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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2011, 6:22 am
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| what I hear is a lot of trans people saying they have a right to lie to non-trans people because (list of excuses about how it's tough to be trans), and that non-trans people (if "people" is actually the right word since you really don't seem to regard us as such) have no right to make informed dec... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Going through the motions... |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2011, 5:13 pm
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| I've felt that way before. Glad it's not just me :) I also tend to feel like I'm just going through the motions in other areas of my life, too, though, so I think it's a broader problem for me. Definitely. I only confined the question to relationships since this is the "Love & Dating" forum. Of... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2011, 5:05 pm
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@XFilesGeek
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what according to you is more important in a relationship? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2011, 6:04 pm
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| It has to be intellectual stimulation! A couple of years ago I was talking to a theoretical physicist who works at CERN. The guy was short, overweight, bearded and in his 60's... but by the time he'd explained to me why there have to 13-Dimensions in the Universe, I was just about ready to rip his c... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Going through the motions... |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2011, 6:08 am
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| Is it just me, or does anyone else feel as though they're just going through the motions when in a relationship? I don't mean that I don't care deeply about, possibly even love, the person I'm with. Rather, I'm talking about doing things because they're expected and everyone else seems to do them. F... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 12:11 pm
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| please read the edit in my last answer to you |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 11:49 am
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| [1] (This is bound to be disputed) My masculinity and maleness is defined largely by my interactions with women - being desired by them and (oh the burdens of masculinity!) being useful to them. So my (perhaps flawed) projection is that a woman's femininity and femaleness would be defined by her in... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 11:39 am
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| I dont think it would really even matter which bits I saw. It doesnt matter for me if the person is male, or mtf, or ftm - Any association with male gender just triggers that subconcious response. The point I was trying to make before is that whether I found out right away or months later, either w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 10:31 am
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| rib, I did not mean that as a general statement. I meant only that i personally would lose attraction because they fall outside of my sexual orientation. OK. Sorry for the misunderstanding. What I don't understand though, and perhaps someone can explain this to me, is why should sleeping with speci... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 8:50 am
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| If we're talking about a short-term encounter, I'd probably just walk out and laugh about it later. You're assuming that you would know. So even if attraction could somehow have built to the point where I could look past it aesthetically, it wouldn't matter. Apart from the generally insulting natur... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 7:58 am
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| I have refined my worldview slightly during the course of this thread. I no longer view (f.e.) a transwoman as a man who thinks he is a woman and has surgically altered his body. Wooo-Hoooo!! !! ! Progress indeed :D I refer back to my earlier posts where I say that transsexuals would be better lear... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2011, 6:07 am
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| You feel a person's "true gender" is reliant upon their having, or not having, a Y chromosome. Transsexuals don't agree that the presence or absence of a Y chromosome is what determines their "true gender." That's what people are "nitpicking" in your posts Thank you for expressing that so well. I a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Northern meet? |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 7:25 pm
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I'd be happy for a meet-up  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 2:19 pm
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Quote: we're no going to get anywhere
Fair enough!
Agree to disagree I guess. Sorry about the "bigot" comment. It just got to me. If there's no hate and you don't pre-judge people solely on the basis of a gender history, then that's OK with me. Some trans peeps are actually quite nice. Honest  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 10:37 am
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| @lilypadfad I don't think I misunderstood. Really? What part of: Personally I think that if I'm going to enter into a relationship with someone then they should know is hard to understand? I think you must be fixating on: Not because it's lying or untruthful if I don't, but because it forms a part o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If it turned out your partner was transsexual... |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 4:29 am
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| A man born with XY chromosomes believes he is a woman. Ok. It seems intuitive to me that this is a disorder of the mind, not the body. He is a man, who thinks he is a woman, not a woman born with a man's body At the risk of being highly pedantic, that's simply not true. The function of the second g... |
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