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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone from Newfoundland? |
| GreatRelief |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2012, 12:50 am
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I flew into Newfoundland a month ago. I had a layover at the Gander airport. It was very cold looking outside! Is it cold most of the year for year?
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bully Victims |
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Posted: 14 May 2011, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 6,131
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| Thank you, all of you for sharing, and I'm so sorry to hear of how aweful things were for you. All of your posts were of comfort to me, because I went through the same thing, and to know I'm not alone. Like you, Guilliman, I was bullied as early as kindergarden, especially by this b**ch named Kather... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bully Victims |
| GreatRelief |
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Posted: 11 May 2011, 3:22 pm
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Replies: 32
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| I'm a prime example of an aspie who was bullied in middle school. There was verbal abuse, and a lot of social exclusion, which some research is classifying as bullying as well. Below is a quote from an article (along with the link) that I read a few years before my AS diagnosis. It was the first tim... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Therapist says my social skills "aren't all that bad&am |
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Posted: 05 May 2011, 3:38 pm
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Replies: 16
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| But it's a question of ideals versus reality. People are attracted to positive emotions. It is true one must weigh the cost/benefit of pursuing an ideal (in this case, advocating for low self-esteem individuals). When you think of all the famous advocates down through the ages, I'm sure each had to... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Therapist says my social skills "aren't all that bad&am |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2011, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 16
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| People are attracted to confidence, they're typically put off by a lack thereof, and high self esteem helps you be constructive and happy in general. TheMidnightJudge, I completely agree that people have these views about self-confidence. My comments below are absolutely not a reflection on you, bu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Therapist says my social skills "aren't all that bad&am |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2011, 1:22 pm
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Replies: 16
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| It makes me wonder if your therapist expects you to be curled up shivering behind your chair, covering your face with your eyes. Well said, wefunction! Sometimes I wonder if I should purposely do just that, so they'll take me seriously! In fact, all of your replies were extremely helpful, and much ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Goth scene |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2011, 1:09 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I have to say it depends on what goth scene, since each one is different. Some goth scenes are diverse, open, and friendly, while other ones are homogenized, hyper-elitist, and only welcoming to people with expensive clothes. When I was younger, most of the goth girls came from well-off families. T... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Therapist says my social skills "aren't all that bad&am |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2011, 3:35 pm
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| Have any of you come across this, where somebody such as a therapist says your social skills "aren't all that bad"? I been told this a couple times now, and it is very frusterating for me to be told this, because if they "aren't all that bad," then why am I so isolated? Granted, it is true that I do... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Introversion, but wanting to be bit normal |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2011, 3:17 pm
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| Yes, I get that way too. Where I enjoy being alone, but at the same time, would like more people to hang out with. I don't particularily enjoy making "small talk," not only because I fundamentally suck at it, but I've recently come to realize I actually don't enjoy it. Yet we seem to live in a cultu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social Skills Training for Adults |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2011, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 614
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| I recently got my review with the following feedbacks.. 1. Does not network well enough for grade level (AKA socialize/small talk) 2. Does not abstract (AKA too literal) 3. Black/white thinking 4. Inability to see the big picutre My company removed these from my review due to my recent DX Congratul... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Anyone ever dealt with cancer, on top of Aspergers? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2011, 3:15 pm
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Replies: 12
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| i have a very strong network of support, i have friends that i can rely on Thank you for the reply ZooZoo. Out of curiosity, are you married? I don't ask this for any other reason than I sometimes sink into the mindset that I'll never find any sort of emotional support unless I'm married. It sounds... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Anyone ever dealt with cancer, on top of Aspergers? |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2011, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 12
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| It is a concern of mine that I won't have any support system in place, what with little friends and my parents getting older, if some serious health concerns arise. Thanks for all your replies. In my opinion, there ought to be "subsidized support systems," or something out there for us Aspies to go... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Anyone ever dealt with cancer, on top of Aspergers? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2011, 8:28 pm
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Replies: 12
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| I had Hodgkin's disease 15 years ago. I had radiation and chemotherapy, and although the cancer was cured, the effects of the treatment were devastating. I new have a moderate to serious heart condition as a result of the treatment. One of the absolute worst things about the whole experience was tha... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What if Asperger's was the norm? |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2010, 7:08 pm
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Replies: 6
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| [size=12]I hate coming home and saying hello. I hate when my father says to me, "Say hi!" I hate saying goodbye when I leave the house. I think these things are empty and valueless. Until maybe a year ago, I almost completely refused to do so, but hearing my parents rant about how American children... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Benefits of Official Diagnosis of an Adult |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2010, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 35
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| There's a deeper issue here - by avoiding diagnosis we keep the hope alive that we're really normal, just different. Diagnosis brings identification with the autistic race, and - when the shock's dissipated - a desire for justice. We're excluded, discriminated against, abused. Just because we're no... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: They say you can "learn" social skills, but who te |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2010, 8:55 pm
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Replies: 2
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| I was diagnosed with Aspergers, about a year ago, by what I consider a very competent psychologist named Carrie. Carrie was unlike any other in that she had a hands-on, nuts-&-bolts approach to learning social skills. Almost like a coach. She even went with me to social events and gave me feedba... |
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