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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trying to make a new friend... Help? |
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Posted: 27 May 2013, 9:34 am
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Replies: 4
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| Thanks everyone for your replies, I hate to continue asking questions, but I need to know more... How do I take it to the next level? How do I go from being that casual acquaintance, and become her friend? Thanks in advance! It's really a blurry line between acquaintance and friend. If you want to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How Lonely are you? Try the UCLA Loneliness scale |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 11:35 am
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Replies: 145
Views: 88,109
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35. Extreme Loneliness
Yeah, I FEEL that lonely. Too much exclusion and 'friends' leaving me b/c of my wierd AS quirks caused me to feel lonely and depressed... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it best to keep having AS a secret |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 11:26 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 128,597
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| Yes. Being AS (the label) carries a lot of social stigma and makes people dislike you, treat you badly, and be disrespected with everything you say being not valued. Many NT's aren't actually NT anyway. Try to hide your AS as good as you can when with new people. But understand that you can never hi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: If you are shy or introverted... |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 11:20 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,291
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| That I'm a loser with no social skills or friends. Both are blatantly untrue. This. So many people in my current school think this way of me b/c i have such a bad reputation here, which in turn causes my confidence and social skills to be much worse than they are when I'm outside. I mean, yes I'm a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do people take you seriously IRL? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 11:02 am
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Replies: 25
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| Yeah, this is a big problem with me. Many people, especially my schoolmates, doesn't take me seriously due to my bad reputation in school as a 'weird' kid due to my AS. This is exemplified b/c of my weak communications skills, again due to my AS. Whenever I talk about things, even though I understan... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do people here think NT kids have no innocence? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 10:51 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,486
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| Because they don't. Simple as that. Never assume someone is innocent. And don't turn a blind eye on people either. It's a good way of getting abused and manipulated by others. Especially NT's, as an AS, with their superior ability for social communications and understanding, they're much better in r... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trying to make a new friend... Help? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 10:20 am
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Replies: 4
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| For me, making friends aren't that hard, but keeping them is what I struggle with. For making friends just greet him/her and talk about common interests and whatever you both have in common, talk in a few conversations and there you get a friendship. Keeping friends, on the other hand, is the proble... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you think the way NTs socialize is beautiful? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 10:03 am
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Replies: 59
Views: 10,739
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| It certainly makes me inferior to them. It makes me depressed just watching them while I stand on the sidelines not knowing what to say. This. This is what i feel all the time seeing my friends talk, be liked by others, and handle social situations with ease. Very depressing. This is probably the m... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Have I "grown out" of my asperger's? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 10:02 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,405
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| AS isn't something people can 'grow out' of. It affects people no matter their age, and even if you get treatment to get better, the AS is still there lingering on, and no treatment can make it fully gone, only decreased in intensity, and even then with all the treatment you can get AS will still be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do NTs treat you like their younger than you? |
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Posted: 26 May 2013, 9:41 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 5,282
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| In my case, yes. Due to our social awkwardness, and the fact that most of us lack social connections and thus ignorant of the things that is common knowledge for the people of our age group (rumors, common interests, gossip, etc), we tend to be seen as lacking maturity and being 'childish'. Also, ou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: how weird is this and should i feel ashamed? |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 8:07 am
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Replies: 21
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| What's so weird about that? It's perfectly normal. No you shouldn't feel ashamed. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Explaining or Educating |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2012, 8:47 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,129
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| Probably your classic case of 'you're functioning well so you can't be autistic'. Explain to her that autism is a spectrum and it comes in many different levels. Then explain to her that "I have aspergers which is in the mild / high-functioning end of the spectrum", and that "I'm better off than mos... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trouble keeping friends? |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2012, 8:12 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 9,192
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| I do have trouble making friends and afterwards keeping friends-it is very difficult for me to do-its rough and I just have so much difficulty much of the time-it gets pretty depressing sometimes being alone. yes I have this problem too.......people get tired of me. :( glad to see I'm not the only ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trouble keeping friends? |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2012, 9:55 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 9,192
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| bump for more responses/opinions |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Creating your own ideal job/ occupation |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2012, 5:46 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,096
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: WTF! does my coming off as intelligent scare people? |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2012, 5:33 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 6,179
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Having high intelligence is generally seen by people as a form of superiority. This causes people with high intelligence to be intimidating to others, just like how big, tall people scare the hell out of smaller people.
Then again, I'm no psychologist. Just what I think/I've seen. |
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