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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fake it 'til you make it? |
| Xyzzy |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2015, 9:38 am
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Replies: 8
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| I'm in my late 40's and over the years, I've learned to play the role of a neurotypical convincingly well. I may be perceived as a bit aloof at times, but I've learned to read people, recognize what's expected of me and respond accordingly. Unless you know me well or have seen the façade slip when I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Accents, speech inflections and tones |
| Xyzzy |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 4:02 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 5,095
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| What's odd is the accent isn't American even though I've grown up in the states. I've had many people comment on my unique accent that I wasn't even aware I had. I have to be careful because, while I don't conciously notice accents, I do tend to pick them up quite easily. I've had many people comme... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Feedback from Interview |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,664
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| "The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you've got it made." - Jean Giraudoux (1882 - 1944) One of the things that helped me most with interviewing was a "job search" class that we had to go through before graduating. As part of the class, they did mock-interviews which were vide... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Reading at a conference, terrified! |
| Xyzzy |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2012, 10:56 am
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Replies: 8
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| The poetry thing was only for about 30-40 people. It was something that I was asked to do by a friend who was organizing the event. It was the first time outside of high-school/college where I had presented something personal rather than something professional. Oddly enough, I accepted just out of h... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Reading at a conference, terrified! |
| Xyzzy |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2012, 11:15 am
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Replies: 8
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| It's the emotion side I'm nervous about- don't usually express emotion and trying to read expressively in front of a lot of people I don't know is a bit intimidating Part of the problem may be that you're thinking about the "right" or expected way to express the emotion. I know that I don't express... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Feedback from Interview |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2012, 10:53 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,664
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| I completely understand. I've done the interview-self-sabotage a lot recently. In the past, I've gone in playing the role of "Perfect Candidate #1", pretending to be as normal as possible. While I've accurately shared my skills and experience, I've buried my personality under a facade. However, as I... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Reading at a conference, terrified! |
| Xyzzy |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2012, 3:09 pm
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| Oddly enough, I'm terrified of meeting new people and socializing, but I have absolutely no trouble with public speaking. There are a couple of recommendations that I can make to help you get over your fear. 1) Since you'll be reading a creative work, you can abandon a lot of the rules for public sp... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The brain of an autistic person |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2012, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I've only done casual research, so don't treat this as gospel. Also, Autism is a whole spectrum of disorders (not just in severity, but also in how it manfests) My understanding is that in some severe cases of Autism, there is a clear overgrowth of white matter (the "connections"), often to the poin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do some NT's wish they were like us ? |
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Posted: 19 May 2012, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 4,803
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| Well, I think it's the intellect thing. It's more pronounced in Taiwan, where we value brains a lot, even as teens. And I am a good clown with a sharp tongue. It somehow makes me very popular with my peers. Interesting. I hadn't really made the cultural connection before. I did a lot of work around... |
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Forum: Stats Topic: Are you male or female? |
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Posted: 19 May 2012, 12:38 pm
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Replies: 17
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| ..Is that the trend for the Autistic/Asperger's demographic as well? That's a good question. I haven't seen much, if any, research on social media, online behavior, etc. and autism. It would be a fascinating area, though. I would speculate that in social interaction, we'd probably do better in a so... |
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Forum: Stats Topic: Are you male or female? |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 2:12 pm
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Replies: 17
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| I don't know if there are actually more male aspies then female, it's just that female aspies don't get diagnosed as often because they have different ways of coping with the disorder. I wonder how much of it is coping and how much was society ignoring the traits in women. A quiet, shy woman who wo... |
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Forum: Stats Topic: Are you male or female? |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 1:51 pm
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Replies: 17
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| The only problem with the survey is that it's self-selecting. Males are more considerably more likely to complete web surveys than females. So your results are going to be skewed from the start. :) You'd get slightly better results if you just asked Alex if there was a site stats page that you coul... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Would you want to be identified as an Aspie in the workplace |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 10:28 am
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Replies: 10
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| I'm currently putting together a case to create an Aspie/HFA intern program in a large IT group. As a closet Aspie, I know that the opportunities are here and that there are places where "eccentricities" are handled well and with a minimum of stress for everyone concerned. I also firmly believe in t... |
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Forum: Stats Topic: Are you male or female? |
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Posted: 14 May 2012, 10:10 am
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Replies: 17
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| The only problem with the survey is that it's self-selecting. Males are more considerably more likely to complete web surveys than females. So your results are going to be skewed from the start. :) You'd get slightly better results if you just asked Alex if there was a site stats page that you could... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do some NT's wish they were like us ? |
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Posted: 07 May 2012, 2:22 pm
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Replies: 42
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kill231 wrote: JanuaryMan wrote: No one really wants to be like us, they just want to be special or not classed as normal. Are these people by chance teenagers? Yes they are
All bets are off then. Teenagers are a completely different species in my opinion.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Typos/grammar errors |
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Posted: 07 May 2012, 1:11 pm
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Replies: 15
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| they're are going to be Peoples that get there panties all up in thier over this. But thats you're problem. so, i Axe youse: does bad grammers and spelings piss U off. eye s'pose that if you's sombodies that gets bugged real easy. then, it would of got irritatin quick. My head hurts just from typing... |
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