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Forum: The Haven Topic: Do I have schizophrenia? |
| primaloath |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,069
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| How long have you been having these experiences? If you get diagnosed with schizophrenia, you may find yourself saddled with extra difficulties in life, including prejudice from your peers and the loss of some of your rights. In your place, I would thoroughly research the issue before contacting any... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate my mom |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 7:09 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,484
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| SectorStar, I'm going to repeat this in case you missed it. Your mother may well be a narcissist. There is a wealth of information out there on people like that. I encourage you to read it and use it to plan your next moves rather than trying to gain validation on a random forum filled with random p... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate my mom |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2010, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 21
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| Your mother might be a narcissist, since she's trying so badly to control you, humiliate you, criticize you, lie to you and isolate you. Narcissists love being in positions of power, where they can belittle others. Have a look at the resources on my sig. If she is a narcissist, you may want to see w... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Tired of having plans canceled. :/ |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2010, 7:40 pm
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Replies: 70
Views: 7,540
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| I think you've been around your family too much. I wouldn't expect any normal person to treat her child the way your mother did, especially a crying child; it might be worth looking into whether she has narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissists gain a perverse, sadistic pleasure from humiliatin... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: please help. |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2010, 7:07 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,985
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| It's okay. I strongly believe that coming to terms with past abuse, bit by bit, is better than hiding from it, no matter how cozy or pleasant the hiding place. I say this as I suffered physical and emotional abuse and covert incest, but not rape (though sometimes I wonder whether I had also been rap... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Greeting people with hugs?! |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2010, 1:42 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 6,443
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I used to love hugging people; now I only give hugs to people whom I know will accept them.
Just saying "Hi" or "Hello" is a good enough greeting for me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sure way to prevent bullying |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2010, 1:04 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,631
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| For cases of emotional abuse / workplace bullying, use a spy camera and record conversations with traditional tape recorders (i.e. not digital recorders), if the laws in your country allow it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Close encounter with a heartbroken crazy person |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2010, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 7
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Anger isn't a selfish emotion; indeed, it replaces the self.
I feel bad for the guy. I hope everything is well for everyone involved. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Lonely. :( |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2010, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,158
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It's always good to have the opportunity to make bad decisions, as you wouldn't otherwise learn not to make them in the future. Being on your own, able to make your own decisions, is a benefit in and of itself.
What kinds of bad choices did you make? |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Tired of having plans canceled. :/ |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2010, 12:42 pm
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Replies: 70
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| I don't know why I cling to people like that. I didn't really view it that way. But what if I want to be what they want me to be? Smart, beautiful, talented, etc. You know, everything I'm not really. >.> I used to do that myself. I think the reason, in my case, was that I had been "house-trained" b... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: self-compassion |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2010, 9:47 am
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Replies: 3
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Forum: The Haven Topic: turtle helps turtle who's flipped over |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2010, 9:43 am
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| That's absolutely lovely - if it really is a sign of friendship. I couldn't help thinking, however, that one turtle was really just pushing the other away from its territory. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Lonely. :( |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2010, 9:39 am
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Replies: 16
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| You have internet access. Much of the world's collective knowledge is a few keystrokes away. Solitude is also great for developing a better understanding of your relationships, since you're not actually experiencing them. Also, barring the potential for gaslighting and abuse, I don't see the problem... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Tired of having plans canceled. :/ |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2010, 9:24 am
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Replies: 70
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| In regards to the original post: when people agree to meet with you, then give excuses but make no effort to provide compensation, it's safe to bet that they're scum. Though I don't date anymore, I generally apologize and try to make up for it when I have to cancel a planned meeting of any kind - I ... |
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Forum: Adolescent Autism Forum Topic: Abusive parents |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2010, 4:04 pm
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| I'm 24 right now. My father, a narcissist that would very likely have been diagnosed, abused my mother and me for many years; she became schizophrenic when I was 15. She is now in a mental hospital because of his behaviour. I know that, at times, I used to feel she was complicit to the abuse because... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Trials of being a Woman with AS |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2010, 3:07 am
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Replies: 76
Views: 5,957
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| Women with AS not only suffer the same social deficits as men with AS, but have to deal with the added pressure of the fact that women in society are expected to be more social and more emotionally expressive than men in general. This causes a woman with AS to be more distant from NT women than men... |
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