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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact question |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2010, 2:04 am
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Replies: 60
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| There is so much information coming in from a speaker that I try to assess as the communication is happening. If I have to look in the eyes, I lose everything else, especially what is being said. As a speech pathologist, you are probably interested in having the subject look at the mouth to get the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact question |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 3:21 am
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Replies: 60
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| Thank you everyone for your insightful replies! I got into another argument with a colleague today over the importance of eye contact and I found it very frustrating, so I can only imagine what it must be like to be on your side of the fence. I keep being told that eye contact is important "because ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact question |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2010, 4:35 pm
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| oh , is this the reason they are so comfortable then? It's true! I wouldn't even think to pay attention to someone's eye colour when I'm having a conversation with them. It's difficult to describe, because eye contact is something I never think about when it's happening naturally - and even when I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact question |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2010, 10:26 pm
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| It's tricky, because obviously I come from a background where I'm supposed to assume that behaving as close to NT as possible is the goal and while I do understand that it's much, much easier to get by in the world if you can fake being "normal" and I do think it's important that children who don't ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye contact question |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2010, 9:54 pm
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| Hi everyone, My name is Lana and I'm a (NT) speech pathologist/speech therapist/speech-language pathologist, whatever you want to call it. I became a member here when I was still a student, because I wanted to get a better understanding of what life was like for people with ASD, rather than just tak... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I TRIED -- I Really Did |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2007, 11:55 pm
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| NT's are like that a lot - not just to Aspies, but to everyone. I'm NT and I understand exactly what you're going through - it happens to me all the time. I thinkI'm a nice person and I'm friendly, but I'm very shy and people often mistake that for rudeness and exclude me. It hurts a lot to find out... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What's your general relationship lifespan? |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2007, 12:59 am
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| I'm NT but I do have social phobia - it's a LOT better than it used to be, but dating is still terrifying for me. I've had two 'relationships' that lasted for about 2 months each, but they were both pretty casual I'm not sure they were actual relationships. I am slowly getting better, but considerin... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: In social situations, do you emulate your favourite actors? |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2007, 11:56 pm
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| I don't emulate actors as such, but if I'm having a particularly bad day and feel more anxious than usual I might pretend to be a character from a book/tv show/movie etc who's a lot more confident than me. It gets me through those days when I have to go to the supermarket but can't face the idea of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Who can diagnose? |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2006, 7:39 am
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| I'm sorry if this has been posted before, but I was just curious about the way assessment and diagnosis works in different countries. I've been told conflicing things about what happens here (Australia) but it's my understand that a multidisciplinary team is recommended, including a pediatrician, sp... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The NT's Guide to Asperger's |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2006, 7:41 pm
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| If you haven't yet, I'd mention something about how everyone's different. Might sound obvious, but I think it's good to put in to remind us NT's that just because someone's an aspie doesn't mean we can know everything about them from reading a guide like this! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I think all the friends I've made have been abnormal, too. |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2006, 2:03 am
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| I wonder if it has something to do with the types of people who are more willing to accept differences in others. I'm not Aspie, but I've got social phobia. The friends I had at school were always the outcasts who had something 'wrong' with them or just didn't fit in. We bonded because we were diffe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: interested in an online project |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2006, 9:55 pm
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| Sounds like an interesting project. I'd volunteer if I lived in your local area! Best of luck with it, though. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: To become more NT action plan |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2006, 9:14 pm
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| NT interaction is a weird thing. I didn't realise how many stupid pointless things I did every day until I came here! Aspie_chav, I think it's a generalisation to say that NT socialising is warfare. Some of it definitely is, but I don't socialise with people to get ahead. I was the kid at school who... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'd appreciate help: Group Interactions |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2006, 10:51 pm
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| I'm NT but with social phobia so I've always found group interaction difficult. I don't tend to talk much in group situations till I know the people, but I've found that smiling a lot and nodding and agreeing at appropriate points makes it seem as though I'm interested in the conversation but just n... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New member |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2006, 8:28 am
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Replies: 7
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Pug wrote: Yay, fantasy novels!
Pug, I just finished reading 'Magician' by Raymond Feist and have to ask - is your username related to that series? |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New member |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2006, 12:59 am
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Replies: 7
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| Thanks for the welcome! A speech pathologist basically helps people to communicate, though we also help people with swallowing difficulties. As you can imagine, it's a massive field - everything from adults who have had strokes to children with cochlear implants to people with voice disorders. And, ... |
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