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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 13 Jul 2009, 2:47 am
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| Uhm... I assume you meant to say sharing "with" my wife? Or not.. Anyways, my (AS) husband and I have been married for 19 years, together for 21. We have 3 kids. Yes, kids can be "work", and I know that sometimes it's just too much for my husband to handle. He's often said or requested, more or les... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Post a video of yourself!! !! ! !! ! ! !! |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 9:52 am
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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYtpH4JPmVs[/youtube]
Me banging on about 'greetings' ...oh I have tourettes as well, I hope you don't mind swearing.. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Empathy: is it a two way street? |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 7:26 am
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Replies: 48
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| I cannot empathise, I can go through the expected motions, you know, administer concerned look here, hug there but it all seems like nonsense to me..I only tend to genuinely 'feel' something for another person if they are truly devestated, crying near me does nothing unless it there's a possibility ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: a wise person once gave me this advice... |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 7:05 am
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Replies: 15
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Core wrote:
The 'past' argument is like this for me, the Guilty say "Forget the past", the Forgiven say "Cherish the past", i say "It's data, use it wisely".
Cor'e =)
Thats great... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2009, 3:47 am
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Replies: 31
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| My husband is quite clear to me and to others that he does have the same view of marriage and that he's prepared to do what it takes to make it last. That's been hard for me to reconcile with his actions when he doesn't do what it takes, but continues assuring me that he wants to and is doing what ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2009, 1:07 pm
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| FiveEggsIn , my Mother was a staunch Irish Catholic and my Father had no religious bias..Their marriage broke up when I was 4, I know now that it was my Father AS that made marriage unbearable for him, i have been through the exact same trials he went through, but his lack of personal faith and my M... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2009, 1:47 pm
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| FiveeEggsIn, Good Lord it seems that you and your husbands approach to marriage is almost identical to ours, I thought that we were completely alone ...I cannot tell you how much it means to me to know that someone else is trying there hardest even though the autism is such a major mountain to climb... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How can I help my AS husband to understand me & act on i |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2009, 11:26 am
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| My husband usually stays in a constant state of neutrality and movement out of that zone is usually only toward the frustration or anger end and not toward the happy and pleased end. He doesn't get angry very often, but he does stay in a slightly-below-neutrality state for long periods of time when... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2009, 3:09 am
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| Hello No_Exit , I find sharing my wife difficult still..I think it will always be the case...I also struggle with kids moving around me, I hate movement and sound if its random, as far as their personalities are concerned, I think they are great, I have a good laugh with them. As the bulk of my memo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What stresses you out the most about your autism? |
| themainmeal |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2009, 4:34 am
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Replies: 56
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| Being stuck in the present moment and not being unable to draw on memories to confirm wether a situation is pleasurable or stress inducing ( with the exception of extreme past events that cross over into a senory experience , I can draw on those ). Adhering to a routine even if it is detrimental to ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The Married Aspie Cafe Thread (discussion of marriage, etc.) |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2009, 3:27 am
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Replies: 645
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| Hello , I have been married for 8 years, and we have been together for 13..We have 3 children, A boy 7 ( ASD ) , Eldest Girl 9 ( semantic pragmatic language disorder), and little girl 4 ( Driven by some internal force, time will tell )..I have severe Tourettes and Aspergers, my wife has ADD/ADHD...i... |
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