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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Worst Rejection Line |
| JanJan |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2012, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 102
Views: 9,510
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Worst rejection line: "I WILL NEVER DATE YOU!"
At that point I just sat there and shut down. it's like my head collapsed on itself.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are AS women different? |
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Posted: 24 Aug 2012, 10:43 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 927
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| My aunt I'm sure is on the spectrum and she ended up marrying a loud mouthed football player with a gambling problem. The people I end up being attracted to are usually loud and very social. Of course I get dumped in the end because I'm too quiet, not emotional enough, etc.. I've been on dates where... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is "creepy"? |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2012, 8:26 pm
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Replies: 285
Views: 25,571
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| I'm a woman and have been called creepy. I believe it has to do with crossing "boundaries". Boundaries are limits placed around oneself that I guess NT's seem to have and innate sense of. When you have difficulty understanding the social rules, non verbal cues, and difficulty with communication it j... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: How do you Avoid Getting Abused on Sports Teams ? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2012, 9:34 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,944
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| I was mercilessly bullied at school and even though I was an above average athlete, ALWAYS got picked last in team sports at school. I wonder if that STUPID "picking teams" thing ever happens anymore in school P.E. classes? It's a very cruel experience for the last few kids that are chosen. :evil: ... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: How do you Avoid Getting Abused on Sports Teams ? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2012, 8:38 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,944
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| I was mercilessly bullied at school and even though I was an above average athlete, ALWAYS got picked last in team sports at school. I wonder if that STUPID "picking teams" thing ever happens anymore in school P.E. classes? It's a very cruel experience for the last few kids that are chosen. :evil: ... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: How do you Avoid Getting Abused on Sports Teams ? |
| JanJan |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2012, 12:39 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,944
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| This post reminded me of a youtube video I saw a couple of months ago that put "jocks" and "aspies" on the different edges of a bell curve. It explains why we have so much trouble getting along. The guy's a bit of a blow hard, obnoxious at times. and judging from the number of dislikes he's gotten, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What's the creepiest thing a person has ever done to you? |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2012, 10:02 am
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Replies: 59
Views: 7,093
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| [TROLL]It's only creepy if you're not attracted to their appearance.[/TROLL] OK, I did see the troll tags, but still... nope. It wouldn't be creepy for anyone to approach respectfully and say "Hey, I totally understand if you're not interested but I'll regret it if I don't even ask - would you like... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Bouncing step. |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2012, 9:49 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,266
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| I vaguely recall reading something somewhere about people on the spectrum having an extra bounce in their step - perhaps a premature pushoff. I;m curious if anyone out there has this "bounce" in their step? My mother has it, I have it, my brother has it. It tends to become more obvious if we're exci... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Scared about colonoscopy |
| JanJan |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2012, 7:59 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 6,043
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| I had one done for the first time 2 years ago because my mother had polyps. People warned me about the horrible drink - really, it wasn't that bad. People warned me about running to the bathroom - I just put on a movie and paused it every 10 minutes to take a bathroom break - no stress or running. A... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you talkative or quiet? |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2012, 7:14 pm
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Replies: 54
Views: 9,398
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| I'm 49 and can recall people saying I was quiet my entire life. Even when I go to a party and feel I've contributed a lot to a conversation people will ask why I was so quiet. I'm afraid that if people don't feel I contribute to the conversation I'll never get invited to parties, never get asked out... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: List of Social Conventions |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2012, 5:53 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 4,724
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| I actually got in trouble once for bringing something to a party lol. I brought some chips and salsa, but the host had already made some guacamole, and they thought I was trying to compete with their guacamole by bringing the salsa. I guess they were kind of offended since they thought it was an in... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why wouldn't you date the user above you? |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2012, 5:23 pm
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Replies: 3,396
Views: 197,129
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| because I don't understand the dating paradigm. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: List of Social Conventions |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2012, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 4,724
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| I find a big stumbling block for me in meeting people is lack of knowledge of social conventions. So, I would like to compile a list of social conventions that are not intuitively obvious. I'd love to learn some others before I get into more trouble. I'll start: List of Social Conventions 1. If you ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT qn for Aspies: can you define love? |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2012, 8:46 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,252
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| You need to give him some leeway in how you interpret him. I have a lot of difficulty not only expressing emotion, but also defining how I feel and putting those feelings into words. That doesn't mean I don't feel emotion.... I feel plenty of emotion. I have come to accept this as an asperger trait. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think I've become slightly celibate |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2012, 7:04 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,286
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| I feel the same way. I don't really understand the whole dating paradigm. I just kind of stumbled into my last relationship and it worked out for 14 years. (we've since broken up) When I go to a club with friends I just dance my face off because I'm not sure what else I'm supposed to do, or what the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do you handle compliments? |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2012, 11:12 am
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Replies: 124
Views: 14,430
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| For me they are awkward. Back in school, girls would bully me by pretending they thought I was hot when it was really not possible then. I didn't look good til I left school I was the computer club guy. So when I do get genuine compliments they make me feel a bit sad or awkward. Sometimes I can pic... |
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