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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2010, 2:50 pm
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| If you provide him with a reward (again be consistent and structured "if you do this then you will get this) you may also see some better behaviour. If you want to be an autocrat, then what you want is respect and a reputation. This is terribly complicated between children and adults. A child with ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2010, 2:20 pm
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| I really hope you will keep those toys in the trash and not ever take them out and give them back to the child. Then they will know they will just get them back and you are just bluffing. Kids are smart. This is very true and I think is very overlooked. I myself am just beginning to understand how ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2010, 12:34 pm
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| Here is the link to KEYPREAL's thread in the general forum: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt116682.html That was a good idea, the thread, KEYPREAL. Thanks for the remark and doing the tecnical stuff for me! I've come to realize that it's a very controversial subject for AS individuals and family. A... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2010, 11:20 am
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| I think the things that really got to me in reading Keypearl's summary of the psychiatrist's advice on the parenting board were (1) to give the direction only once, never repeat, and (2) the assumption that the child's choices are likely to be driven by what is easy and gains them social admiration... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 3:11 pm
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| Something can be mandatory and explained. You can lay down a rule that must be obeyed -such as "don't hit people" and accept no counter arguments but also explain the social logic behind this order. Mandatory orders ("don't hit") and explanations are not mutually exclusive. Of course! The dialog is... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 11:58 am
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| Yes, he is 5yo. The logic has to be aspie logic, not NT logic. Explanations have to be very clear, crystal clear, verbal, with nothing between the lines. My understanding is that AS individuals have good logic but miss on some of the basic notions, not because they don't understand them but because ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Little interest in play |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 11:38 am
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| My 5yo son was the same but is improving. I can't say that it'll work for others and it is very time consuming but what I do is repeatedly play with him in ways that can help him socialize trough play (not logical games). Mostly he'll play by repetition but he's starting to improve a little his impr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 10:43 am
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| well, i can not speak for other Aspies, but for me to "allow" something into my routine i had to know it on a rational level first. If my parents just tried to "add" something to my routine i would chuck a hissy fit and refuse to comply. So, i suppose considering that... a bit of both maybe? I woul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 9:51 am
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| I do not intend that you make up the child's mind choosing his preferences and friends and so on. Just on social behavior and general awareness. You can get an AS to understand the logic of a situation but it will allways be debatable for him. For it to be intrinsic to him comes through routine more... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did discipline influence your personality? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 7:37 am
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| I was posting on the Parent's Discussion (http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp2566698.html#2566698) about raising an AS child with strict rules and mandatory compliance. Not shouting or spanking. Just a strict, coherent obey or consequence, and no need to do explaining because I'm the adult and he's a c... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2010, 6:29 am
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| Here's the thing. Certainly, don't assume he's stupid. But if you spend time reading the adults here you will quickly discover that in their memory most of the time they really, really did not "get" it. They grew up frustrated and depressed, with no idea why. It is really heartbreaking. Honestly, I... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Getting teenager INTERESTED in something |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2010, 11:10 am
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| This is just a personal opinion: I think the problems that happen for AS individuals when choosing their interests are mainly 2: perfectionism and little social interaction. When they find something they like they either feel instantly competent and learn very quickly so they get fixated or they hav... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2010, 6:10 am
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| [/quote]I realize every child is different, but the AS children I've read here are rarely into power plays, unless they feel its been forced upon them. They act on logic.[quote] I understand the shock. First I would like to say that the psychiatrist is very well reputed and second that I don't know ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2010, 11:57 am
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| On monday my just turned 5yo son was seen by an experienced child psychiatrist for 1st time. He's been having behavior therapy since 3 years old with suspected ADD and possible AS. It was a preliminary examination (lasted 90 minutes) with no dx for now and the physician incited some family interacti... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you disipline a child who has Asperger's? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2010, 7:11 am
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| My 5y son has these fits and goes into an uncontrolable state where he screams and kicks things around and will refuse any disciplanary action like staying in his room to cool off or apologising. It will happen if for instance I end his computer game when he refuses to. He'll scream for several minu... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Is God an atheist? |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2009, 7:46 am
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| Well he's for sure got a Sadistic Personality Disorder and is probably Asperger's undiagnosed because he worked on his cosmic project for 6 days and now is procrastinating for ever! Maybe he was disapointed with the result and turned to something else. Maybe he got a life: Since there is no female G... |
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