| Author |
Message |
Forum: The Haven Topic: Are some people inherently worthwhile? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 13 Dec 2016, 11:44 am
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 752
|
| At any rate, this is how I have behaved for most of my life and it has been quite a shock to me to discover that I had backed away from people who wanted to be friends because I feared they did not like me. How did you know that they wanted to be friends with you? Did they ever ask you to hang out ... |
|
 |
Forum: The Haven Topic: Are some people inherently worthwhile? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 04 Dec 2016, 4:30 pm
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 752
|
| Something that has taken me many years to start to understand is that I perceive people as not wanting to associate with me even though there is evidence many people like me. I've at least reached the point of accepting that many people seem to want my company even if I don't quite know what to do a... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Does Speeding Annoy You? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 04 Dec 2016, 4:09 pm
|
|
Replies: 13
Views: 736
|
| I tend to drive fast, but courteously. I get really frustrated at people who drive slower than the flow of traffic while in the "fast" lanes. If a person wants to drive at or below the speed limit, that's fine, but stick to the slower lanes. The problem is that insisting on driving slow in... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anybody here live alone? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 04 Dec 2016, 3:56 pm
|
|
Replies: 26
Views: 1,830
|
| I've lived alone for 20 years now. When I moved from my parent's home, I shared a house with a friend. There were good aspect to this situation and I miss having someone to talk with regularly. I often think it would be nice to live with someone because I tend to get stuck in routines and I think an... |
|
|
Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Anyone lost jobs due to automation? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 05 Nov 2016, 1:57 am
|
|
Replies: 7
Views: 1,056
|
| I was doing motion control animation work for tv shows and we were getting fewer clients because, as computers became more powerful, the clients could do similar things in the edit software. I saw the business declining and since I have a habit of worrying early and often, I started teaching myself ... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Taking Compliments |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 05 Nov 2016, 1:36 am
|
|
Replies: 7
Views: 836
|
| I am embarrassed by compliments and used to struggle with how to respond. What works for me is to say "Thank you" and leave it at that. Sometimes people push the compliment too far and, because I have a bit of a sarcastic, smart ass personality, I will occasionally respond with "Yes, ... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: how do people view u |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 05 Nov 2016, 1:28 am
|
|
Replies: 44
Views: 3,264
|
| I don't know what people think of me. I tend to think people are repulsed by me and wish I would go away, but I have too much evidence to the contrary. I have been on hiatus from work for a few weeks and when I have dropped by the office I was surprised at how many people seemed genuinely happy to s... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I "branch out" and find friends by other means? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 05 Nov 2016, 1:18 am
|
|
Replies: 5
Views: 1,040
|
| I have taken classes or joined writer's groups. What is nice about taking classes is that there is a structured environment where I mostly understand the social rules. Since the classes I take are in areas of my interest and skills (photography, writing, film making) I can feel like I have some kind... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Relationship problem |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 28 Feb 2016, 4:27 pm
|
|
Replies: 1
Views: 538
|
| You write that both of you use a lot of small talk. It seems to me that both of you may not be communicating on a deep enough level to feel like you can discuss deeper issues. Is it possible that one or both of you are avoiding potential conflicts or pain by only talking about relatively trivial top... |
|
|
Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Would you date a feminist? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 28 Feb 2016, 2:35 pm
|
|
Replies: 543
Views: 22,389
|
| I don't think I would want to date a woman who WASN'T a feminist. Feminism is about supporting women so that they have equal access to opportunities and are given the same rights as men. There is an alternative, anti-woman agenda that tries to redefine feminism as an anti-man ideology, but that is a... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Internet Dating Sites tend to work for people with AS.? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 28 Feb 2016, 12:57 pm
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 1,134
|
| I suppose it is a bit too early to say much, but i set up a profile on OkCupid. The women I sent messages to did not seem terribly interested in me. A couple of women sent messages to me. I started corresponding with one. We have gone on a few dates now and while we haven't committed to any relation... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Workplace infatuation |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 22 Oct 2015, 10:22 pm
|
|
Replies: 12
Views: 1,640
|
| I think a great deal of my frustration with this situation is that I know myself well enough to know I won't pursue anything. The temptation is great and I might indulge in a bit of light flirting, but an affair would not be ethically appropriate. (Despite what some people think, her husband would b... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Workplace infatuation |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 21 Oct 2015, 10:22 pm
|
|
Replies: 12
Views: 1,640
|
| I have become infatuated with a co-worker. She is nearly half my age, beautiful and married to another co-worker. I would just deal with it and get on with my life except she seems to be infatuated with me. She got our supervisor to move my workstation next to her's. When her husband drops her o... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Does life get better as you get older? (im 23) |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 31 Jan 2015, 2:11 am
|
|
Replies: 16
Views: 1,176
|
| Some things get better. Somethings stay the same. A few things get worse. But overall, I'd say things have gotten better for me. As other's have mentioned, if you learn from your experiences, you'll find ways to solve problems and you'll build a tool set for dealing with life's frustrations. As I ge... |
|
|
Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: What movies have you seen recently? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 20 Dec 2014, 10:42 pm
|
|
Replies: 20,695
Views: 1,291,331
|
| "The Silence of the Lambs" by Jonathan Demme Of the films I have seen that were made in my lifetime (1965 to the present) i think that "The Silence of the Lambs" has to be the best made. It may not be my favorite film, but it sure as heck is well made. Every shot communicates som... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: What is our purpous to keep on living? |
| jagatai |
|
Posted: 20 Dec 2014, 8:11 pm
|
|
Replies: 8
Views: 562
|
| Maybe I'm being excessively nit-picky here but I think you are getting stuck on the word purpose and forgetting that, as another person pointed out, it is just a word. What if you, instead, think about your "reason" for being here. Or maybe you can find a better word. My point is this... Y... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
