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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult son has no motivation |
| willaful |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2020, 7:10 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 14,019
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| I recommend a book I recently read, _Failure to Launch_. It's about young adults that have trouble transitioning to independence, and I found it really helpful for understanding my current (fairly terrible) relationship with my kid. (Now 19, similar boat.) It wasn't specifically written about autist... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: need a sensory-friendly vacuum (no yuck) |
| willaful |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2020, 7:03 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 5,480
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| My kid is in her own space now. It's small and mostly bare floors, so a simple stick vacuum works well. But emptying out the canister is really gross for her; dust and gunk sticks to the filter. She'd like a bagged vacuum but they all seem to be huge. Does anyone use a vacuum that they can recommend... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Creating a Living Space |
| willaful |
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Posted: 16 May 2017, 1:02 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,439
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Aw shucks. Believe me, I am far from the perfect mom. But maybe we could take turns.  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Creating a Living Space |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2017, 2:18 pm
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Replies: 10
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| That's awesome that you are creating a private place for you son. I don't know what you or your son prefer but I would avoid florescent lighting. Lighting is really important to me. The ability to change from overhead bright lights to soft and muted side lights. This can alter my mood substantially... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Creating a Living Space |
| willaful |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2017, 11:55 am
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Replies: 10
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| Ah, the enclosed sleeping area is something I hadn't thought of. We can rig up a curtain or a folding screen. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Creating a Living Space |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 2:00 pm
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| Hi, My husband and I are converting our garage into a small apartment. The idea is it'll be for our teenaged son if he gets to a point where he wants more privacy, but isn't able to live completely independently. I'm trying to think of how we can best equip it for his potential needs. We're going fo... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: emotional separation from parents |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2016, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I don't think it is very different. The real difference lies in what he's able to do about it. NT kids go hang out at the mall or text a friend or... I don't even know what they do these days. :-) Today he arrived home from school very angry and when I asked if he'd be okay if we went out for awhile... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: emotional separation from parents |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2016, 12:35 pm
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| Thank you for responding! I have a ton of books on Aspergers in older kids, but I can't find a mention of this issue anywhere. So the situation is, I think my son is at a place developmentally where he needs to start separating from us, but he's so dependent on us emotionally that he doesn't know ho... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: emotional separation from parents |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2016, 3:07 am
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Replies: 5
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| Does anyone know of a resource -- book, blog, whatever -- that talks about the developmental stage of emotionally separating from your parents as it relates to autistic teens? |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Hickies Shoe Laces |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2015, 12:20 pm
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Replies: 8
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We use synch bands... and I mean literally we, because I started using them too.  Very happy with them, and excellent customer service, too. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: simple breakfast ideas? |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2015, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 20
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btbnnyr wrote: What did he eat when you made breakfast for him?
His dad usually cooked, and he'd make pancakes, waffles, bacon -- fairly complicated stuff. My son has learned to make bacon, but I don't think he feels up to it most mornings. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: simple breakfast ideas? |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2015, 1:45 pm
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| My son has started high school, and is handling his morning routine by himself! :!: 8O :mrgreen: But there's no longer a snack time, and he's having trouble making a quick breakfast that holds him til lunch. He won't eat eggs, so a lot of stuff is out. No hot cereal, so far. He's going to be brave a... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: reaction to warm water |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2015, 9:34 pm
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Replies: 4
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| It's not that he doesn't like warm water. He seems to enjoy it a lot. It just has an odd effect on his emotional state. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: reaction to warm water |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2015, 1:51 pm
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| My son has always had a curious reaction to warm/hot water -- instead of relaxing him, it seems to make him extra hyper and impulsive. This has calmed down some in recent years, or he's gotten better at handling it. Yesterday he went to an outdoor warm water pool with his babysitter, and when he cam... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Raised by Aspergers parent |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2015, 2:23 pm
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Replies: 625
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| One of my son's ungoing issues is impulse control, which when mixed with perseveration, often includes not hearing people telling him to stop when he's hurting or upsetting them. He can indeed come across as a bully at times. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: high school classes are looooong |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 6:48 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,327
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| Have you asked your son how he feels? When I was in high school, no classes were longer than an hour. 90 or 105 minute classes would suck. I had to do soem 75 minute classes in college, which I didn't like doing, but I managed. He's complained about the double periods he has twice a week many times. |
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