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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Small Talk Questions Video |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 26 May 2022, 2:52 am
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Replies: 0
Views: 792
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| Hello Wrong Planeteers, This video on Youtube may be of interest and/or help to some of you. As small talk can be a frequent source of vexation, this short video provides some very rudimentary examples of a variety of exchanges applicable to most small talk scenarios. Studying your native language a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Charisma on Command |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 22 May 2022, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,956
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| Yes. It's a pretty interesting channel, a good place to study the variety of techniques that can be successful within social exchanges. Having watched many videos, it can show you what works, but it can't show you (if any) of the styles examined will work for you. The "awkward" celebrities... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Everybody Is Identical: a response to An Open Letter to the Depressed Aspergian |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2020, 2:24 am
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Replies: 90
Views: 20,074
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| If you dont have familial and/or financial resources, struggling at the bottom like everyone else, but without the social companionship that follows suit, life is an extra flavor of hell. Its unfortunate, to have your health, somewhat of your youth, food and water, and most of the other basics that ... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Existencial Crisis |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2020, 5:31 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 3,672
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| It ends? It seems like it keeps alternating focus rather than completely leaving. I keep trying to figure out who I am and where I belong, the point or meaning in life, finding fulfillment. I just end up with more questions than answers. I can say after feeling this for years off and on that the ans... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Judged badly for not speaking! |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2020, 5:36 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 2,781
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| It has been helpful, since I view social situations differently with ASD, to try and understand human behavior from the perspective of an anthropologist. A lot of people are really uncomfortable with silence, especially around new people. At least in the United States, it is customary to engage in s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Struggling with hating myself for being weird |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2020, 3:42 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 7,997
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| Here's a fun secret: There is no "normal". It is a contemporary, socially implemented construct created to control behavior, both in subconscious and conscious ways. Its all relative and completely subjective depending on how, who, and what you're around. Its not all bad; it can implement... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do People Look at You Funny? |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2020, 3:36 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 8,529
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| Not always, but in some situations. If you are in a very homogenized environment, any subtle nuance in your appearance or behavior can be enough to direct negative attention your way. I'm currently in a small town that presents a facade of "friendly", but they are in actuality extremely ju... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you have friends at work? |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2020, 3:16 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 9,235
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| Depends on the job. Currently, no. Environment affects everything, and some places lend themselves well to assimilate yourself, and other places, no matter how kind or a good worker you are, people just dislike you for being you. This is even more strained when you're on the spectrum and/or in conse... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Struggling with hating myself for being weird |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2020, 11:08 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 7,997
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| Here's a fun secret: There is no "normal". It is a contemporary, socially implemented construct created to control behavior, both in subconscious and conscious ways. Its all relative and completely subjective depending on how, who, and what you're around. Its not all bad; it can implement ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Advice on how to date as a young Aspie woman? Or resources? |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2020, 3:46 am
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Replies: 93
Views: 3,908
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| As another poster mentioned, dating websites can be a good resource. I recommend OKCupid as a. it's free(at least at the time I used it) and b. it uses an algorithm based on your preferences and how you answer questions to give you matches based on compatibility Now its usefulness may vary, based on... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friendship Board - Age 19 Onwards |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2011, 7:12 am
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Replies: 1,199
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| Hello everyone, I'm a 24 year old female college student, majoring in 3d character animation. I live in San Francisco and haven't had much success connecting with people in the city. I enjoy art, science, music (although I'm picky on that), delicious food and ballet. It would be nice to either estab... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone else use alcohol as a tool? |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2011, 5:35 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,526
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| I find that alcohol sometimes inhibits me socially moreso. For example, if I am not having a good time at a social outing and no one is talking to me or discussing anything interesting, the alcohol makes me care even less how I'm being socially perceived by the other people. If I drink enough to be ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hello fellow Aspergians |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2011, 4:16 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,434
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| thanks for the greetings everybody! |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: I'm Not Quite Sure if I Have Asperger's |
| Cephalopod |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2011, 4:15 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,701
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| Hi and welcome to the site! I can relate to much of what you're saying. I have a really hard time reading subtle social cues as well. I get the same way around people I am not comfortable around, I feel I have nothing to say to them. Well, at least take comfort I guess in knowing you're not alone de... |
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