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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Men with Asperger's Initiate Dates? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 10:44 pm
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Replies: 119
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Elfwink wrote: I'm a woman, and I do about 50~90% of initiating with men. No one has ever raised this as a problem. I don't think my male dates and/or partners have ever felt emasculated by me being the initiator.
That's awesome. Go get 'em! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think I might be in love with my best friend |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 8:29 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 588
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| Hello there, this is my first post on here. I hope I won't write too much and I hope someone can help me: I am a 28 year old Aspie-girl, I study political science, I am very artsy and weird, people either love me or hate me, I don't have many friends and have a lot of burned bridges. My best friend... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Beating depression |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 7:32 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 356
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| So... when I do like a girl I should... act as though I don't? That doesn't seem right, but maybe it is. I'm gonna need to figure this one out. When a man see a potential partner, he lacks patience to be friends with her in the first place, he just wants to keep her all to himself as fast as he can... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Beating depression |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 7:29 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 356
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| So what was the drug you had the bad reaction to? I think you're right when you say it's all about neurotransmitters. You just have to keep trying until you find the right medication. I take effexor and abilify with risperidone. Took me 40 years to find the right combination. It has made a huge dif... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: How is your short term memory? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 4:53 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 588
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| I just ask because I get the feeling my short term memory is particularly bad, while my long term memory is probably about average. When I'm at work and doing small, miscellaneous tasks I always have lists and such to keep track of what I need to do and what I've done. When I'm finished with a group... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Beating depression |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 356
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| The main thing I get sad about is not ever being able to find a girl… I only focused on this part of the sentence..... And as one of your friends, I wanted to let you see a female's view about how a male could approach girls.=) Right now what you need is a cute girl friend. I guess your company has... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: All Existence Is Interdependent |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2015, 3:16 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 729
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| Interdependent (adj.): 1. mutually dependent; depending on each other. Under this definition, an event in one location affects everything else in the Universe. Neat idea. Try to prove it. For instance, I just dropped a fork in my kitchen. How did it affect you? Scientifically speaking, everything a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Living in hell - I'm stuck |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2015, 9:32 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 353
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| I have depression rather than BPD, but I feel like I'm in a similar spot in life. I don't really have advice for how to get out of the rut you're in (or I wouldn't be in the same place!), but I want to at least say you're not alone. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Beating depression |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2015, 8:56 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 356
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| Hi there fellow aspies! I have struggled with insomnia and depression for my entire adult life. I think I've finally found a long term solution for insomnia (Trazodone, the best med I've ever taken), but the depression is still around. I take antidepressants, which help somewhat, but nothing seems t... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: How do you stay out of trouble in real life? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2015, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,638
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| It's a two part process - be good at your job and be likable. Step one - Being good at your job is a mix of determination/hard work plus your natural aptitude for the work. The best advice I can offer is to figure out what you're good at and try to get into that field. The ideal situation would be s... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Apparently I don't understand how to get a job |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2015, 1:14 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,689
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| I never could pass those inane personality tests either. Or at least, if I did, they still didn't read my resume. I had to get a bachelor's degree to have any luck at all. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Suck at Dating |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2015, 12:37 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 599
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| Welcome to the forum Ashley, and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down. I've been thinking a lot about dating, recently, because I also have not been having much luck. I feel that most people, to use your words, "suck at dating". Maybe we suck a bit more, but judging by all those sad songs... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Special Interests - Can they be changed? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2015, 8:48 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 495
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| I'e been thinking about special interests lately. Do you magnificent people know of any cases where a spectrumite's special interest was changed intentionally? I'd include slight shifts, too... like intentionally switching that laser-like focus from, say, watching formula one racing to an intense dr... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Have you asked for a raise? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2015, 8:39 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 368
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| If so, how did you go about it and how did it go? I wish I had thought to ask this on my survey. I'm just curious now. I'm wondering because I know an aspie who is probably making significantly less than he would if he had ever negotiated for raises. But I know this person hasn't because it would b... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What Is Your Biggest Fetish/Kink? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2015, 8:06 pm
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Replies: 146
Views: 2,091
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| My biggest kink is that I like being in control in the bedroom. I'm also very fond of the mouth/lips of cute women, so a woman who is putting on lipstick or smoking or eating a popsicle really get my attention... though I've never dated a smoker or even someone who wore lipstick often. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How important is sex to you? |
| Nathaniel75 |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2015, 7:58 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 2,962
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Drawyer wrote: Food is more important than sex.
True. However, while sex is not necessary to continue existing, it is necessary to start existing in the first place! |
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