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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
| LisaP |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 7:18 pm
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| i can't think of another reason a guy would use a girl other than sex. this guy has a good salary. he's self sufficient. he's a loner. so..what other than sex could it be? he doesn't get any sex. so, it seems he'll just settle for somebody in his 40s when he lands in a location that he wants to be a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
| LisaP |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:04 am
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ruveyn wrote: What does using or "using" people mean. When we hire someone to do a task, we are using them.
ruveyn
that's what i'm askin'. so confusing. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 7:15 am
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| i can explain anything further. it's like thinking he has close friends but they're all situational or very far away. he's more open to acquaintances and spreads his stories across a variety of those types of "friends" but as he gets closer to people, he shuts down...other than with the one engaged ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2011, 12:47 pm
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| whoa never knew that about the slinky guy. my friend has also called himself vain. he has some messed up self love / self hate deal. he can think he's great. then he'll mention that he's failed a lot with women. he admits that openly too. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2011, 7:44 am
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| toss this one in there...he's never had a women...only 2 drunken really sad hook ups...only one that lead to sex. Antisocial personality disorder may be it on top of undiagnosed aspie. Any APD input? This person is a living contradiction. Has an answer for everything and that answer goes against ano... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Using" People |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2011, 8:53 pm
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| My friend says he uses women and that he'd even be using a woman that he married. He fully admits it but then says "it's just the way my head works". Anybody have input on this? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2011, 3:02 pm
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| It is a fear of making the wrong decision. It is the fear of saying something that cannot be taken back. It is the fear of forever closing a possibility. Wow. I've been trying to understand my aspie guys for a long time and I know I'm probably not even close to understanding the burden that they ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First time in history!! !! The NT/AS open hotline ! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2011, 6:21 am
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| How do I convince an aspie guy that I don't need anything from him but would do anything for him when he thinks a relationship means having to be trapped and overwhelmed when it would be just the opposite with me? He mistook a lot of things I was doing for him to be things I was doing for my own ben... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 6:36 pm
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| is it just a fear of being responsible for determining your future or more about hurting or effecting somebody else? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 5:18 pm
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| Well there's the other side of it...being forced to make a decision. From what I know, the girl would like an answer but if she pressures him, he'll get frustrated. So, it's like this confusion between pushing and getting an answer or risking not getting one at all. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 2:06 pm
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CoalBogey wrote: This thread reminds me of a line from the movie Mary And Max (FYI Max has AS): (Narrator): "Max's fragile existence had once again become unsettled. And after staring out of the window for 18 hours he finally made a decision." 
hehe 18 hours! he's got nothing on the aspie guys I know  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 12:29 pm
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| Yeah, I'm a girl and I make crazy fast decisions. I barely put any thought into it. Then I get buyer's remorse sometimes. I think my way of making fast decisions is what makes it hard to understand why an aspie guy would take so long to make a decision. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 11:29 am
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| ick. that's like my ex roommate. she got an aspie diagnosis but definitely just has some kind of social anxiety. She would have to drink anytime she was meeting people. So, definitely an alcoholic as a result. She pretty much went nuts and I don't talk to her anymore but, before our split, she went ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 8:20 am
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| You all brought up some good points. I also talked to the guy a little bit. This may seem like I shouldn't care but he's my oldest friend and I have a habit of worrying. As I mentioned before, the relationship guy is a lot like the guy I dated. He wants a girlfriend and eventually a wife and kids bu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2011, 3:20 am
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Yensid wrote: LisaP wrote: even if it's something you just don't care about? Like with the guy's girl. He may not care about her, but he does care about some need that she satisfies. This is a hard decision for him. It would probably be a hard decision for me.
hmmmm some need. sex? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie Guys and Decisions |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2011, 7:39 pm
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| Not a guy, but I'll answer anyway: I need to make the CORRECT decision, even if I don't actually "care" about the subject. In order for me to make the correct decision, I must analyze ever little detail involved with whatever it is I'm deciding. That can take days, or weeks, or months, or years. Pe... |
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