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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Advice for NTs married to Aspies |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 10:24 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,706
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| Tell him what you want. And for the love of God please do not ask if the dress makes you look fat unless he has learned how to suck up. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How Do I Cope |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 10:23 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,489
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| Oh wow. You're definitely at a level that will make or break you guys. Maybe he needs some space to figure out what he wants to do and is stressed about marriage. Maybe something else happened and he isn't able to talk about it yet. Or maybe it might be done. Just give it a few days and let him calm... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm so confused and depressed |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 10:12 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 812
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| Get rid of them both. Bros before hoes so to speak |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: A Happy Beginning? |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 10:11 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 498
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| Go for it man. At least she understands what she is getting to and has an idea of how to deal with you. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Methods, Ways, Ideas, How to Cope with Certain AS Behaviors |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 10:05 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,153
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| Meltdowns are often caused by too much stimuli (noise, bright lights, etc. depending on which affects him) and stressing the brain. The best thing is give him a little time to cool off. View it as a time to go hang with your girls, etc. Sometimes, meltdowns may just be an emotional response of anger... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor problems |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:46 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,145
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| Ok you got two things to deal with here. First, H's personality, and second, Child Services. 1) Honestly if it bothers you that much, you need to determine if you are willing to sever ties in order to preserve your sanity. She is going to bring you down with her emotionally and it will suck. You nee... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bluntness and feeling bad about it |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:38 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,061
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| +1 I'm still learning that I have to say things to make the person feel better. If I realize I say something a little blunt that may offend them, I quickly say "oops I'm sorry, that was a little blunt." Practice makes perfect pencils. :p |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Constantly angry over grammatical errors by others |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 11,398
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Grammar Nazis. *runs*
I hate it but it doesn't bother me. If you can't function in life maybe the OCD part of your Aspieness is getting the better of you and you might need to check it out? |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "Reply to all" |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:33 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 577
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| People are idiots. Apparently your coworkers are among them. Ignore it or create an Outlook rule. And yes, I got that from House. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Work/Life Balance |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:30 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 894
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| Are you supposed to be on call 24/7? If not, develop the mentality that when you clock out, you clock out. Also learn to exercise or something to relieve stress anyway. Even going for a walk will relieve stress. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Aspie meltdown at work - Disciplinary measures instigated. |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:28 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,753
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| They violated the law when they denied you an advocate assuming you live in the US (judging by what you wrote, it sounds like you are). (Read the ADA thread just near here.) If they try to fire you for your meltdown, then you definitely have the law on your side. One thing you could do is mention to... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: A reminder to all of you diagnosed have ADA coverage. |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:12 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,285
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| +1. I don't want to get diagnosed either for those reasons. I'm okay with ADHD because people with that can function at a job and it's not so bad, but autism has a stigma. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: depressed/upset about getting a job.. |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:08 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 16,449
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| Welcome to being an adult. I wish I had it like a kid in some ways but my childhood sucked so then I remember the freedoms I have as an adult. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Appraisal Time |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2012, 9:00 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 6,657
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| Is your quality of work good? |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Forced to dress as 'Batman' on Halloween at work |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2012, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,597
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| Maybe your new boss has a jokester sense of humor and pulled a prank on you. If that's the case, be sure before you get him back. If he isn't the jokester type, he may just be trying to reach out to you in his own way. You may be the first autistic person he has met and had to deal with and may not ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Are aspies immune to being fired? |
| MrObvious |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2012, 2:50 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 4,152
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| I think you dealt with it the best way possible, by setting him in his place. Asperger's or not, he was a jerk and that was uncalled for. Just because someone is an Aspie, they still should know how to behave with respect around others. He obviously does if he played suckup the next day. Now be a bi... |
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