if there was a time limit I missed or if the outcome was influenced in any way, but it made no difference. I tend to agree with your husband and Spokane Girl. It DOES make a difference. It makes a... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: cheated or been cheated on? |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2009, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 7,016
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| To cheat is not an aspie thing or an NT thing it is a human thing. I feel annoyed at the OP saying AS people are more likely to cheat... grr. Anyone can cheat. I think I figured out that "OP" means original poster?? Yikes, that's me. I never said that AS people are more likely to cheat. In fact, I ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need Help with a girl at my gym |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2009, 4:11 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,427
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| Okay, just my 2 cents here: I would be uncomfortable with the two-bottles-of-water thing - nothing against Vanilla Slice, because he's genuinely trying to help here, just my opinion, remember? Yes, it would be sweet if you got some water and also got some for her, but I think you should say somethin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Furious with girlfriend - or am I being stupid? |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2009, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 71
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| I'm just wondering why you assumed the "something" she wanted to talk to you about was something bad? Had you and she been having rough times leading up to this Starbucks thing? Are you expecting bad news about a loved one? I'm almost inclined to think that it may have been something positive, just ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need Help with a girl at my gym |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2009, 2:02 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,427
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bdubs wrote: One more thing how do you think I could bring up finding out her age? Or should I wait till later to ask her that?
Wait until later. Also, I assume you've checked her left hand for a wedding/engagement ring? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I still don't get it.... |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2009, 1:57 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,636
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| Sounds like a game they're playing. They are just saying that and they don't mean it. I wouldn't count on them to call. I'm kind of agreeing with Spokane_Girl here. Maybe he's just telling you what you want to hear, but clearly his actions don't match up. In general, Aspies like the other to do mos... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Serious advice needed |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2009, 2:36 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 4,084
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| I'm sorry this happened, but you shouldn't be so down on yourself about it. I agree with many of the others that you didn't do anything wrong. Yes, she was grieving about her cat and was upset, but I don't think your actions are enough to make her pack up and leave. As for the coffee situation, she ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: problems with his family |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2009, 9:22 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,990
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| Some of the women in my husband's family are master manipulators. When my husband gets around those women, whom he loves and wants to please, his negative traits are much, much worse. It is like he's paralyzed. They try to tell him what to think and do in whatever direct or indirect way would be mo... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 7:33 pm
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Replies: 645
Views: 220,435
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| I find sharing my wife difficult still..I think it will always be the case...I also struggle with kids moving around me,... Uhm... I assume you meant to say sharing "with" my wife? Or not.. Anyways, my (AS) husband and I have been married for 19 years, together for 21. We have 3 kids. Yes, kids can... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Advice please |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 7:19 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,540
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| Most of the responses say NO! which is not what I wanted to hear but what I know to be the Right Thing to do. I'd bet that you already knew this. Thing is, a lot of people - AS, NT, whatever (someone said it's irrelevant here, which I guess it is except this is a site dealing with AS...) have been ... |
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