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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Guest Article For Forbes |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 11:35 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,569
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| Reading this and thinking back to my 20s, I can now attest that I dodged more than one bullet and was very, very lucky. Things could have turned very badly against me on numerous occasions, not unlike some of the outcomes noted in the article. I wonder how many times, when we read some news story ab... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are You Able to Hide Your Aspergers? |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 11:27 pm
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Replies: 88
Views: 15,534
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| I try but often fail. It's gotten worse the older I've become. I think it's the whole "age appropriateness" issue. When I was 18 I was probably mentally 16 (in the social dimension). Now that I am in my mid to late 40s, but apparently stuck at a mental age of about 30, it makes it much more difficul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact in 3 person conversations |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 11:21 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 4,244
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| Yes. I also notice that I have trouble moving my eye contact between multiple people in a group conversation. This is probably what NTs pick up on. The "slow eye" many of us seem to have. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My wife wants to leave me because of my aspieness |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 12,471
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| Seems that every few days I do something that does not meet her expectations. There will be a couple of good days, but there is always some new issue lurking just over the horizon. I spend all my energy outside of work concentrating on not repeating the past issues, but that means, my mental blindne... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Tiredness worsening symptoms exponentially? |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2012, 11:36 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,698
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Yes, definitely. Then it will become a downward spiral: sleep deficit leads to lower functioning, leads to work issues and domestic strife, quality and quantity of sleep further reduced, etc.
I worry sometimes it may do me in. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feeling like a kid trapped in an adult body |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2012, 10:53 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 6,231
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| When I was age 4 adults would remark that I was like a little professor. Sadly, now, approaching the half century mark, the commandant of the Stalag I live in remarks that she has to "teach me" things her friends are teaching their adolescent children. Granted she is from a non Anglospheric culture ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Bleak |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2012, 10:21 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 512
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| Bide your time. You will likely have a role, especially if you are young. What we've seen the past 10 years is but a minor warning wave of what is to come. The NT world in its current bourgeois, "Enlightenment" birthed incarnation, has been rotting. All that is post Treaty of Westphalia is headed fo... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: New Years depressing me, need to talk... |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2012, 9:55 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 3,212
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| 40 something and looking back ... Milestones are not all they are cracked up to be. In retrospect, my own obsession with milestones led to many serious decision errors at key turning points. In far too much of a hurry to reach "grown up" status and reach independence in order to engage in hedonism A... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why is our childlike behaviour always a bad thing? |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 11:26 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 3,744
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They way the world is going, it may end up be a saving grace.
The current "non naive" system is headed for the rocks.
Our "naivete" is simply an older more profound grasp on what matters when one age gives way to another. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ret*d |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 11:23 pm
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Replies: 55
Views: 5,681
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| I was first called ret*d by my wife, after my Dx. It was not done as a joke. It was an epithet. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Marriage - when to bin it |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 11:16 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 489
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| you are not financially responsible for her. If you have children then i guess that is more complicated. do you still love each other despite problems? Thankfully there are no children. We do still love each other in a sense (probably more me loving her than the other way around). It is a pessimist... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Marriage - when to bin it |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 11:14 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 489
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| Doesn't sound too promising. Are there still things you like about her and she about you? It would be interesting to hear her side of the story. There are still things we like about each other. The challenge is, she cannot let go of anger and has built up an immense resentment about my AS, my famil... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Looking for solutions to better my marriage. |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 4,303
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| I've discovered belatedly that the best match for many if not most of us ASDers is either another ASDer (but beware of certain pitfalls) or an NT who's a very easy going person. If we end up with partners who tend to be critical, parental or are impaired with OCPD, OCD, PTSD, BPD, or other things wh... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Resulting problems from late diagnosed Aspergers |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 10:48 pm
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Replies: 47
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| Approaching a half century of life, nearly 4 years after Dx ... it's a bittersweet feeling. I now see how the combination of my AS, my naivete and my romanticism combined to make me take several wrong turns, especially in the relationship department. Knowing what I know now, I'd have played more to ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Here's a big f*****g middle finger to the world |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2011, 3:55 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,119
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| I've known for the longest time what a f**** up world this is to live in, but for some reason I've never really gotten jaded by it. Matter of fact I find myself feeling more and more disgusted by the stupidity and arrogance that runs rampant in society as the years pass by. Yeah that's all there re... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: So I Get It. Again. |
| Stevo1965 |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2011, 3:35 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,440
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This is why I have refused to try making kids.
Not only does the Nanny State increasingly attack parental rights, furthermore, the innate complications of my ASD and possible passage of it to offspring are a serious contrary indication. |
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