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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Kissing "goodnight" at the end of the first date |
| heathergracie |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2012, 10:41 pm
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Replies: 64
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scubasteve wrote: heathergracie wrote: I don't think there's necessarily a right or wrong answer. It depends what you're comfortable with. +1
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Kissing "goodnight" at the end of the first date |
| heathergracie |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2012, 3:13 am
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Replies: 64
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| My experience has been the opposite of hyperlexian. The dates where I wound up making out on the first night ended up burning out fast. My current boyfriend gave me a hug on date one...kisses came on date two, and things are still great. I don't think there's necessarily a right or wrong answer. It ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How much have I messed up? |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2012, 3:25 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Just had this thought... I hear all the time "Girls like men who treat them like crap." But no one ever seems to ask this.... Guys... why would you pursue a woman who wants to be treated that way? AnnieMayMango, I think you've gotten the advice you need. But it might be worth asking yourself the abo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Broke up with someone: Having a Tough Time Today |
| heathergracie |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2012, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I guess I don't follow why you would want to pursue therapy with someone you don't want to see anymore. And I agree, he shouldn't expect you to accept him not being over his ex. I don't think therapy is a bad idea individually... I just don't see the purpose of involving him in it. Still, all the be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you do this? |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2012, 4:08 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I think this is an important question for Aspies and NTs, both. It's important to remember that there are different levels of depression... I would never tell anyone that they shouldn't date someone who sometimes gets depressed. It happens to everyone, and even deep depressions can sometimes be work... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Broke up with someone: Having a Tough Time Today |
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Posted: 16 Apr 2012, 3:56 pm
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Replies: 6
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| It sounds like you and he are at very different stages in life. Even if he's been divorced for four years, it doesn't sound like he's at a good emotional point. Keep in mind that he was with someone for four years, and you guys have dated on and off for three months. It may feel like a much deeper c... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So I had my first meetup with the woman I met on OKC |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2012, 2:04 am
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Replies: 88
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| Glassjailer is my new favorite. Insightful, incisive advice. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So I had my first meetup with the woman I met on OKC |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 88
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| You're not hopeless or worthless. Please see the positive in this great day! I disagree with ZX...telling yourself the most you can do is mess something up is overwhelmingly negative and untrue. Patience is one of the hardest things in the world. But it's so worth it. You have had a great day. Don't... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So I had my first meetup with the woman I met on OKC |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 3:16 pm
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| What great news! Do not get down on yourself. You had a great lunch! Give that the value it deserves. I think your text was fine, but I back up singularity... now you HAVE to wait. Try to find other things to keep your mind occupied. If she really is going on other dates and working and living life,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Planning my first meetup with the new woman |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 1:54 am
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Replies: 24
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| Hi--wanted to give you an NT woman's perspective. I met my AS boyfriend on OKC as well. He asked me out to dinner, we talked until they kicked us out so they could close, and we've been together since. As an NT woman, let me say something that people may disagree with. I AM SICK TO DEATH WITH COFFEE... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I need advice on dating an Aspie guy |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I'm also an NT, dating an Aspie guy. One thing that has been tough for me to learn is that my bf needs his space... from what I have seen, this can be quite common. Also, you will have to work it out together, but for my bf and I, blunt and to the point works best. Every once in a while he will say ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Counseling/Therapy with Aspies? |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 3:05 pm
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| First, if there is a better place for this thread, please let me know. I'm posting here because I'm asking in the interest of my Aspie boyfriend. Not surprisingly, he is profoundly affected by stress and struggles with depression. When I have asked him about his options for learning new coping mecha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't know how to handle shut downs. |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2012, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 3
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| Myth, I want to apologize for taking so long to reply. Life has this funny habit of getting in the way... The bf and I are still going strong, and I feel like both of us are looking at things from a new, more open angle. One thing I found especially interesting is that a couple days ago he brought u... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT girlfriend stressing out AGAIN |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2012, 4:39 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Thanks so much for your replies, guys... I think my biggest issue is that I'm a) nervous, and b) impatient. Myth posted a great reply this morning on my "I don't know how to handle shutdowns" thread... (I'll reply there soon). I just hope I'm not the worst NT girlfriend.... I want to find a balance ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't know how to handle shut downs. |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2012, 7:33 pm
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Replies: 3
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| First, I want to apologize for posting a lot of threads. I am not trying to gunk up the works, but it feels like things are dovetailing into something new. My (very new--one month) boyfriend had a shutdown (don't even know if I am using the terminology right) on Thursday night. Without going into ex... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT girlfriend stressing out AGAIN |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2012, 4:19 am
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Replies: 20
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| Thank you for your feedback. And MrSpock, I really like your blog. :) One thing he keeps saying (and I realize this may not be the ideal place for this discussion, but bear with me for now) is that his AS is extreme. From my limited knowledge of both AS and our relationship, he seems to be very "mil... |
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