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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:58 pm
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| One thing to consider, if his grades are good and he scores high enough, do the ACT now, and if he scores high enough, check into taking one online college course from a regionally accredited college (like UMUC online), and have him take "Study Hall" or something like that in high school so he's no... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:48 pm
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| First things first, welcome to the forums! I hope you'll find them very helpful. From what you said, I don't think college would be the right choice at all, for him or for you. It is very clear that you want nothing but the best for him, but right now putting him in college would just be uprooting ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:44 pm
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| My 17 year old NT brother doesnt seem too motivated about after graduation, nor does he have plans yet for what he wants to do.He works as a stock clerk at a grocery store in Vegreville, but other than that, he has no idea what he wants, nor does he do much.He spends his pay cheques on things like ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:43 pm
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| Hey, I am a 19 year old college student with Aspergers. I see your son is having some of the same concerns I had at his age and now, as our ages are not to far apart. I was homeschooled for almost all of my academic career and had too had few friends, and almost no one to hang out with and my level... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:27 pm
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| I'd like to add: In the end, it's important that your son is able to look after himself if something happens to you and you're not there to support him, and if he is incapable of it [due to the severity of his disorder], things need to be put in place for him. Him doing "normal" things is quite far... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2009, 12:20 pm
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| [quote="Batz"]I'm a teenager going to college next month for the first time and the only aspie in my family, so I can probably only give you limited advice, mostly based off my experience, but oh well, advice is advice, right? Counseling, as others said, can help with the situation since i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2009, 7:44 pm
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| Hi there, I have a 12 year old son. A lot of what I read in the original post again made me fear a lot of the things we'll face as our son grows older. Not too long ago, I searched independent living skills online. As a likely candidate for Aspergers myself, I wanted a clear idea of what independen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2009, 7:40 pm
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Danielismyname wrote: Let him do his own thing, as that's all he's going to do when everything is said and done.
Thank you Daniel for your reply
I know my son would agree with you totally...  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2009, 7:39 pm
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| I wouldn't worry so much about friends or dating for him right now. Those are things that will happen when he's good and ready. But I do have concerns over the "Oh, he's naturally immature due to AS, so it's okay if he doesn't do anything with his life for a few years". If you give him those "few y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2009, 7:37 pm
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| I am an Aspie but my son is not so my advise would be from my own personal experiences. Try to find a common aspect or component in his interests of video games, videography, technology, digital animation and working with animals. Once you find what this is then it would be very easy to motivate hi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2009, 7:35 pm
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| I have that problem. I will "zone out" doing any task that is not mentally stimulating enough--and will "zone out" if a task is overwhelming. When I drive, I listen to a book on tape while I do it. It helps me stay focused by--oddly enough--distracting me from the sameness of the road! Thanx for yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 8:51 pm
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| My husband does most of the driving even though I have my license and *can* drive. I prefer not to because I do tend to zone off a lot. I get disoriented easily and have a hard time with things like distance between cars and navigating around a construction zone for instance. Driving makes me extre... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 8:47 pm
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| I was like him. I only did things for my mum; pursued a career in IT for my mum, went to TAFE for my mum, went job searching for my mum. With me it never registered in my brain that people work to support themselves and it's something that everyone does. I know that they do now unfortunately I'm on... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 7:47 pm
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| Hi Mary, I hope you won't mind my replying even though I'm not the demographic you were looking for. I'm a 40yo parent of an 8yo aspie and I'm replying mainly because I can see myself and my mother in your post. I can't tell you that everything will be perfect because everyone is different but I ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 7:37 pm
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| personally i was sort like, still sorta am. i have no drive because the aspie condition means being anti-social. most aspects of life are social. as for me the constant stress, depression,low-self-esteem, lack of confidence that accompanies this condition overshadowed my views of life. it's like li... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: mom of a 17 yr old Aspie boy |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2009, 7:25 pm
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| Without going into details, I think the first thing is to realize that AS kids can take quite a bit longer to "grow up" than "normal" kids. Which means that all the milestones like seeking independence are on a different time schedule. That does not mean he never will, just that he isn't ready at 1... |
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