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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: NOT GOOD, Connecticut shooter was diagnosed with Aspergers.. |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2012, 5:54 pm
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Replies: 445
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| http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2012/12/16/autism-rights-group-aspergers-does-not-explain-newtown-school-massacre/ Did you see the first comment? Some people still don't understand even when a great news article like this ones explains our position as an autism community :(. I was about to post the sam... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What am I doing wrong? |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2011, 1:01 am
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Replies: 7
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| The internet is not a replacement for real physical/verbal interactions. Why would you default your best skill by trying to make those sort of high level relations on a place like Facebook? You are good in person... then use it! You've already succeeded where many Aspies will rarely succeed. Please ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Getting a girlfriend for the first time. |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2011, 12:26 am
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Replies: 34
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| I am great looking, but I'm afraid of getting my picture taken. One large tip for the coming many years ahead. Do not be afraid of getting pictures taken. Participate in them (grudgingly if needed), and remember to get a copy. Throw it in a box or folder in your computer. You are not keeping it to ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 20 year old son quit job, hiding in his room for past month |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2011, 11:03 am
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Replies: 62
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| i always felt like the odd one out in my classes especially in my general chemistry class. I grew up being picked on and when i would walk into the classroom i heard people laughing so i immediately thought they were laughing at me. I kinda just dealt with it and focused on my school work. I also t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social Help |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2011, 10:56 am
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Replies: 10
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| The one key thing with the opposite sex is... well that they are human too. Be interested in them. They have plenty of topics to divulge on. Just like you would if you were asked the same. The typically "don't know what to say" is kind of more "This girl is pretty, what am I allowed to say?" She obv... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 20 year old son quit job, hiding in his room for past month |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2011, 10:32 pm
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Replies: 62
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| Considering he at one time could do a dishwasher job with apparently (?) no work performance issue... If you like: "Do you want to go to Japan?" "No." (Does he look sure? Or is it just a refusal to refuse action period?) "If you want to go to Japan eventually or study/work there you'll need a BS." "... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he have AS or not? And if he does, do I tell him? |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2011, 1:16 am
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Replies: 17
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| Great story. Looks like your initial steps were good. However a guy like him probably needs time. Even if he spends a lot of time texting you and sometimes comes to see you, he still needs time to learn the trust and also how to learn about you. As he and you mentioned, if he cannot read people well... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How can anyone have no friends? |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2011, 11:13 pm
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Replies: 86
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| I had acquaintances in grade school... and I was lucky that a majority of my childhood mates came up the ranks with me. The familiarity of them made me never realize I had issues with TOM. In college I was more or less in line with GuyTypingOnComputer experience with some better everyday conversatio... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Reassessed |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2011, 3:33 am
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Replies: 25
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@littlelily613
You are reading ... this perhaps?
Asperger Syndrome [Hardcover]
Some of the random pages sampling talks about HFA, so maybe this was it I thought... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you dislike the most about aspergers syndrome |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2011, 2:43 am
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| Some things that immediately come to mind: 1) Lack of Empathy - Not being able to read people’s feelings 2) Not knowing how to show my love to those closest to me 3) Always getting things wrong, especially when acting on best intentions 4) Blindness to Non-verbal Communication in real time 5) Inabi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Would love to hear about happy Aspergians |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2011, 2:32 am
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Replies: 31
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| With your additional boy scout description, your son (if he is in HS) is actually better off then I was at that time. I too had people to hang with at school, but I have never had any real relationships at all. No outside groups at all. I unfortunately never was aware of my uniqueness (I didn't feel... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Strange things that you find attractive in a man/woman |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2011, 1:18 am
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Replies: 83
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just a few off the top of my head.
(in women)
glasses (not always in use)
Zettai Ryouiki
doesn't need to be stunning, but legs in general. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger/autism and large head size? |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2011, 12:22 am
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Replies: 33
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| Not exactly head size, but more recently a results of a study on brain size of infants came up with brain size based clues toward autism: http://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/news/20110502/brain-size-of-children-yields-clues-to-autism But in a interesting way this was a theory as early as 2003~ or so. ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Aspie blokes Career survival hints |
| Bodrik |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2011, 1:08 am
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Replies: 19
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ProudAspie wrote: 7. Build decompression time into your day (get a shed or take up golf!)
What is decompression time supposed to be? Some time alone or to collect thoughts/relax? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Seemingly getting over a crush, only for it to come back |
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Posted: 31 May 2011, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 9
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| If she is already married to someone then she will never be yours. The way I see it if someone is married it basically means the game is over, at least for you: she is never going to be with you, not in this lifetime at least. Yes, this is what I believe, which is why I wanted to get over the crush... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Seemingly getting over a crush, only for it to come back |
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Posted: 30 May 2011, 10:55 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I find that sometimes it helps to get to know the person you have such feelings for much better then initially. This helps remove any "aura" of superb attraction from the person and helps you move away from elevated feelings. This year I also for some bizarre reason ended up with a crush on a marrie... |
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