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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Quid quo pro or do I ask her out and not look like an idiot? |
| somechick |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2010, 8:25 pm
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| If she's a nice person and likes you romantically, then you turning beetroot red and stuttering/suddenly losing the ability to speak English won't suddenly change her mind. If that does happen, she may well be flattered that you like her enough to get a little nervous talking to her. I personally t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man With.... |
| somechick |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2010, 8:49 pm
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Replies: 16
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| He is enjoying the book and is not afraid to tell me that things don't apply to him, but is also very surprised how bang on some things are. It's leading to some good conversation. He was diagnosed as a child, but he never really knew what that meant and if he was still affected by it. A couple of ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man With.... |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2010, 9:05 pm
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Replies: 16
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| "22 Things" attempts to distill all of that down to a checklist, and it just doesn't work that way. (There are also other "checklists" of characteristics that float around: Aspies don't lie; Aspies don't cheat; Aspies don't understand humor; blah, blah, blah. It's just as valid as saying, "All wome... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man With.... |
| somechick |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2010, 10:57 am
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Replies: 16
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| I read it...short & pretty broad in terms of how it describes things, but I wouldn't say it was a total waste. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
| somechick |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2010, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Oh, I definitely didn't take it as a professional opinion. I actually didn't even read it very carefully & was surprised that he took the time to read it. It was helpful for me that he DID read it just because he explained to me exactly what wasn't true for him, & expanded on things that are... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2010, 10:57 am
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Replies: 22
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| Still unsure about what's going on with him...he DID contact me yesterday to let me know that he read a book I just finished reading ("22 Things A Woman Must Know If She Loves A Man With Asperger's Syndrome"), & told me what applies to him & what doesn't...which is kind of a big deal, he doe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2010, 3:27 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Lost - You DO sound alot like my boyfriend. He's definitely got a sense of wit about him, & he actually has several friends (many of which are girls who flirt with him tirelessly, which doesn't help any insecurity I have left over from my previous relationship)...he's also very on or off with th... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New NT dating a guy with AS |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2010, 2:49 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Thanks Sax & spongy. :) The more I research, the more I'm seeing the different ways different people are affected. With the info I'm learning, I'm slowly beginning to see how my boyfriend is affected, which is starting to help me piece together what I can do or how I can respond to certain situa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 22
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| So how can I keep things as stress-free for him as possible? We won't be living together for quite some time, but I don't want to cause him any unnecessary anxiety if I can help it. It really sucks that you had to go so long without knowing about AS. However, I am very grateful for the insight you o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 9:37 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Wait...so, she went on 3 dates with you, & things seemed to be going fine & then she broke up with you? If she's NT, it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants & you're lucky to have cut your losses early on before feelings got involved. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 9:29 pm
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| How was her body language different from the first two times? Have you heard anything from her or tried to contact her since then? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 9:23 pm
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Replies: 22
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| That's good to know...I don't want him to feel that I expect anything from him all the time, but I can understand why that would be the case. Do you think the fact that he's never lived with a girlfriend or been married helps anything at all? Or will that just make it harder? When you first got marr... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: christians and speaking in tongues? |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 9:03 pm
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| Believe me, I've read the book of Acts many times, & I know it well. I didn't say it was "secret," I said it was individual to each person. If tongues is really only speaking in other languages, then why does the apostle Paul exhort the church more than once to "pray in the Spirit" or "pray in t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 8:52 pm
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Replies: 22
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| The alone time thing is likely to be a big bone of contention once you share living space together. Socializing, even with those we care about takes a lot out of us, both physically and mentally in terms of low-grade stress. You may not notice it so much on the surface, but its there. So after even... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: christians and speaking in tongues? |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 8:21 pm
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Replies: 33
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| It's really unfortunate that this is what Christianity has been reduced to, & that this is how people who aren't Christians view it. I don't blame you all for thinking it's crazy with the examples/experiences that were shared. I myself am a Christian, & go to a "tongue-speaking church," &... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Alone Time" |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2010, 8:05 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Toad - About a year. It's unlikely that we'll actually be living in the same state sooner than next year. Lost - That's actually really helpful. He only dated one girl before me, & they were together a whole of 3 weeks. He flat out told me that "she got annoying" (definitely the type of girl tha... |
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