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Forum: The Haven Topic: The party, the afterparty and the morning after |
| Choala |
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Posted: 26 May 2015, 8:01 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I started university this year, 22 years old (23 now), feeling too young to be an adult with good grades and too old to really fit in with the 18-year olds. I moved from my small town and comfortable home (50m2) to a small room (14m2) in the city. There, I realized two things: 1) The city gives me a... |
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Forum: Adolescent Autism Forum Topic: Do I go and sleep or do I make up an exuse??? Help! |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 7:25 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 860
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| Go! Social events can be a bit much, but if you don't go to them when you're young, you might end up dreading them forever. If you can't tell, or don't want to tell, you have autism, try explaining some symptoms to your friend. Something like: "Well, I am looking forward to the party! But I have to ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Thinking about giving up my job |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 7:12 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,723
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| Are you sure you don't have any sleeping-problems? Your story seems to be mostly about losing sleep and time because of your job. It could be that most of the stress comes from lack of sleep. There has been a lot of research that shows that people with ASD have problems during sleep. I was diagnosed... |
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Forum: Español, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français Topic: Nederlanders: bakkie doen? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 6:56 pm
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Replies: 5
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| Zelf woon ik een eindje van Utrecht en Haarlem vandaan, maar vanuit de Flevopolder lijkt alles ver te zijn. Om eens in groepsverband wat te organiseren zal helemaal geen slecht plan zijn. Hoewel er genoeg NT's te vinden zijn, is contact maken met semi-sociale AS-ers een stuk lastiger. Je hebt natuur... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever lied about having a boyfriend? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 6:41 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 7,624
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ButterflyLady wrote: i have lied about having a boyfriend to get men to leave me alone when i'm not interested in them. i wouldn't do what you did though.
Yes, this! Warding off the creeps: "Well, I would love to chat, but I have to get going. My boyfriend is waiting for me!" Easiest getaway! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you ever recorded yourself or had video taken of you? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2012, 6:37 pm
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Replies: 24
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| In speech therapy in school they did voice recordings, and that made it harder as i hate my voice. I have actually been trying this for myself. Taking video's in which I talk about whatever, or read something I wrote, to find out how my voice sounds. Not only just how it sounds, but finding out whe... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Can you function on little sleep? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2012, 1:37 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 4,933
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| I have been diagnosed with DSPS recently. It means my biological clock is of by a few hours. I just can't get to sleep before 3am, no matter what I try. (Google it) It has been a problem for years now, but it has grown increasingly bad after a few months of no job or school and adjusting to my inner... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Dear "You"...From "Me"-Letters Unsent |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2012, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 4,989
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| Dear classmates, When I decided to go back to school to get a proper education, I was scared that I would never fit in. Now, even though that fear came true, it isn't that scary anymore. Because no matter how strange I may seem, most of you accept me as who I am. Some of you may be terrible, but all... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Psychology field trip to a mental hospital??? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 06 May 2011, 10:44 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 3,342
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| I actually lived in a mental hospital myself. The group I lived in had ten people, it was a group for normal functioning (is this the right term? I mean normal function when it comes to IQ) teens with schizophrenia/psychosis and all autistic spectrum diagnoses, who couldn't handle the real world at ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Tell me about "Cutting", please... |
| Choala |
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Posted: 06 May 2011, 10:28 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 4,916
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| When the inner pain becomes so big that you can't handle it, that you'll feel nauseous because of it, you'll try to find another pain for your body and mind to focus on. Cutting is one of those pains for the body. The guilt afterwards is one of the pains for the mind. Attention always has something ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Words for Women |
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Posted: 04 May 2011, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,941
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| I'm a girl and I don't even know what to use. I've been finding myself and my friends growing up. Where everyone used to be a boy or girl, some now are woman and men. I like using girl and boy, just because I've used them all my life. I still associate the words 'woman' and 'men' with those fearful ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The Friend Stigma |
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Posted: 04 May 2011, 4:28 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I've always been quite lucky when it came to friends. There are, right now, about five people whom I would call good friends. They're the ones I can laugh with, cry with, or just sit around doing nothing. They're the people who visit me, who I dare to call (I hate conversations on the phone so much)... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I want to end my life but I don't have the guts |
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Posted: 02 May 2011, 7:17 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Ending your life won't solve anything. I know, it's hard. But there are so many things yet to discover, to do. Be glad you don't have the guts to end your life, it means you still think there are things worth living for! I'd love to do a job where I'm at a computer (because that's what I've found ou... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What if we turn it around? |
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Posted: 02 May 2011, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,610
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| A lot of the friends I have are diagnosed with ASD. When I'm with them in a group and a NT joins in, funny things happen: - The NT feels left out. - The NT doesn't know what to do with his hands - The NT doesn't know were to look. - The NT doesn't know how to join in the conversation - The NT doesn'... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Am i the only one who thinks living with autism is Hell? |
| Choala |
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Posted: 02 May 2011, 6:52 pm
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Replies: 103
Views: 11,125
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| I don't know if living with autism is more of a hell than living when you're NT. I'm not NT, so I can't judge that. Life has been hard for me. Certainly harder than it has been for most of my NT friends. The simplest things could, and still can break me down completely. There are so many aspects of ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: No opportunities to practice? |
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Posted: 02 May 2011, 6:32 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,303
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| Opportunities to practice social skills are everywhere. Examples: - Grocery shopping. It happens to me all the time that whilst standing in line people start talking to me, or I start talking to them. It's amazing for practicing small talk. A slow moving line, funny little kids, realizing the one be... |
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