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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I don't know what to do when I arrive at social events. |
| alessi |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2015, 8:26 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 937
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| Sometimes in the past when I have gone to a party I was invited to, I walked in, saw all the little groups, and then turned around, pretending I had forgotten something, and walked out and gone home. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is this a sign of losing interest in a friend? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2015, 5:28 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 836
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| I think Jack didn't want to invite Jill and didn't think she would know about the party. When Peter pumpkin eater stepped in Jack was 'backed into a corner' in that he didn't want to appear to be rude, especially because there was a third party (Peter) witnessing the exchange. So he made the concess... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I don't know what to do when I arrive at social events. |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2015, 5:18 am
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Replies: 7
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| I occasionally get invited to social things. But even though I would like to go, I don't because the thought of arriving somewhere by myself, and walking in, and there are people standing around in little groups.. The idea of it just makes me feel a bit nauseous. I don't know what I am supposed to d... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My dog died last night |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2014, 2:24 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,597
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| I am so sorry to read this. I understand how you feel. My animal companions are my family. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do female aspies prefer male friends? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2014, 2:04 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 7,655
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I have had very few female friends in my life. I get along much better with males for some reason.
I have had only 2 females in my life who I would say were genuine friends. Interestingly they identified as bisexual or lesbian. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do other people genuinely care about anyone else? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2014, 1:56 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,387
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| I think that most NT people are only kind to people whom they think can benefit them in some way. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How was my she trying to help me? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2014, 1:46 am
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Replies: 7
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| People often append the words 'it is for your own good', or 'I am trying to help you' to a statement that is just nasty and hateful. They only do it because they really want to be nasty - the part added to the end is just to try stop you from being able to say anything back to them. Your aunt is not... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Reminder about That I Am Lonely |
| alessi |
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Posted: 06 May 2014, 1:36 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 562
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: what's the use of socializing with neurotypicals? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2014, 12:20 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 5,198
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| When you sosialize with neurotypicals, what do you get out of it? I'm asking because frankly, I don't understand it. I myself have a tight-knit asperger support group and mainly socialize with other aspies from it You are extremely lucky. Most people don't have that so they have to try to make soci... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'm happy that people give me the time of day, but I don't |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 10:29 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I want to have conversations with people but I get nervous and tongue tied. I think I am out of practice and it is getting harder. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boyfriend of almost 3 years left me. |
| alessi |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 9:59 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,203
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I am really sorry to hear this.
It is a very cruel way to behave. I hate to say it, but the behaviour suggests that there is a third person involved.
You will meet someone else. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Laughing at me because I'm "cute"? |
| alessi |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 6:53 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,133
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It depends on the way they say it.
Cute doesn't always mean something nice. I remember the venomous, sarcastic way my stepmother would say 'very cute', to me. The way she said it, it meant something like 'I would like to stab you to death and then throw your corpse to the cess pit rats'. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2014, 6:44 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 2,715
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| Yes, it's actually embarassing as some of these people are facebook friends (though we never talk). I am single, make $11/hr, live at home, usually people don't even like my statuses. I would be so ashamed to admit if anything, I seem worse off than I used to. Facebook is just a place to remind me ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I really want a boyfriend |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2014, 11:24 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 2,955
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| And I'm going to lose my lovely mum soon because she's going on an airplane at the end of this year and since that thing about the Malaysa thing I am put off by airplanes because of f***ing terrorists I HATE TERRORISTS I f***ing HATE LIVING IN FEAR OF THE f***ing c****! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: 100 Reasons I shouldn't kill myself |
| alessi |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2014, 11:19 pm
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Replies: 92
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| Who will care for my cats if I kill myself? I think about this every day. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I really want a boyfriend |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2014, 11:17 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 2,955
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I thought I wanted a boyfriend too but I had a partner who was abusive and nasty. He cheated and finally dumped me.
I don't think I can go through that again. I am still not over it.
All that glitters is not gold. |
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