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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Lack of Confidence (Social Anxiety), Aspergers or Other? |
| Jarax |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2013, 12:05 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 7,491
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| I struggle with this. This is what I perceive, from my 'unique' point of view, even though it is tangential with what you have described in perfect detail: people are willing to let others into their group, and only judge if that person doesn't give them the security the group desires. This favors t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: You know you're autistic when... |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 11:35 pm
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Replies: 603
Views: 63,310
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| The thing I love about this forum is that it demonstrates the struggles with Theory of Mind in ways that we can all relate to. When we hear 'that' in correspondence to an object, it is interpreted as 'that', and only 'that'. This is relative to the 'forest and the trees' analogy, where we can't alwa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What exactly is "mild" Aspergers? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 12:13 am
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Replies: 93
Views: 21,554
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| For me, having mild Asperger's is frustrating because I can be so normal and responsive with certain people, particularly family and adults, but still fail to keep friendships going with peers. Is it an inability to reach out based on lack of knowledge on how to go about it? Why is this a problem fo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do I have mild aspergers or am I just an odd NT? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 12:07 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 16,239
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| To all high-functioning NTs, consider yourselves lucky, because if it is hard to tell, it ain't that bad |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Trust |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 12:04 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,975
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| This is why I only talk to people in a one-to-one situation. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I trust people who don't trust others |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:58 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,735
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| To be pure is to be 'you'. People think this is weird, because they want 'them'. Don't trust these people. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is Being Nice a Sign of Weakness? |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:53 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 8,025
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| Sometimes it is better to steer clear of those people. Even though they pretend to be 'nice' to you, they are only doing this to establish a sense of power over you by being cruel. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is Being Nice a Sign of Weakness? |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:47 pm
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Replies: 29
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| Be careful who you're nice to. People that are insecure can be unpredictable and take advantage of this in unpredictable ways :? leaving the innocent Aspie confused and wondering as to why that person would do something like this, what did I ever do to him/her? This is a world of exploitation, be ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and innocence, naivete, gullability, etc |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:39 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 17,860
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| Guile is a form of deception in order to get what you want. This can be a good thing if you want to trick people into believing you're something you're not based on how you come across through appearance, and a bad thing if and only if you're the kind of person who has low self-worth and uses guile ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too nice |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:33 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 3,387
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| Either I'm rude and indifferent, or too nice, depends on the situation. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being Taken Advantage Of? |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2013, 11:30 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 10,419
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| Only situations in which I've been taken advantage of were situations where I was tired and lost the energy to socialize. As this happens, I tend to become too trusting and open about certain things, and then it goes from there. It may seem subtle, but it hurts just as much as on the other extreme. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Gifted or Aspie? |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2013, 10:20 pm
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Replies: 80
Views: 11,450
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| Aspies can be gifted in compensation for areas of the brain that are atypical in their development. From my experience, I had severe developmental delays from age 2-5, and even though I've outgrown these, the deficits are still there albeit in a mild form. In a sense, Aspies that are gifted at spell... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: did I develop asperger's or is it just being antisocial? |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2013, 10:15 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 9,386
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| I guess it depends on the environment. Due to a survival instinct, people predisposed to Asperger's syndrome or a related social deficit revert to shyness or become quiet as a reaction in order to feel "safe". So maybe "quiet and shy" or "weird" is a way of saying, "I'm protecting myself from harm, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and the blank stare in childhood photos |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2013, 11:59 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 23,680
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| There was one situation where my expression froze for three to four seconds face to face with a friend, and if someone had taken a picture it would look like I was staring into space..funny thing is..this never happened to me in high school, or in middle school, in all those years everything was fin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and the blank stare in childhood photos |
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Posted: 08 Nov 2013, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 23,680
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| The blank stare strikes again! It bothers me because it goes away when I'm socializing in a group, but when I am directly talking to someone, my eyes start to fade into the distance :/ |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Called arrogant for not talking much |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2013, 3:35 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 9,420
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| Unfortuantely I struggle with this. It's hard sometimes for me to express how I feel especially in words, I seem normal in certain situations, but there are windows of vulnerability where I get thrown off. It's as if I am blind-sided and it may have to do with mild cognitive impairment. Sometimes I ... |
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