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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Had an interesting talk with my dad... |
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Posted: 09 May 2012, 1:05 pm
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| I actually had the same conversation just a few days ago! I hadn't told either of my parents that i was an aspie, but my hand was forced last week to tell my dad. I sent him a long email explaining it all because there was no way i could cover that stuff in conversation without losing it. Anyway, th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Poor motor skills as an adult? |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 14
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| I had similar diffucilties in early childhood. I refused to move on from velcro shoes to laces (and asked why i had to, and didn't get a very satisfactory logical answer!), and would spend entire days with my laces undone because i couldn't tie them and didn't ask any one to help. My handwriting was... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspies and terms of endearment |
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Posted: 03 May 2012, 12:37 pm
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Replies: 35
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| I don't know why i hate pet names, but i do. I've never used one, and my gf only very rarely uses one on me. If i have to refer to her i use a slight contraction of her name, but that's only really when in the presence of others and i have to make that distinction. I barely ever use anyone's name, c... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Self Advocacy and ASD |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2012, 10:41 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Sometimes, I had (and probably still have) some difficulty distinguishing between something that I should be able to get over/solve myself and something that requires help from another person. For example, I often saw asking the teacher for clarification as the absolute last resort. I felt as it wa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 21 year old Aspie failure in dating game? VERY depressed? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2012, 10:26 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Eventually things will fall into place for you. I've been gainfully employed since i was 15, i've had my own place for nearly a decade, and I met my first girlfriend at 23. Before then, not even a kiss. I understand your struggle, i was utterly alone and couldn't connect to any girl. Out of sheer lu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Dealing with Sarcastic People |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2012, 4:31 am
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Replies: 12
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| I'm really good at deadpan humour, and it brings me joy that i catch so many people unable to read me when i use it. It's fun to use my weakness as a strength. Then i get people who seem "normal" most of the time, but catch me out at entirely random times. The difference is that when they make me st... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Reveal a lie to a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2012, 5:57 am
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Replies: 14
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| I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years now, and we've known each other for 8. It was a very slow build up to our dating, and i had no idea she was attracted to me until after several dates in (i thought we were just friends going to museums to look at mutual interests!) she finally planted one on ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: About noticing details and observing people. |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2012, 3:21 am
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Replies: 31
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rebbieh wrote: I don't know about you, but I like noticing details! I think details make life more exciting 
It is fun, yes.
Are you one of the people that love pointing out continuity issues in movies? I think production companies need to hire more aspies to catch stuff like that.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: About noticing details and observing people. |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2012, 2:41 am
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| Thing is, I've always thought I'm quite good at understanding nonverbal language. Not all of it, but most of it. I understand when people are getting bored of me talking (I still continue talking though) and sometimes I can see if people are sad even though they don't mention it. I do have some dif... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: About noticing details and observing people. |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2012, 1:49 am
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I'm that way too, and i suspect a vast majority of aspies are.
I think it comes down to not inherently understanding people's nonverbal language, and being forced to do so very consciously. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When someone you know is seriously ill, or dying... |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2012, 1:41 am
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| It's hard to objectively look at an AS response unless you've been on both sides of the fence (and noone develops it), so i'm afraid i'll just have to use a story: A couple of years ago, my girlfriend's brother ran away to a hotel and overdosed on drugs. He'd had a hard life, a brutal divorce, and l... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Is college better than high school? |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2012, 9:09 am
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Replies: 10
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| I found that while bullying generally evaporates once you hit university/college, you also lose interaction with your cohort which really damages your ability to proceed through the courses efficiently. I struggled through my degree because the more limited interaction with peers (always seeing new ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 34 just now diagnosed AS... now what? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2012, 9:37 pm
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Replies: 32
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| My whole life had passed with me feeling like i was on the outside of society looking in. I had seen some slight misrepresentations of asperger's on TV and thought "some of that looks like me, but the rest... nooo". Then my boss of 8 years asked my coworker if i was autistic. Once this got back to m... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Older aspies and social cues |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2012, 12:10 pm
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Replies: 37
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| With most people i compile a "library" of interaction with them, but i still see people i regularly meet who throw me off constantly and i don't understand why. I know to stop short of spewing a monlogue at them, and i try to keep some back-and-forth, but i just know i put them off in some way. I'm ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Frustrating when I can't think of words I want to use. |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2012, 10:48 am
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Replies: 15
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| I think this happens to everyone, but i don't think everyone dwells on the word for several hours until they get it and spontaneously blurt it out like i do. :p |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your earliest "reported" signs of autism |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2012, 9:17 am
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Replies: 34
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My mum still points out that i used to rub different particular fabrics against my skin for comfort from a very young age. That was the first.
The second was that i spent far more time interacting with our pets than with other people, and personified the pets. |
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