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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi , I have asperger and I want to kill myself |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 7:28 am
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| Also, if the above isn't enough, you may find life bearable again if you travel. Go on walkabout. Get far, far away. It's what you're meant to do in response to the emotions you're experiencing. It's what I did, and it worked. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi , I have asperger and I want to kill myself |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2011, 7:25 am
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| This is quite normal for a young Aspie. I sympathize. I would be the first to tell you if your suicidal impulses were your fault, or if you needed to stop self-dramatizing. In this case, the odds are that you are being quite serious and in severe emotional pain. I would highly encourage you to read ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What exactly do you talk about with girls? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2011, 5:53 am
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Replies: 36
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| From your perspective, a whole lot of nothing, if the conversation is going well. Best to get her talking about her stuff, and then play with it amusedly. It will be amusing. NT girls are fundamentally relational, domestic, social beings who enjoy dabbling and emotional solipsism. Just roll with it.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Improving Social Skills via "The Game" |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2011, 11:12 pm
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Replies: 17
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Yes, I improved from an AQ=37 to AQ=17 over 15 years using primarily game.
Scores are from the piepalace aspergers online test.
I don't know if you want me for the research, since I was never diagnosed, and couldn't be now. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you confused by very simple conversation? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2011, 10:25 pm
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Replies: 13
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| I suppose it's time to introduce myself then. In junior high and high school I had an AQ of 37 according to this test: (Google piepalace aspergers test) After about 15 years, I now have an AQ of 17. My goal is an AQ of 10. Did I have clinical Aspergers? I'm not sure. Maybe not. But I was on that fun... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you confused by very simple conversation? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2011, 7:50 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Fascinating. So there are two possibilities: 1. It's related to anxiety 2. It's related to conscious effort vs no conscious effort, i.e. "mind like water" Obviously those two aren't mutually exclusive and are in fact related. The thing is, I don't think NT's actually do keep track of everything goin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you confused by very simple conversation? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2011, 7:07 pm
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| The key might be that you can understand people you know, but not strangers. This suggests that anxiety and performance pressure might be related to the problem. Have you tried "not trying"? Letting your conscious mind get out of the way, and focus on nothing while they speak, and don't try to analy... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: how should i approach a cashier that im interested in? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2011, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 38
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| Also, since you admit you're terrible at small talk, commit to doing a terrible job instead of a great one during these interactions. This will free you from perfectionist compulsions, relax you, and make you more genuine. You might be surprised by the results. You might find most of your performanc... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: how should i approach a cashier that im interested in? |
| Koanic |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2011, 5:31 pm
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Replies: 38
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| You are trying to pick up a hired gun in a situation with bad logistics as a newbie. She may not even remember you, depending on how busy the place is. The odds are stacked against, my friend. Chatting up women is a skill that generally transfers across women. You need to build up this skill with pr... |
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