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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'm so tired of people telling me I have no empathy... |
| brownleefamily |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2010, 4:00 pm
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| It is rather comical that someone would say you’re a soulless bastard because you lack empathy. I mean by them saying that, doesn't that mean they do too? ^ No, it means they lack SYM pathy (although in connection with the concept of 'soulless' meaning 'unfeeling', the irony stands). No one ever sa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'm so tired of people telling me I have no empathy... |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2010, 12:36 pm
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| It is rather comical that someone would say you’re a soulless bastard because you lack empathy. I mean by them saying that, doesn't that mean they do too? Either way, $crew em. People often say I lack empathy because I say how I truly feel. To me this is being empathetic, because I would want them t... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Frustrated with the wife, don't know what to do. |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2010, 8:22 am
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| Sounds to me like she is very close to her family and setting the stage that your diagnosis is something that she just found out about, and not a secret she has been keeping from the family. I would be more concerned about the deleteing files and messages. Thats just plain rude (even if she is Frenc... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Need an answer please |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2010, 7:49 am
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| I smoked for about 18 years (started at 14) then quit for about a year and a half. Then started up again on cigars. I definitely agree on identifying your triggers for smoking. I didn’t immediately quit smoking, I first eliminated sugars and caffeine from my diet (cokes, coffee, pastries) these were... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I hate the midwest!! !! |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2010, 11:12 am
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Replies: 50
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I hate arguments! |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2010, 11:09 am
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Replies: 43
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IMO, no one ever "wins" an argument, so I avoid them. I do however like to very sarcastically and slowly tell the other person "yeah, you’re right".
This seems to drive them crazy. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 15 minute Autism diagnosis? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2010, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 10
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How can i seem normal? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2010, 10:50 am
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| One thing I have learned to do when that awkward silence hits is to ask a question about them. To me it has always seemed truly odd how much personal information people will give out and how long they will speak about themselves. I now always try to go into a situation with a set of questions in my ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Broke My Cell Phone |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 11:34 am
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Replies: 11
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| Is it just the physical contact you really want, or the spiritual closeness of the other person you are looking for? IMO if you figure out the difference you may be closer to your goal. Also, remember the unobtainable is always the most desired. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: social skills training? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2010, 9:12 am
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| There is Dale Carnegie course, which is really good for social skill training =) Very good point, for some reason in my early 20s I got really obsessed with sales training, even though the idea of a sales job didn't appeal to me. It wasn't until much later that I realized I was subconsciously teach... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What is it good for? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2010, 12:42 pm
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Replies: 17
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being Taken Davantage of? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2010, 8:08 am
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Replies: 14
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To a degree, doesn't that describe all friendships?
I think the majority of people are users and don't have a clue about it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Need help. |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2010, 7:52 am
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Replies: 6
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Laz wrote: Quote: Are they french too? That might be the real problem (joke)
Good one. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being unable to feel lonely? |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2010, 11:03 am
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I don't know about all Aspies but I often get depressed about how my lack of a social life has hurt me financially, in both my job and personally from not having someone to heed advice from.
As far as the isolation, I find myself craving it more than anything else. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Blown Opportunities |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2010, 9:41 am
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Replies: 18
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| I can relate, before I was married I remember situations where I probably missed several opportunities where I assumed the other person was just making conversation only later to realize that they were probably trying to talk to me (as in get to know me). |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Breakdown. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2010, 9:16 am
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Replies: 18
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| You're not crazy or disturbed, you're just a 26yo frustrated virgin that is doing exactly what anyone else in your situation would do. You're trying to fulfill a need that we as males are unfortunately hard-wired to do. One way or another you will shed the V label. Then and only then will you see ho... |
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