| Author |
Message |
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Divorcee's: Would you remarry your ex? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 8:48 pm
|
|
Replies: 40
Views: 2,558
|
OliveOilMom wrote: Mine did a lot more to me than that. That's a walk in the park compared to what I went through. He eventually killed somebody and is gonna get the needle though.
Milady, you weren't who I was talking about. I'm glad you got out; too many don't. |
|
 |
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Reasons why I never will have a boyfriend.What do you think? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 8:44 pm
|
|
Replies: 72
Views: 6,233
|
| Look, I may just be a dumb American with no clue how things work in Montenegro, but here in the USA the list you provided would have you annoyed at all the male attention. Is it normal for girls to be nerds there, or it it considered a bad thing? Here, girl nerds are highly, highly sought after by b... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to: Date aspie women |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 8:30 pm
|
|
Replies: 24
Views: 4,556
|
| Milady, allow me to take a tone. This caveman evo-psyche BS is just that, BS. Women don't want responsible men because they're "wired" to, but because they're taught to. Humans are less complicated genetically than CORN. Yes, corn has more genes than we do, by a fairly wide margin. The human genome ... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girlfriend is aspie and PTSD (rape based... I think) |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 8:01 pm
|
|
Replies: 6
Views: 1,251
|
| it seems like she both wants to get close... and is scared to death of it. Welcome to processing trauma. It usually makes no damn sense to anyone looking in form the outside, but all sorts of conflicting behavior can crop up from having to deal with something like an assault. Both my cousin and mys... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Divorcee's: Would you remarry your ex? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:46 pm
|
|
Replies: 40
Views: 2,558
|
| Look guys, my ex-wife held me at knifepoint , and I am substantially less bitter than some of you. Geez, lighten up! The way I look at my marriage, it's a lot like this: http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/never.png I especially appreciate the mouseover test for this one: "I'll never forget you - at least, ... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why would a person go to such lengths to degrade me? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:28 pm
|
|
Replies: 53
Views: 17,613
|
| I'd be wary of those types making up fake sexual assault claims with you involved in to get you in jail. NOT COOL, BRO. I'll state this exactly once: repeating the popular (and woefully false) trope that women make up rape complaints just to ruin guys lives is misogynist at best. There's this thing... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: She was interested in me or just my imagination? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:10 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 1,610
|
| A rule of thumb: twice is a coincidence, three is a pattern. If you're attracted to her, talk to her if you see her again. |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Office dinner tomorrow and I'm dateless |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:05 pm
|
|
Replies: 30
Views: 2,008
|
| If I act like who I am, won't I be more likely to push people away, because who I am is...odd? Well, one would think so, but the fact of the matter is that anybody you want to be with on any type of long-term scale need to like who you really are when you're not making any special effort. I can't e... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Realizing my Aspie GF's stormy moods are sort of meaningless |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 06 Oct 2013, 12:24 pm
|
|
Replies: 28
Views: 3,801
|
| as I read about this ongoing saga I wonder whether you think your prospects are so poor that you have to put up with this sort of thing in a relationship. Do you think you're going to save her? Is this redeeming you, turning you into a hero of some sort? I know, she's wonderful, you love her, etc, ... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Realizing my Aspie GF's stormy moods are sort of meaningless |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 04 Oct 2013, 5:54 pm
|
|
Replies: 28
Views: 3,801
|
| Let me duck back into this conversation to say this: yes, if you don't have professional training in psychology and/or the life experience of interacting with an abuser (or a survivor of abuse with anger issues from the resultant PTSD, many of whom without proper help turn around to become abusers t... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has this statement got a lot of truth in it? |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 03 Oct 2013, 11:48 pm
|
|
Replies: 16
Views: 3,322
|
| LeLetch, you seem hellbent on promoting irrational thought. I've explained thoroughly and rigorously why it's dangerous thinking. Promoting such a bold idea warrants equally rigorous justification. I also find it ironic, mainly because it seems self-contradictory, that you would attempt to defend i... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Realizing my Aspie GF's stormy moods are sort of meaningless |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 03 Oct 2013, 11:18 pm
|
|
Replies: 28
Views: 3,801
|
| We will be getting ready for me to drive her back, and something will invariably upset her, leading to a flare up, her running off, yelling, accusations of wrongdoing, etc. And then by the time we actually separate things are better ... then we don't communicate for a few days, and then some other ... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Open Marriage |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 30 Sep 2013, 10:43 pm
|
|
Replies: 117
Views: 21,899
|
| She SHOULD feel guilty. Only according to puritanical standards. I take issue with this. Look, having an non-monogamous relationship is cool and shaming people for the way they like to have sex (as long as it's not physically dangerous to the participants and between consenting adults) is never OK.... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: why I can't do the bar and club thing |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 30 Sep 2013, 8:34 pm
|
|
Replies: 10
Views: 11,495
|
| well I ain't never been on a date (I am younger though) Well if you can't approach woman, how about you have woman approach you? All you have to do is somehow make yourself approachable. Don't ask me though, I aint no woman guru Cody, with that attitude you are well on your way to being one. Howeve... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Third First Date in as many Weekends! |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 30 Sep 2013, 8:12 pm
|
|
Replies: 5
Views: 5,925
|
| Well (in the parlance of our times) keep pimping, pimping. I've found OKCupid to be pretty awesome for meeting people and setting up first dates, but remember it's a numbers game and don't get hung up on anybody until they reciprocate your feelings. When I say numbers game, I don't mean that in any ... |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: L&D, male members advise: How to meet NT men (for women |
| JubalHarshaw |
|
Posted: 30 Sep 2013, 7:26 pm
|
|
Replies: 4
Views: 7,281
|
| What is this bad gibberish about cleavage? Sir, I have seen many a boob framed in many a boobalicious shirt, and I can plainly state that not once did I take it as an indicator of romantic interest on the part of the wearer. Sometimes the ladies just like showing off the girls. A cigar is a cigar an... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
