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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: schools close as Islam assignment prompts backlash |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2019, 6:02 pm
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| How can you say, "there is no god but Allah" in Arabic, considering Allah is simply Arabic for 'God'? The generic word for deity (small-g "god" in English) in Arabic is "ilah", while the one God of Abraham (capital-G "God") is "Allah" – which itself... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 33
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| In case anyone's interested, I've discussed some of my family issues over at the Dysfunctional Families threads of Teresa Nielsen Hayden's Making Light blog. Dysfunctional Families: Sitting and rising Dysfunctional Families: Surviving and Thriving I'm using the pseudonym "Codemonkey in NE England" (... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What can I buy my mother for Christmas? PLEASE HELP! |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2012, 2:22 pm
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| I dread any time when I'm meant to buy a present for my mother -- that would be Christmas, Mothers' Day or her birthday (in June)! What do you buy someone who has no life because they're saddled with an autistic daughter (she's now 24, but has a mind little better than a six-year-old) and whose husb... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What's your safe haven or own world? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2012, 2:05 pm
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Replies: 45
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| My safe haven is cyberspace -- at least my mother can't ask me questions here... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2012, 4:23 am
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| My mother is very protective and for many reasons(long story there.) I needed to move out and kinda did. I moved in with my older sister and her family but my goal is to move out on my own someday. But my mom still try's to get me to move back in with her very month or so. When I have brought up mo... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2012, 4:48 pm
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Replies: 33
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| Most of the people on this planet left/leave/is going to leave the nest one day. People do it because it makes us mature and satisfied. You keep looking for excuses why not to do it... I think the issue is that I often think my current situation is my own fault. Oh well, at least I got a pay rise t... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feel like my mother saps the life out of me |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2012, 4:01 pm
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| I kinda feel the same...though my mom is supportive on the surface, There are things I end up keeping from her because I don't want to deal with her drama. I have made a lot of progress with not letting what she will think or how she will feel run my life.....but it still makes me sad that once I a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 26 Sep 2012, 3:55 pm
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| I only got to check out one possible place to live (which I didn't want as it was £425 per month for a dump with rotten windows) before my mother found out -- she scolded me for being so pitifully naive about what independent living costs. It's really getting on my nerves... Another recent source of... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Should I be ashamed for wanting to move out? |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2012, 6:45 am
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| I feel like I'm in a similar fix -- whereas you have a sister who's a single mother, I have a sister who's quite severely autistic. Also my dad had a brain haemorrhage in January which means I'm now the only driver in the house (not to mention that he has awful memory problems). Even before that, my... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2012, 1:02 am
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| Oh, and how can I cope with the problem of lacking local friends that could help me load and unload on a move? Prefessional removals are extremely expensive (£1000+) IIRC! Also, I found a flat that looks promising (and at £425 pcm it's less than my budget calculations assumed, plus it's in walking d... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2012, 2:06 am
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| I don't think your mother is your problem. She is only an excuse. You are looking for approval of leaving. You do not need any. Just do it. Most of the people did it, you can too. In your opinion is it (in the general case, rather than just in my specific case) a "fool's errand" for someone living ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I HATE life in the UK!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 22 Aug 2012, 12:23 am
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| Local products made from local people?? Who ever heard of such nonsense!! I don't advocate autarky -- I'm just recognizing that government budget deficits are to a large degree caused by trade deficits. (Note that unlike in Greece, the debt problems of Spain and Ireland started in the private secto... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I HATE life in the UK!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:18 pm
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Replies: 21
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| What I sometimes think we need is a government willing to put a 500% tax on all products made in China... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:17 pm
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| I do not know prices in your area. But how many people have less income than £1280? Many for sure. And they live, feed their children even. Ask them how do they manage... Yesterday my mother found a note I'd made to work out how much I'd be spending a week on food (because I thought her estimate of... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 17 Aug 2012, 1:06 am
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| I'm also thinking of the issue of budgeting if living independently. The approximate calculation below suggests things may be tight as I currently stand. Or are some of my expenses estimates too high? Take-home pay per month: £1280 Rent: £450 Council tax: £82 Food: £220 Electricity: £100 Gas: £100 W... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I leave home without worrying my mother too much? |
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Posted: 09 Aug 2012, 4:19 pm
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| don't find excuses not to do it. What about practical issues (such as finding time to view potential properties)? I haven't even plucked up the courage to tell my mother I'm serious about wanting my own place (I'm always paranoid about being accused of wasting money), and I don't see how I can do e... |
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