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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on ASD and boundaries |
| Carl_LaFong |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2013, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I consider this extreme introversion kind of a good thing because since I don't talk I never run the risk of unintentionally offending someone :) That's good presence of mind. You're staying within yourself and your limitations. I was an extreme introvert who never wanted be that way and couldn't j... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on ASD and boundaries |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2013, 10:36 am
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Replies: 6
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| I'm wondering if what I went through is a typical Aspie trait: having no mental/social filter that tells me what is appropriate to say. Some other ways to word it: having a porous filter or boundary. Or a vague, nebulous boundary. Comparing my situation to a hypothetical average "healthy" NT, I can ... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Looking for analogy for borderline mental disorder |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2013, 10:20 am
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Replies: 9
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| I'm reading a book titled Crazy (subtitle: A father's search through America's mental health madness) by Pete Earley. Here's a quote: "Someone who is hallucinating and yelling on a street corner is going to get everyone's attention," the social worker explained. "But there are mentally ill people wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on self-sabotage |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2013, 9:36 am
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Replies: 8
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| I consider it civil war against my ID ... and to a lesser extent, my Superego. What they want is different to what I want. They try to get what they want... and if I don't want it, then I generally try to inhibit their ability to do so. A great metaphor. Internal civil war. If all the competing dri... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on self-sabotage |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2013, 12:30 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I've read that Borderline Personality Disorders will self sabotage when they have been making progress, as they have a fear of losing that support that's currently there once they do better. However it's likely other diagnosis may do it to different degrees. That makes sense. As soon as they start ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on self-sabotage |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2013, 2:22 pm
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| self-fulfilling prophecies are all ego based. It comes from the illusions your mind creates for you and the identity your mind creates for yourself. You allow yourself to believe you are not capable of something and the self-defeating behaviour begins. I think that's accurate, except in my case it ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on self-sabotage |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2013, 3:11 pm
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| Another idea. When bringing up the topic of self-sabotage with a friend, he came up with a more basic explanation which probably makes sense in a lot of cases: emotional immaturity combined with frustrated attempts at trying to reach a goal. Maybe one of those factors would have to be more at the ex... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your thoughts on self-sabotage |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2013, 1:14 pm
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Replies: 8
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| (Wasn't sure which forum this topic should go in). If you have, or if you know someone who has self-defeating behaviours, what are your thoughts as to the possible causes? One self help book I read a while back had an explanation that I thought was interesting- they said self-sabotage becomes a defa... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Looking for analogy for borderline mental disorder |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2013, 2:10 pm
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Replies: 9
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| The self diagnosis is changing constantly so I can't take it too seriously. (Therapied out right now and in between therapists. I think I have a good referral for my next one). One issue there is that I'm looking back at my mental state during the teenage years and trying to piece together why I bec... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Looking for analogy for borderline mental disorder |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2013, 3:36 pm
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Replies: 9
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| As I went through public middle school and high school, looking back I can see the undiagnosed autistic / AS traits. For example, social anxiety (ok with friends, moderate to severe in large groups), monotone voice, taking things literally, fixating on subjects, social and emotional naivete, and oth... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Best meds or herbal remedies for depression?? |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2012, 9:41 pm
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Replies: 47
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| I just started reading Unstuck by James S Gordon subtitle: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey out of Depression Quick summary: in his practice the author uses anti-depressants as a last resort only. The book recomends an integrated approach including exercise, meditation, guided imagery, art, yo... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Best meds or herbal remedies for depression?? |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2012, 1:51 pm
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Replies: 47
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| I just started reading Unstuck by James S Gordon subtitle: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey out of Depression Quick summary: in his practice the author uses anti-depressants as a last resort only. The book recomends an integrated approach including exercise, meditation, guided imagery, art, yog... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Are Imaginary Friends Dangerous? |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2012, 12:55 am
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Replies: 38
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| Not sure if this will be helpful. Robert Bly's book The Sibling Society has a few pages on imaginary companions. In chapter seven he discusses the Lofty Companion. For the most part it sounds like a healthy phase for a child or teen to go through. An "agency of aspiration." The downsides are that it... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: safety net technique |
| Carl_LaFong |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2010, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Personally I see the imagery of the safety net - I don't see that as something useful because you've still fallen. The idea is to take people who are socially awkward and unsteady and help them gain confidence. But it's good criticism because you point out the downward focus of imagining a safety n... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Obsessive tendencies |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2010, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 11
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alana wrote: I have to go through all my files and recycle all the pieces of paper I can and eliminate clothes I am not wearing and things I don't need.
I wish I had that problem! It's funny how I'm organized at work but tend to let things pile up at home. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: safety net technique |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2010, 12:56 am
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Replies: 6
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| On a different thread (social no man's land) I talked about social interactions being like walking a tight rope. In the communication from point A to point B, from myself to another person, I feel like I'm walking a tight rope. I'm disoriented, anxious, nervous, like there's no ground under my feet.... |
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