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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2012, 6:11 am
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| Mama to grace Thank you again for your insight and comment. I am trying to change and the past week is proof. For all the children I have dialed it down tremendously. They are happier and not necessarily doing more or less mistakes or forgetful things. And to make things better I am not the "bad guy... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
| Kamikaze6rr |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2012, 10:22 pm
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| Oh and btw It was not my intention to offend anybody |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2012, 10:21 pm
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| And you are entitled to your opinion. I was just sharing how I was raised. Bigot whatever label you give it doesn't matter that's how I see/saw things. And according to the success rate/ statistics of fathers sticking around and having healthy relationships with their children with special needs ind... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2012, 9:09 pm
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| @liloleme Thank you for your encouraging words. The Temple Grandin movie will be here tomorrow. I am trying. This is a process. I come from a very different upbringing than many on this board. I was always taught about strength and survival of the fittest. My view on the world is very natural and ol... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2012, 8:46 pm
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| Ok a number of days have passed since i have posted up. I have dialed it down a lot and trying to provide a "safe" and comfortable home for her right now. No confrontations. if she does something incorrectly i let her mom deal with it. I have taken a back seat to a lot. I have come to the realizatio... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2012, 6:25 am
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| @momsparky. I am working on a paradigm shift. It is tough, but I am working on it. Thank you for your comments. @mama to grace. I will get this book. I am working on not being the authority in house. Past two days i havent asserted myself. Kinda lets them do whats necessary without intervening. Figu... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2012, 7:04 pm
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| First off is my daughter feels its unfair for some people to have money and she can't then is ok for her to steal money to make it fair? Reynaert please understand that I believed her quite sometimes until at home and at school the truth come out. There are times she is the aggressor in the situatio... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2012, 5:44 am
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| @reynaert. We are talking about a 12 yr old at 5'8" and 193 lbs that knows her strength. She played football about two years ago as defensive and offensive tackle. She knows her strength and uses it all the time to "bully" her siblings. Happens a lot. Now please don't make this seem like she is a co... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2012, 7:45 pm
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| First day with the counselor and wasn't bad. Se pointed out some things that I need to change and some things I don't. Work in progress. Today since I have been home I got a monotone "hello" from my stepdaughter and then haven't seen her for the rest of the night. She went into her room and haven't ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2012, 9:28 pm
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| This evening went well. I wasn't too involved with her because the other children had basketball. But I can say this. There wasn't conflict today and as of yesterday she has been hugging me before bed. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2012, 6:22 pm
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| Thank you mama to grace. That was very well put. I must back off until she feels comfortable again then slowly re-engage one skill at a time. Makes sense. I will try. Today and until we feel she is comfortable, I will back off and give her space to get security. It's not easy but I will. An unfortun... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2012, 10:45 am
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| Only reason is because of plumbers butt. But usually not in the house unless she has on jeans. Or going out. Thanks for the advice. I will try to keep in mind. I am literally going to apply any suggestions and update this board on how it goes. Thanks again. And please recommend articles and books vi... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2012, 8:48 am
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| What have you done to educate yourself about ASD? I ask because I don't think it's possible for you to have a successful or healthy relationship with her unless you do eveything you can to understand how differently she perceives and experiences the world from the way you do. Does it ever feel like... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2012, 10:01 am
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| today i got attitude because i pointed out her lack of wearing a belt and the fact her zipper was undone. the belt wearing rule has been in place for the last 3 years. but somehow she forgets almost every day. then when questioned why she forgets theres attitude. when i suggest she make a reminder i... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2012, 9:55 am
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| yes we are setup for family counseling. All of the kids go right now and I go on friday. I am the stepparent here. I am very confident that our counselor will help me learn to build a better relationship with all of the children. I do admit maybe its me. I am very provincial in my thinking. very old... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: I have a 12 yrs old functioning autistic step daughter |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2012, 9:44 am
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Replies: 49
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| forgot to mention she has one older sister and a younger step brother and younger step sister. |
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