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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: NT's can't comprehend the value of solitude |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2010, 5:09 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 5,951
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| I realised years ago that this equates to nothing but mental masturbation, indulging in ideas and interests which bring pleasure but no practical use. And like the more worthwhile opposite of masturbation, SEX, interests which involve other people are almost always more practically useful and benef... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you feel pain? |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2010, 8:50 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,142
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| Hey Scotty, I'm not entirely getting your question, but from what I think you're getting at, you want to know if anyone has a strange relationship to pain. For me, my high threshold is notorious. When I was five years old I grabbed a cereal box off a high shelf and knocked a stack of glass ashtrays ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you plan out conversations in your head? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2010, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 14,313
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| Most of you said you did this but I didn't see anyone say that it bothers them. I do this and it drives me insane! Whenever I do it I just want to yell at myself to stop thinking so much about something that is unlikely to ever happen (I tend to plan out conversations that will never even come clos... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Selfish Thoughts |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2010, 7:19 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 928
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| Just because you're thinking of yourself, it doesn't make you selfish. You actually seem to think a lot about the people who matter to you the most. I must beg your pardon for answering a question with a question, but experience has taught me time and time again that self-revelations are the best fo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone here attained a satisfactory, sustainable social |
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Posted: 09 Jul 2010, 1:50 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,370
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| First post. Long time lurker. Undiagnosed Aspie. Your post plucked my raw nerve. The feeling of despondency evident in your post mirrors the constant anguish that I suffer now. At times, I was completely one with myself; there was no need for any company. However, when my interests in things starte... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone here attained a satisfactory, sustainable social |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2010, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,370
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| I'll only bump this once....but I need to hear from people now more than ever. I'm absolutely alone in frigid hell and the silence of everything is icing me over. Please, if anyone knows anything about this... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone here attained a satisfactory, sustainable social |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2010, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,370
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| The obsessional aspect is important - I have to spend hours thinking aboiut my friends and the possible meanings in what they've said, and sometimes it gets too complicated and I think I'm going to blow it all by not picking up on what people want of me. My more nerdy special interests have gone on... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone here attained a satisfactory, sustainable social |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2010, 10:15 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,370
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| From the perspective of a 28-year old American with unequivocal but undiagnosed AS, I'm very interested in hearing if anyone here has attained this equilibrium type of social life. One that's both satisfactory and sustainable, given the limits that scarcely need mentioning. I only ask because I fee... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and Fatigue |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2010, 5:39 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 11,573
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| I'm wondering if there is some association between Aspergers and being fatigued. I work with a religious body that recently had their national convention here in town. This meant a week away from my normal routine and in front of a lot of people. I ended the days feeling very tired, moreso than oth... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Am I smiling for too long?" |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2010, 9:15 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,015
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| I feel your dilemma deeply. Left to your own devices, you'd probably be emotively catatonic in these situations, but to ease the awkward moments and avoid being called a sociopath, it seems better to be an animated weirdo. I've certainly been there. But it leads to questions like this one - how long... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: staying awake on long drives on road. BIG PROBLEM |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2009, 8:41 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,683
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| If you're anything like me, you're just drained from daily life, and falling asleep behind the wheel when you're fatigued can be precipitously easy. Blasting the air conditioning, playing loud music, singing along with said loud music - it succeeds at keeping you from totally dozing off, but from my... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you like competition? |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2009, 8:33 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 5,305
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I don't mind competition per se. It's intense, gives you a rush. At its best it yields unparalleled knowledge of self.
But I guess I see it in pure pragmatics. Can't get into the chest thumping, whooping, in-your-face victory dance mode that seems to come out of it. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does solitude eventually become loneliness? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2009, 5:50 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 4,734
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| Here I am on a Saturday night, isolated as usual. I'm beginning to wonder when the time if ever will come when I will not be able to tolerate such isolation. Everything said here probably hits close to home for all of us. But I don't think Blue's original question has been addressed: Does solitude ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Living abroad |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2009, 5:18 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,621
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| Aerofool, I feel like my life experience is similar enough to be relevant, but different to the point where not all of it may applicable to your situation. But I hope by sharing what I did experience when living abroad with AS, it might help you take a better look at the stakes of your own pursuits... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone get fatigued by relationships? |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2009, 7:20 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 3,406
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| Really, the more I read the less alone/unique I feel. I hate to kick a dead horse/post, but I have a few other questions I'd like to put to people here. Basically, more than anything else I'd like to get a sense of the dividing line where on one side there's the AS stuff I have little if any power t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone get fatigued by relationships? |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2009, 1:39 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 3,406
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| Really…it is such a relief to read these postings. I know it’s the nature of things for our kind to be socially fatigued, but I’ve heard so many people post about their successful relationships, I thought relationship fatigue might be unique to me, or in any case the relationship I’m in. It’s mai... |
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