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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: it's been awhile |
| CherryBombH |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2011, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 3
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| since I've visited this site. I'm an NT who had a long distance friendship with a man I thought was an Aspie, but I began wondering if something else was going on. I don't know. What had been for awhile a very close friendship, talking about everything under the sun and opening up feelings that aren... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2010, 6:37 am
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Replies: 17
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 9:23 pm
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| I'm terribly guilty of this. I get anxious when I'm about to write an email and put it off for a long time. If he's like me, I wouldn't be worried that he's angry at you. It would actually mean that he really cares about what you think, so he devotes a lot of thought to writing a response (even if ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 8:53 pm
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| I think its best resolved face to face :mrgreen: Honestly though, I think that would probably give both of you more of an incentive to speak to each other. You have met and interacted and therefore you both have a more fleshed out projection of each other in your minds. Otherwise your this characte... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 8:43 pm
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| It depends. I can only relate to my own experiance as someone accussed of being aloof or distant in the past. Because I would have moments of not contacting anyone (thats friends, family or significant other) sometimes It could last over a week before I would feel the need to actually break the sil... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 8:22 pm
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| I feel the same way, I can't actually take it when someone just contacts me when they want me and not when I need them. People like that I can deal with as friends, because friends can sometimes help me out with some useful information about anything, so it's always good to keep friends close by. H... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 5:36 pm
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| Hi - We have a standing phone call once a week that lasts hours (he can only take one call a week). Then in between we correspond via email. Like I said, we typically correspond pretty regularly and rarely will 5 days go by without an email (like what is happening right now), especially when it seem... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Inconsistency |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2010, 11:22 pm
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| Things are going pretty well with my Aspie man, but I have a question that has been bugging me for awhile. He is quite erratic with his emails. Sometimes I get a response right away, but usually it's the next day and this will go on for a week or two and then 3-6 days will go by with no email. I use... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Curse you, underdeveloped empathy! |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2010, 9:08 pm
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Replies: 12
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Magnus Rex -
Don't wait for her to ask again. Next time you see her, ask her if she'd like to have lunch with you that day. She gave you an opening. That opening is still there, but don't expect her to ask you again because she won't. If you ask her, I'm sure she will say yes. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2010, 3:57 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Thanks to you too, The Wanderer. I'm making mistakes along the way, but understand that much of what is frustrating to me is just how he is and isn't something that I can change or, to be honest, I should even expect to change. This is how he is and I have to love that whole package or not at all. I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2010, 9:35 am
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Replies: 13
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| Thanks again, Zur-Darkstar. Very insightful. I think I will continue to be encouraging and slowly nudging him along. I care about his and my friendship too much to jeopardize that by scaring him off. Reading posts on this site really help me figure out the AS world. And I feel like I'm just learning... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2010, 6:41 pm
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| To The Wanderer - First, I want to say that you are very eloquent in your written communication. Phone calls - thank you so much for what you've said. My AS man absolutely abhors phones and I completely understand that now once he explained this meltdown to me later. It was a concept hard for me to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2010, 6:28 pm
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| To Avengilante - You said - "... it seems very fake and insincere to keep telling someone over and over that we admire something about them, whether its looks or talent or whatever. Once we've told them, why keep repeating it? That just makes it sound like sucking up. So if you are so emotionally ne... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2010, 1:25 pm
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| Thanks, Zur-Darkstar - I posted earlier that the fight was about phone calls. Him getting too many sales calls and from another friend who he is not talking to now and then me (although he said I was the least of his issues). He really hates phone calls. He was just mean in the words he used, but di... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2010, 12:06 pm
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| I feel like a bonehead, but what do I say about wanting compliments? It sounds so weird asking for them. Even my girl friends and I throw in compliments when talking with each other all the time. It's a way to show caring and support. In the beginning, my AS guy complimented me all the time and then... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is going on? |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2010, 11:20 am
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Replies: 13
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| Here's the latest edition of my long-distance relationship with my AS man - Over a month ago, he had a meltdown and was not nice. I cried and inadvertently confessed that I had feelings for him. This confession seemed to tone him down and he became gentle. At the end of the conversation he said he c... |
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