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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 08 Jun 2010, 10:08 pm
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Thanks, Poppy!
poppyx wrote: I'm sorry. It will get better.
But just when you think you're over it
you're not.
Don't take it out on yourself. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 3:21 pm
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poppyx wrote: Just don't underestimate the grieving process. It's pretty major.
Yeah, I think you're right. I do feel a lot of loss right now. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2010, 1:17 pm
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| Cockney Rebel: it didn't go very well (see above, a few posts up). Now he's mostly acting like it was never brought up. I DID send him the link to the online AQ test the day after our "conversation" and he never mentioned it. I don't see any point in bringing it up. Poppy, yes, I've read about CAD. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2010, 2:11 pm
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| He said that maybe I should just find someone who's a better fit for me, who can make me happy. He said "you can do better". Kia: did he say this like he was giving a work college advice or did he seem abit depressed giving this advice? Well, it was a bit odd (to me). He DID say it was depressing. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2010, 11:50 am
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| Thanks, everyone. I DID talk to him, and tried to do it gently, with a light touch. It didn't go well. His response? That he thinks it's "sad" that I'm spending all this time trying to diagnose him, instead of just saying that "he sucks". In regards to the article: "I don't mean to be rude, but is t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2010, 5:44 pm
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Thank you, ALL, for your input. Very helpful. I've printed out this article, and am hoping to gently broach the subject this evening: http://autism.about.com/od/aspergerssyn ... ergers.htm. I'm very nervous about it and am really hoping it goes well. Wish me luck!
Rooish |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 5:10 pm
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| Thanks for your input, Kiley! I did some research on BPD, and it really doesn't sound like my husband. AS seems like a much better fit, actually, though he only has some of the traits.... The original list of symptoms sounds more like Borderline Personality Disorder to me than AS, but I'm no expert.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone NOT know how to console a person? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 5:04 pm
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Trekker, I think you're exactly right. I'd feel consoled if you did that.
trekker wrote: I think a lot of what goes into trying to console someone, though, is to just listen to what they have to say, ask them questions, and try to understand what they're going through. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I talk to my husband about AS? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 5:00 pm
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| So, I strongly suspect my hubby is an aspie. I've done a lot of reading and see that he has many of the traits. We're having a hard time in our marriage (or *I* am, anyway), and it feels like I'm getting hurt on an almost daily basis by things that he says/does. I'm feeling emotionally disconnected ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone NOT know how to console a person? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2010, 4:51 pm
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| This thread is enlightening for me! I get really frustrated with my aspie (I suspect) husband when I'm upset and want comforting/consoling. A lot of your responses sound like things he would say - so now I know it's not necessarily that he doesn't care, it's probably just how he's wired. If it helps... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 27 May 2010, 3:30 pm
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| Mosaic, it's true, there are probably several reasons he plays so much. I'm going to just give him space to figure this one out, for now. I appreciate your perspective on doing things companionably together/apart. We actually DO do that sometimes (both work on our laptops, sitting on the couch!). I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 27 May 2010, 3:26 pm
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| Eon, an interesting thought - thanks. My impression is that, even though he does feel uncomfortable with the social stuff, it's more that he just gets "stuck" and can't figure out how to fix the problem (with his work). I don't know if he gets stuck more than his co-workers, or just perceives it tha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 26 May 2010, 3:00 am
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Replies: 56
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Poppy, I actually ordered "22 Things" last week, based on your recommendation.  Looking forward to getting it... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 25 May 2010, 4:34 pm
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| Thanks for your input, poppy. I'm sorry you've had such a hard time with your ex. It seems to me that there are a lot of REALLY nice aspies on this forum, so I'm guessing that some of his very unkind behavior is unrelated and not necessarily a direct result of being an aspie....i.e. he may not feel ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Medication advice needed for anxiety |
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Posted: 24 May 2010, 2:30 pm
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| I have a mind that tends to stress and obsess. I've been diagnosed with mild OCD in the past...no real compulsions, just a tendency to circular thinking. I don't do well at all with benzodiazepines, but I've benefitted from very low dose Lexapro, which is a newer generation SSRI. I currently am on 3... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need input on husband's "symptoms" - ADD or AS or |
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Posted: 24 May 2010, 2:23 pm
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| Happy Music, thanks for your kind response - I really appreciate your insights, based on your own experience. Could you tell me more about stimming (or anyone else, too?) Could playing online chess be stimming for my husband? Or eating sugary things? I often have the feeling that it's self-medicatin... |
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