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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Understanding the big picture |
| spectrummom |
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Posted: 07 Oct 2014, 8:13 am
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Replies: 19
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| Hi, So, last night my kids were at it again, bickering, teasing, etc. Things escalated and the middle one (NT, age 6) hit the big one (AS, age 10) two times with her hand. Not ok. But then the big one hit the middle one with a PVC pipe, about the length of a baseball bat. Really not ok. Luckily no l... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: He hates the word women |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2014, 8:33 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,659
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| Very interesting that some of you have the same reaction to that word! I suspected it might be more of a sensory thing but now I understand why. He's had ongoing bowel issues for a long time so I think he was grasping for an explanation for something he may not understand. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: He hates the word women |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2014, 8:03 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Hi, This has been going on for a few months and I just don't know what to do. My 10 year old son hates the word "women." He told me once it's because he was given a Luna bar once at camp and had trouble with his bowels shortly thereafter. Luna bars, as you know, are marketed toward women, therefore ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Compulsively imitates his sister |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2014, 6:19 pm
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Replies: 1
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| Hi, My son is almost 11, in 5th grade and generally doing well. Lately he's been imitating his sister and as annoying as that is, it seems like it's compulsive. That is, it happens very very often, he doesn't seem to be trying to annoy her, and he can't seem to stop. Bless her heart, my daughter tak... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Shoes |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2014, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,650
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| Weird question, but my 10 year old drags his feet and badly overpronates due to his hypotonia. As a result he wears through shoes very, very quickly. Has anyone found any shoes they can recommend? |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: What happened there ? (Toilet training question). |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2014, 7:07 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 24,997
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| Hi, Just wanted to offer my encouragement and support. ASD kids are notoriously difficult to toilet train. Mine was almost 5 before the idea clicked, but around 8 before he felt comfortable going independently. At 10, he still wears a pull- up at night and is never dry in the morning. He also strugg... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do YOU deal with parenting stress and anxiety? |
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Posted: 05 May 2014, 7:38 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,827
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| Hi, I hear you loud and clear. I'm a stay at home mom with three kids, ages 2, 5 and 10 and the oldest has AS so I have plenty of parenting related stress. Here are the things that help me: 1. Daily structure. 2. Getting out every day if at all possible. 3. Alone time when possible. 4. Exercise. 5. ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: What do you think of us? |
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Posted: 01 May 2014, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 855
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| I agree with DW. If I know or suspect a person has AS I tend to give them more leeway than the average person. There is something very pure about the way many of them see the world. I also feel sad knowing that most likely they've had a very hard time with other people, and sometimes with me, becaus... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: toileting issues at 10 years old |
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Posted: 01 May 2014, 8:48 pm
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Replies: 5
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| Hi, Just wanted to say that I also have an AS son with similar issues. We've been working on it for a long time. Wipes and mirror help a lot. Also, we installed a simple handheld bidet on his toilet which we hoped would help but he doesn't use. We prompt him to take showers and wash his hands a lot,... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Asperger's Parents and What That Means For Us... |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2014, 7:02 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,230
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| Hi, I didn't read through all the replies, so please forgive if someone has already said this. Everything you've said about your dad is consistent with what I know about autism/Asperger's. But that does not mean that Asperger's parents are necessarily cold or distant. The way you've described him, i... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: So-called support groups and the jerk parents in them |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2014, 7:29 pm
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Replies: 39
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| First of all, I'm so sorry you had a bad experience with that support group. Sounds like you've tried a few. Maybe support groups aren't your thing? I've been to a support group for an unrelated issue and I felt very awkward. Just wasn't for me. I agree that the support groups for parents of higher ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: New Here - Late diagnosis and Extended family acceptance |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2014, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Hi, It's so hard when people you love seem to be so obtuse about something so important. My in laws did not accept my son's diagnosis for a long time. I'm still not sure they have, but after 7 years they have finally moved from blatantly arguing with us to silence. You could try offering resources, ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: toilet training: what worked for your little one? |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2014, 8:46 pm
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Replies: 63
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| I admit I haven't read all the responses but believe me, OP, I feel your pain. We tried everything -- and I mean everything -- to get my son potty trained. It never worked until he just decided, and that didn't happen until he was tall enough to stand up at the toilet. It helped when we laid off the... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: NT wife wanting to learn aspergese.... |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2014, 6:58 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Hi, great advice so far. I find the most useful thing is remembering to be clear and direct, no sugar coating. Also remembering that that is how he speaks to me, no sugar coating LOL. One thing that helps is if he's upset/sad/angry instead of saying "why are you upset/sad/angry?" I'll ask "what's ma... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I am writing a book for spectrum kids |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2014, 8:07 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 3,253
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That sounds really cool. Good luck.
I suggest something about feelings. Specifically, helping them understand other people's feelings/empathy. I know, that's challenging for all kids.
Also, something about cause and effect. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: A chlid of as asperger mum |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2013, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 988
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| I suspect, though can't confirm, that my mom and sister are either on the spectrum or very close to it. Still not sure if they'd meet clinical criteria, but both exhibit many AS characteristics. Mom was always attentive and loving, affectionate even. She does have sensory sensitivities and hates whe... |
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