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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: overstimulated by happiness? |
| ratlady |
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Posted: 26 May 2006, 7:30 am
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Replies: 8
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| ... I felt an excess of energy that I couldn't do anything with, so I paced around the house for about an hour. I actually felt better after I calmed down than I did when I was "happy". An excess of energy you can't do anything with - that's a perfect description for the feeling. Thanks for the rep... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Deep Body Pressure |
| ratlady |
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Posted: 25 May 2006, 10:52 am
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Replies: 80
Views: 21,473
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| Who believes all that stuff about deep pressure being especially good for people with AS and autism? I don't know many people who would refuse a good massage. I don't think anyone said deep pressure is "good for" people on the autistic spectrum. But it's been observed that people with various neuro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: overstimulated by happiness? |
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Posted: 25 May 2006, 9:35 am
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| Whenever we talk about the things that overstimulate us, we talk about physical stimuli like light and noise and odor and texture, etc. But what about stimuli/activities that we enjoy? Maybe even our obsessions themselves? For example, my biggest, life-long obsession has been comparative religion. I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Deep Body Pressure |
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Posted: 25 May 2006, 9:09 am
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Replies: 80
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| I'm not entirely sure what deep pressure is , is it painful? Some people on the autistic spectrum enjoy (are comforted/calmed by) sensations of deep pressure - as opposed to a light touch. It could range from a good firm hug or massage to lying under "props" such as heavy (even specially-made weigh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Who here is still strongly dependant on others at adulthood? |
| ratlady |
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Posted: 22 May 2006, 8:06 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,545
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| I was dependent until my parents kicked me out of the house at age 23. I certainly wouldn't recommend that path to anyone, but it has been a valuable learning experience. While I think it's a blessing to have people in our lives that we can depend on, it can also make it too easy to overlook our own... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do so many aspies want friends? |
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Posted: 20 May 2006, 8:25 pm
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Replies: 67
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| Wanted to second (or third) your post. At an extreme level, I want/need someone to make sure I'm not laying dead for a week in my apt. before anyone bothers to notice I'm gone. Y'know ? I want to second yours in return - this is one thought absolutely haunts me. I could die today, here on my couch,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: T-shirts, stickers, etc |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 11:44 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 3,011
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| It's not directly aspie, but I've always identified with the sticker that says "I'll try being nicer if you try being smarter" |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Office Protocol |
| ratlady |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 11:08 am
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Replies: 21
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| When someone asks me "How's it going?" I like to respond with "It's almost gone." HAH! :lol: I like that, I'll have to try it next time. I tend to fall back on "Slowly" since that's usually how I feel in the office. It's... going..... ver..y... slowly. Plus it creates a break in the person's habitu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I lost my only Friend |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 1:08 am
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Replies: 6
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| I'm so sorry, Cowgirl, I know how painful losing a friend can be. I recently lost someone I had felt close to and believed I could trust, so the betrayal still feels fresh for me. My family never took the time to understand me either, so they're not in the picture. I'd like to offer words to help bu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do so many aspies want friends? |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 12:55 am
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Replies: 67
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| I want friends for two reasons. First, I believe that life is incomplete without connecting to people. It's tough to explain without getting too deep into my spiritual beliefs, but I just don't think we can know ourselves completely without getting to know others, and as humans we tend to form socie... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Eye Contact |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 12:36 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 7,787
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| It's suffocating, it actually makes me feel like the person is closing in on me and I can't breathe. I mostly talk to people at work so I find excuses to write a note or fidget with a pen or refer to the computer screen while talking so I don't have to think about eye contact. When I do try to hold ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Who has no friends? |
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Posted: 17 May 2006, 12:02 am
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Replies: 133
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| I automatically think of friendship as temporary, because in 30 years it always has been. I'll occasionally connect with someone, have a lot in common, spend loads of time together, naively think this time it might last... Then they're gone. I never know why. There's never been an *incident* - it's ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Office Protocol |
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Posted: 16 May 2006, 11:48 pm
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Replies: 21
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| Does anyone have prosopagnosia (face blindness)? It's hard enough to know how to respond to fake questions ("Hi, how are you?") when you know who you're talking to, but when a random face walks up in the break room and says "How's it going?" and I can't identify him, he could be using general fake q... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Workplace "Diversity" |
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Posted: 16 May 2006, 6:05 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Actually I had hope in the beginning too. And for the first year, every session included a feedback form - which itself made me more hopeful. Not only are they opening up to the uniqueness of their employees but they want to hear if we think they're doing it right. So, yes, I always gave very detail... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Workplace "Diversity" |
| ratlady |
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Posted: 16 May 2006, 10:45 am
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Replies: 6
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| Thanks for your replies. Ugh, after reading the posts I've read here in the past couple days I almost feel I'm not allowed to thank you, but the truth is I'm grateful you've both spent your own time thinking through this with me. It's validating to know I'm not the only one who sees what's wrong wit... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Workplace "Diversity" |
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Posted: 15 May 2006, 11:54 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I wonder if anyone has any feelings about this Diversity movement sweeping corporate America? I work for a Fortune 500 company, and as has become required (aka trendy) we now have an active diversity committee creating various programs and training sessions to show our collective sensitivity to the ... |
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