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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Hard to get over Aspie Man |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2011, 7:28 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,630
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| In my opinion it is very hard to decide whether to tell you to move on or stick around. We don’t know you or how your relationship was. I think you are the only one that can decide that and you should do that by trying to listen to your inner voice/sixth sense. Having said this, I can tell you that ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I Don't Get It?! |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2010, 5:00 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,280
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| She dated somebody else in the meantime, now it is over and she is trying to reconnect with you for friendship or other depending how things go between the two of you. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Aspie and AS Advocate |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2010, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,268
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| Voice, that was beautiful. I agree with you 100%. I wish people on the spectrum would give us NTs a little more credit. There are caring NTs out there that understand the unique amazing gifts that people on the spectrum have. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: WTF? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2010, 9:54 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 2,924
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| If this was the first date I would not be so surprised that she scheduled only one hour for coffee. When you meet somebody new you have no idea how this person will be like and if you will click or not so it is perfectly normal to schedule a short date over coffee. If things go well the second date ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is this an Aspie thing, or just me? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2010, 7:24 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,369
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| It sounds to me like a very logical way of putting it. A very Aspie trait if you have to ask me. From what I can gather Aspies use their logical thinking much more than NTs. For us NTs emotions often override the logical mind. Usually for NTs sex and affection are interconnected with each other and ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Dying relatives. |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2010, 8:52 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,350
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| You need to go and be with him. You will be drawing in guilt and shame if you don't do it. My father died of cancer several years ago and I spent all the time that I could with him, even crawling in bed with him in the morning to keep him company and rub his feet. It was hard to see him so sick but ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: FWB relationships |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2010, 10:48 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 552
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| @ lotusblossum then you need to target Aspies and not NT. I am pretty sure that a NT man would want to progress in the relationship once he develops feelings. I also know that having a more stable relationship does not guarantee anything, 50% of marriages end in divorce. But you need to start from s... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: FWB relationships |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2010, 9:56 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 552
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| @ lotusblossom when you become emotionally attached to somebody: 1. you want to see them more and 2. you are hurt if they don't reciprocate. Very simple, are you ready to face these issues? Because I think you will, as the FWB deal will last only for a short time. If they become emotionally involved... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: FWB relationships |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2010, 9:35 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 552
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| FWB is always a dangerous situation because there is always the risk that one of the two people involved will start develop feelings for the other. This happens very often and nobody is to blame for not sticking to the script, we are human. Having sex with somebody multiple times causes the release ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Got digits, now what? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2010, 4:30 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,501
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| If you are seeing both of them at the same time, do NOT sleep with either of them. Most women would be hurt by that and would consider you a jerk if you did. As a European I even consider dating more than one person at the same time as immoral, but that's another story and it is because in Europe we... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How difficult is for an Aspie to remain friend with an ex? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2010, 4:34 pm
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Replies: 33
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| @ Bee33 I did that when I contacted him at first, I was causal and asked how he is doing and if he ever wanted to get a cup of coffee to let me know. It took him weeks to reply and said OK, but never followed up. I then called him a couple of times he did not answer and never called back. Things bec... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: NT/AS Relationships |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2010, 9:11 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,211
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| Sorry BassMan for your situation. She has been with you for so long so I would not despair. I think she has been hit hard by the diagnosis, she may need time to cope with it. Unfortunately, she cannot expect you to become something you are not. Asperger is a developmental disorder not something that... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How difficult is for an Aspie to remain friend with an ex? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2010, 8:12 am
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Replies: 33
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| @ Bee33 I did all that, I told him I still like him as a person and that I miss him as a friend. Nothing. He does not want to see me. There were a few emails exchanged in the last 4 months and in the last one where he told me he can't see me, I told him I suspect he has Asperger and that he should c... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How difficult is for an Aspie to remain friend with an ex? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2010, 8:12 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,939
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| @ katzefrau I did tell him a few times I care about him. I did not tell him I was interested in HIM and not just anybody to have a relationship with. NT thinking, I thought it is obvious, but perhaps not to him. @ Bee33 I think you got it. I think he is ashmed of the way he treated me and I wanted t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How difficult is for an Aspie to remain friend with an ex? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2010, 5:06 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,939
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@ lkathryn
I appreciate your input and you may be right when you say that this is new to him. He just does not know what to do. However my story is pretty different from yours because I am not a player and sincerely and deeply care about him. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How difficult is for an Aspie to remain friend with an ex? |
| AndreaLuna |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2010, 9:41 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,939
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| @ Laz, it is never too late if there are feelings and I still care very much about him. I can't do anything else but give him the space and time that he needs. |
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