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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Thank you! |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2010, 6:30 pm
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| I joined here not long ago to find out more about the autism spectrum...and I am so glad I did. Your posts about what it's like to live in an NT world, the good and the bad parts, really made a difference in my perception. This week, I was hanging round with my friend Tara, who is fun and sweet, whe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need Advice ASAP- Sabotage? |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2010, 1:13 pm
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| She may or may not be lying, but it's a bit crass to accuse her of lying with no evidence of it! What is clear is that she has designs to be close to the man - quite probably romantically. She is interested in him. However since you two are, as far as I can see, not even exclusively dating, and your... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 5:01 pm
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| Memory is a fascinating thing, so that's a cool question, Irulan! Why are you asking, specifically? I'd have actually guessed that some people on the autism spectrum are far better at this than NTs in general. In my experience 1) As DenvrDave says, some people have good memories and some have really... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it just me or do NT teenagers talk like programmed robots |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 8:43 am
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Replies: 40
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| I do not like being anything but cognitive, it bothers me because it does not interest me. But I should stop thinking that others should not do what they like to do because I do not agree with it. That distinction. Between what you like for yourself and what you think others should do. It makes sen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it just me or do NT teenagers talk like programmed robots |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 7:46 am
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| That makes sense, Ursaminor. I like your distinction. (FWIW, I'm not sure I agree with the "robot" thing, people all seem rather different to me in groups. Like, who the alpha is, how the others act about it, who is desperately trying to seem cool, who is really cool etc. They're just behaving as th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Best Friend Was an Aspie Girl - She Hates Me Now |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 6:50 am
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HopeGrows, that's it exactly.
I'd be wary of hooking up with a man who pretends to be my friend because he's too scared or whatever to initiate a love affair. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me I have no clue what he is thinking. |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 6:43 am
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| But if a girl is to blunt about pursueing, doesn't that make her unattractive for many men? I know it's a stereotype but it is quite prevalent. I'd be scared of scaring the guy off! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it just me or do NT teenagers talk like programmed robots |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2010, 6:39 am
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| I found this link helpful in explaining why people often seem dumb in groups, but can be a lot more interesting if you give them the chance: Other People Often Aren't As Shallow As You Think They Are and this one: Fun Mode vs. Serious Mode (The whole site is very useful to learn more about successfu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Hugging |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2010, 7:29 am
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Replies: 15
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Thanks, PLA.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Best Friend Was an Aspie Girl - She Hates Me Now |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2010, 7:06 am
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| Ouch, what a mess. I'm guessing this is your first (almost) relationship? Here is my interpretation of what happened. - She has feelings for you and believes them known and reciprocated. You don't notice. This is because you are both inexperienced - both of you. Don't feel guilty because of that. - ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Hugging |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2010, 6:25 am
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| Here's another good question ......how long is too long?? If it made you uncomfortable enough to make you resentful of your boyfriend, it would be too long. Penandinkmarie, I get a sense that you're looking for a specific set of rules that says "this is how often, how long and how thoroughly you hu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Hugging |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2010, 6:34 pm
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| You could tell him to not be so demanding, seems completely unnatural. "Hug me for longer" I mean who even says that? Well I. I do. And lots of other people do that as well. If you're NT it feels like someone really cares for you if they hug you long, you feel safe and loved and everything good. An... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: DataSage’s Alpha Male Guide to Meeting Women (JULY UPDATE!!) |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2010, 7:35 am
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| This guy is a PUA-community survivor: http://www.datinggroundwork.com/seductioncommunity He explains what parts work and what parts don't. How you can use these resources without letting them take over your brain. He explains not to believe everything these brilliant sounding blokes in the community... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Okay, so I take things literally a LOT. What does this mean? |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2010, 7:26 am
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| Thoughts in the order they occurred: - when your guy tells you something, particularly something you don't want to hear, believe him. He called you his "friend". He didn't retract this statement later into being madly in love with you. That means, he doesn't love you (enough). - "I want a break" can... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2010, 11:32 am
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| I think many people and particularly women are taught that it is rude to say "no" to a polite request. Even if for reasons of their own, they don't want to help. They are taught not to be egoistic and to put the wishes of others above their own...etc Wow--never heard it put more succinctly! Explain... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't know what to do anymore |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2010, 9:15 am
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Replies: 23
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| I'm all for couples therapy, but have you talked to him about this yet? And told him you can't handle the relationship the way it is going now? I think some allowances can be made for someone who is in pain and feeling crappy. But I don't think having a disability should mean he can behave like an a... |
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