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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: She's Cussing! Help! |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2010, 7:02 pm
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| Mama_to_Grace & DW_a_mom, thank you - excellent advice that I'm going to put to use. Willard, I absolutely loved your post, and I thank you. I have told my children before that grown-ups who swear a lot do so because they don't have big enough vocabularies, so I've set the groundwork for this co... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: She's Cussing! Help! |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 10:39 am
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| Well, again, I think it's a matter of explaining the socially acceptable and unacceptable ways of swearing. To me, this isn't a question of morals or going to hell. But if you choose to swear, you need to understand the sometimes complicated social rules of swearing. As an NT person, I understand th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: She's Cussing! Help! |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 10:05 am
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| :lol: Speaking of transferring it to something else, my daughter's dad did threaten her into good behavior one evening after she'd been calling her brother this favorite epithet of hers. The next time her brother made her mad, I heard her lower her voice and say, very slowly and deliberately, "You l... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: She's Cussing! Help! |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 9:00 am
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| I agree, it IS just a word, but I do have the responsibility of teaching her how to live in a largely NT world where that, at her age and in the circumstances she uses it, is not acceptable. This is why I feel it is very important to communicate to her how very important it is not to throw it around... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Questions for the parents |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 8:59 am
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| I am trying to learn to explain things to my daughter as if she comes from a different culture where all the rules are different. When she asks me why something is a certain way, whether it be social or just a rule, I'm starting to get into the habit of looking at it as if it's the first time I'VE q... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: dealing with family |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 8:48 am
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| I'm afraid I have no advice, but I can certainly commiserate. My daughter is the same way - on the mild end of the spectrum to the point that even her father, my ex-husband, thinks she's normal and that I'm making something out of nothing. (Although I should point out that he has brain injury, and t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child have this interest? |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 8:46 am
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| I do remember that I liked playing with Barbies up until I was about 12 yrs old (and I am NT) Oh gosh, I'd forgotten...I played with Barbies until my grandmother, whom I lived with, told me I was too old for that and to stop it. I stopped, but I didn't feel too old for it and resented being made to... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child have this interest? |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 8:36 am
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| Just a few days ago, my 7yo AS girl was watching a show for much younger children and said to me, "I don't know why I like these baby shows, I just do." I accepted that. I think it might be soothing, or maybe it lets her brain idle for a bit, I dunno. I will probably encourage her not to advertise h... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: She's Cussing! Help! |
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010, 8:28 am
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| So my cute little 7yo AS daughter has developed an ugly habit of calling her older brother a "little sh*t" when she gets mad at him. And more recently, when I put her in her room because she's out of control and needs some time to cool off, she'll yell through the door that I'M a stupid sh*t. I don'... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: What does your AS kid sleep with? |
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Posted: 21 May 2010, 3:08 pm
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| My girl sleeps with a towel under her (she occasionally wets the bed still, and although I have a mattress protector under her sheet she also finds comfort in a towel), a stuffed animal, and an extra blanket to hold onto which she calls her "sokee" or "sulky", I can't tell exactly what word that's d... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I feel I should push her towards NT, but she ENJOYS computer |
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Posted: 21 May 2010, 2:58 pm
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| Athena, I really sympathized with your post because my daughter is also a high-functioning - or mild, whichever sounds better - Aspie. In fact, my ex-husband refuses to believe she even has Aspergers. So I have a lot of "bad conscience" moments where I second guess myself and wonder, "Am I producing... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "I hate you!" |
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Posted: 20 May 2010, 2:29 pm
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| Ah - that's quite possible. I had to leave my children's father a few years ago because of involuntary abuse. I say "involuntary" because he has brain injury; had he been doing/saying what he did intentionally, it would have been abuse, but since it was due to his brain injury following an operation... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "I hate you!" |
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Posted: 19 May 2010, 3:35 pm
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| Interesting! I wonder why wording it that way made such a difference? |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "I hate you!" |
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Posted: 19 May 2010, 2:10 pm
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| Heehee - that is SO true. Every time my son gets frustrated with my daughter, she complains that he hates her. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: "I hate you!" |
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Posted: 19 May 2010, 12:02 pm
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| At one point his teacher put him on the phone with me to see if I could calm him down and he told me "I hate you!" I replied "I love you too" in a kind voice (as opposed to an ironic one, which was tempting). Then he said "No, I HATE you." I told him I heard him the first time and loved him anyway,... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: beware of markers |
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Posted: 19 May 2010, 11:18 am
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| Because my daughter seems to have such a marker/crayon/pen fetish, I clicked on this right away. Made me laugh. :) My walls are constantly being marked up. It's a constant bone of contention between us, her seeming inability to resist marking on things that shouldn't be marked on. I try to put all w... |
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