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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Friends as "bridge" to dating.... lying |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2012, 2:22 pm
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| I understand the theory of, "make more friends, have a bigger social circle to just meet girls." The thing is though, I DON'T want any guy friends. I just want 1 solitary girlfriend, and mabye 2 or 3 other friends at most. I don't want a big social circle I have to make massive overwhelming commitme... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Who here has dealt with overrcorrection by family/friends? |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2012, 1:56 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Same here, I was picked apart for years by parents, teachers, sergeants, etc, but all it did was destroy my confidence. They tried for years and years to normalize me and intensely drilled me in social skills to get me up to par. It was always so harsh though, and it just broke me down and made me f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What would be hell for you? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2012, 4:19 am
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Replies: 64
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| Perpetually stuck in Marine Corps Boot Camp (MCRD San Diego) for an indefinite period of time. (This WAS reality and actual hell for me for 6 months, b4 I was DXed.) As far as something more hypothetical, I have to immediately concur with the idea of being buried alive, and perhaps confined in a sma... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "too emotionless" to have a relationship |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2012, 4:19 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Yeah, when I was discussing this with my mother, she imposed on me the idea that 'if I was in a relationship, my girlfriend and I would do nothing but "fight all of the time."' I attempted to respond to her and explain to her the difference between constructive and destructive conflict. Personally, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "too emotionless" to have a relationship |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2012, 3:05 pm
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Replies: 7
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| The majority of people in my life are of the opinion that I am "cold" and lacking emotion. I know the exact opposite is true, however, as I feel sometimes like I am literally bursting at the seams with feelings and emotions, esp. regarding possible romance. My mother thinks apparently that I am too ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 4:40 am
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Replies: 140
Views: 30,658
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| So, I wrote a few paragraphs on line, big deal. It sounds like you have better things to do anyway than read these forums. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 4:31 am
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Replies: 140
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^ Whatever.
For me, getting a girlfriend is not just something to "check the box" on a massive checklist of life. I take it seriously, and it deserves more thought than just going through some platonic ritual. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 4:27 am
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Replies: 140
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^ Its not just getting a girlfriend, but its the process of getting a girlfriend. Its like a vacation......... getting there is half the fun.
Just "getting a girlfriend" is not the end-all. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 3:51 am
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Replies: 140
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| ^ Mabye I have more to say than just a soundbyte or a one-liner? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2012, 3:38 am
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Replies: 140
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| Wow.... I have had a couple of days to reflect on this, but I can not believe where this thread has gone. In the first place, I refrained from saying this yesterday out of respect, but I feel absolutely insulted by the repeated assertions that I have ignored all of the advice. That is absolutely lud... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 29 Feb 2012, 3:34 am
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Replies: 140
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| I think there's just something horribly wrong with me tbh. I have no idea what evil I have done in my life to compel me in to such loneliness. I can tell even in the tone from posters on here, that they clearly think I am just some sort of troglodyte with no confidence and no social skills. I'm not ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 9:52 pm
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Replies: 140
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| ^No, I do think they deserve mates, but I don't understand why not having social skills should be looked at so different as not having physical or mental skills. I can't put myself in their shoes though as I've never had any girl ever say or even hint that she was attracted to me. I would not even k... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 9:46 pm
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^ I said that they DO have mates. I don't understand how other people can neglect other key components of their life, but still find partners......... but if you are socially deficient, that is somehow so different and untouchable?
Even though I have "gaps" in my social skills, I am still worthy. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 9:42 pm
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Replies: 140
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| ^ Yeah, I have 2 dogs actually. I might try a dog park tbh, but I don't know where 1 is atm. I will have to look that up tbh. I also agree that my night classes are not a very social crowd I suppose. Its definitely kind of a "check-the box" kind of thing, and something people just kind of hustle tow... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 9:31 pm
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| therwise highly crafted social skills will pretty much be an expectation. I kind of agree. I think that instantly telling that you have AS during the "first impression" stage might be an immediate no-go tbh. I would try it online, but I can't say I would ever tell a girl immediately to her face in ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Every girl I ask out "already has a boyfriend." |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2012, 9:24 pm
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Replies: 140
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| ^ Yeah, while this may sound terribly embarassing, I just asked my mom if she would help me put together an online profile on that match.com, and she agreed. I would do it, but anything I write to "describe myself" would just come off as "weird." I know I am a good writer and all, but I can't make m... |
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