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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Clumsy |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2009, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,479
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| I appear to have grown out of it, because I've learned to move with much greater care and precision than everyone else. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Where do we go wrong? |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2009, 4:18 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,826
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| In my case, or my experience, it's failing to get past the content. I've observed that if someone unpopular says something corny and false, it's corny and false, but if someone popular says it, it's original and funny or wise. While I'm trying to work out whether someone likes me enough for me to ge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Addictions |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2009, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,988
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| Only cold turkey has ever worked for me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you define "friend"? |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2009, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,603
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| We must be the only people in the world who have to work out what a friend is. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Kinds of friend |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2009, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,353
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| I never know who my friends are. From time to time, someone I know will mention that we're friends, and it usually surprises me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone hope to have an aspie child? |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2009, 4:11 pm
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Replies: 63
Views: 4,552
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| God, no. I wouldn't inflict this on anyone. good lord how you remind me of most black children during the turn of the century with that mindset. they'd be shown two dolls: a white one, and a black one, and they'd ask which they preferred. They all went for the white one, as the black one was consid... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone hope to have an aspie child? |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2009, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 63
Views: 4,552
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| God, no. I wouldn't inflict this on anyone. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do NTs feel empathy/sympathy? |
| dadsgotas |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2009, 3:39 pm
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Replies: 82
Views: 5,999
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| In this example, the NT person would look to the other person for cues on how much sympathy they want. Some people don't want any expression of understanding, while others want lots of it no matter who died. We would be able to ramp it up or tone it down based on how that person reacted to our reac... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do NTs feel empathy/sympathy? |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2009, 3:04 pm
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Replies: 82
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| I think Stinkypuppy's been writing some very astute and perceptive stuff in this thread. It's clear from observation that empathic behaviour by normal people is often dishonest: they'll sympathise with someone until they go away, then reveal that they were faking it. They empathise less with people ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Guilt from interaction |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2009, 12:56 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,254
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| I've become that way. I was arrogant and domineering as a teenager. Over time, I made serious mistakes, and learned that I don't know any better than anyone else, and certainly shouldn't give advice. Oddly, I'm sometimes considered wise or mature or something simply because I often don't comment. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dancing |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2009, 12:46 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,612
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| I never dance, but also, people look like idiots when they dance. Why does nobody see it? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Possessiveness |
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Posted: 17 Sep 2009, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,469
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| Having a family, I've learned to conceal my distress. Things I can't replace - because people who use or borrow generally abuse and ruin - I keep out of the way. At work, years ago, I had drinks stolen - I don't drink the tea and coffee everyone else does, but when my cold drinks are around, the tea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Failure and Bottled Up Rage |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2009, 2:49 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,085
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| A failure. Comparison with my peers makes it worse, because my potential seems greater than theirs, but here I am stuck at their level. Worse again, they seem content, while I'm not. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are these signs of an Aspie? It's kinda long |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2009, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,786
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ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo wrote: There's also active phases of AS and phases that seem inactive, where the individual isn't as bothered by it so much.
Is this true? I haven't noticed this information anywhere, and I don't think it's true of myself. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you learn best? |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2009, 2:20 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,232
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| Very strongly biased toward reading, then if appropriate looking to see what that means in practice. In training situations I get told off for reading the handout while the trainer's talking. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I mention my Asperger's in an interview? |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2009, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,434
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| If it's only work experience, it might not matter much either way. With longer-term work, there might prove to be unforeseen circumstances in which it might have been useful to have AS known by an employer. For instance, years ago I had a personality clash with a superior who refused, in writing, to... |
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