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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do you worry that you might be a thread killer? |
| smart_idiot2010 |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2012, 2:00 am
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Replies: 2,308
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| I sometimes get carried away and make such a long post, people tire of reading it and simply don't reply, so it kills the "flow". Most often, though, for some reason people simply ignore me and continue the thread like my comment never posted. Much like when i get a word in edgewise in real life. Th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friend at work |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 2:47 am
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Replies: 0
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| So maybe this is just a complaint, and not really a discussion, but I thought I had made a friend at work. My coworkers have always for the most part been professional but studiously avoided personal relationships with me. This is the first place where I work closely with middle-aged settled people,... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Lack of Experience Catch-22 |
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Posted: 13 Sep 2011, 2:15 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,399
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| If they require 2 years experience, apply anyway. Let them know upfront you don't meet the experience requirements but sell them on the other factors (personal recommendations from professors or other knowledgeable people) and tell them you're willing to start out at a reduced pay rate to prove you... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Disclosure to Boss |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2011, 6:49 am
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Replies: 2
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| If anyone who knows you are an Aspie is still there and interacts with the new boss more than 2x a day, then trust me, he already knows. That's the sort of thing people will shove each other over to get to tell the new boss. If you already "came out" I would have suggested to sit down with the new b... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Getting my family to accept the reality of me and my life? |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2011, 2:10 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,137
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| Thanks so much guys; it is amazing how much a few strangers taking the time to reply to some anonymoust someone out there can help me feel better. I guess I forget that NT's aren't really mind-readers. I realize after getting it down that my attempts at making them feel better by mentioning the atte... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Getting my family to accept the reality of me and my life? |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2011, 4:33 am
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Replies: 3
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| I am long-winded and become rather attached to my writings, so I have organized my ramblings so the first two paragraphs are sufficient for the convo if you don't want to read it all; the rest as much for me as anything: I'm getting to the point in my life where I need to sit down with my family and... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating "Oopsies" |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 10:26 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Lol classic! I'll say things like that and five minutes later hit myself. Ah prom---Sr. year I didn't go. Somebody asked me if I wanted to go with some guy in the grade below. This seemed like an odd topic of conversation and I basically said why would I, I don't know him. She of course was reportin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating "Oopsies" |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 11:10 am
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Replies: 6
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| They would just always stand there looking at me so long before leaving lol. I'm so used to being awkward that instead of taking the hint I'd just be like um, ok, goodnight, thanks, bye.....um yeah, see you tomorrow and finally go in. It is a really good thing I am a girl because there's no way I'd ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I've been told that I'm unapproachable... |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 6:29 am
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Replies: 55
Views: 16,015
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| I have the same problem too. I make other people feel uncomfortable with creepy stares and a blank expression. I think you have a nice shy guy look in your pic. Kinda got the puppy-dog thing going. Easier to do in a pic or two than all the time, but still. Basically it's me that's uncomfortable, an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I've been told that I'm unapproachable... |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 5:35 am
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Replies: 55
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| In dating there is a little nonverbal cue game people play. The first move is to smile at someone you like when they look at you, which I don't do naturally. The smile OKs further interaction; no smile says sorry buddy, not interested. The default kind of blank uninterested aspie face tends scream "... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post a random truth (about yourself) |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 4:49 am
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Replies: 19,616
Views: 1,150,580
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| Every time I get deja-vu I wonder if we really are in the Matrix. |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post a random truth (about yourself) |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 4:33 am
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Replies: 19,616
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| I frequently dream I can fly. Apparently the logical part doesn't quite get turned off though, because it's always more of a labored, wobbly float right above people's heads. Like that's more believable. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do most people's eyes look "dead/empty" to anybody |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 4:15 am
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Replies: 22
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| Oddly enough when I was young I didn't look at people's eyes because they were just as kind of blank to me as if I were staring at their nose, but now I think it's the opposite. Now when I try to look into someone's eyes it's like there's too much info. there for my brain to comprehend and it starts... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating "Oopsies" |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 4:05 am
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Replies: 6
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| Share your Aspie-related dating (or poor attempts and consequent lack thereof) "oopsies." Make it funny if you can; how you lost your one true love is just depressing and should go to the haven with the puppy pics. More than once I have failed to realize I was, in fact, dating someone. The first guy... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How does Autism set you apart from everyone else? |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 3:43 am
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Replies: 25
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| As a kid I cried a lot about everything, had an insane case of perfectionism to where i got extremely upset if I didn't do something "right" on a test or something, and wore solid primary colors because i had the brights and patterns others wore. Everyone hated me and/or made fun of me. On the posit... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone else afraid of being "found out"? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2011, 10:11 pm
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Replies: 53
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| Honestly I'm glad I didn't have a label until I was older because I would used AS as an excuse for everything myself like other people do. I have tried talking with people dxd as a young child and they like to blame everything on the AS, even stuff all people have problems with. Most everyone has ha... |
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