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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: UGH ! please help me with advice ! |
| Blackholesun |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2012, 9:55 am
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| She's not worried that I lose control. She seems to be very strong. She does have her down time, that's why we are together because we understand one another so well. We are due to meet up soon (within a week) and she will be staying with me for a few days. I suffer from terrible separation anxiety ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: UGH ! please help me with advice ! |
| Blackholesun |
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Posted: 17 Aug 2012, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Another update ! We have spent many hours talking and are beginning to understand each other. I did say something tonight that came out wrong and upset her a little but we managed to talk it through and sorted it out :) I am still nervous but I seem to be controlling my nerves. It has made my IBS fl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: UGH ! please help me with advice ! |
| Blackholesun |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 6:21 am
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| OK we decided to slow things down a bit and I am coping :) I did have another panic attack a couple of days ago but I got through it. I have scheduled an appointment with my psychiatrist for next week so that we can sit down and talk about it. I didn't think he would see it as very important but he ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: UGH ! please help me with advice ! |
| Blackholesun |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2012, 4:16 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I did reply to her earlier saying that I felt overloaded. I literally went into a complete meltdown and was terrified of her :( The past four years have been me rebuilding a life that fell apart in another country. I married an American and made the choice to live over there even though I knew it wa... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: UGH ! please help me with advice ! |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2012, 2:00 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Hi every one. I hope you are all as well and happy as is possible. I'm in a bit of a jam right now because I'm so confused :( Around four years ago I met a woman who breeds cats. We became friends (she was married at the time) and our friendship continued. I will admit that I went through periods of... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
| Blackholesun |
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Posted: 03 May 2012, 10:51 am
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Replies: 16
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| I got the results of my appeal today and I won. I have been put in the support group. I broke into tears when I got the letter. Kind of like a culmination of emotions for the past seven months all coming out. The last few months have not been easy at all but I think being diagnosed with Asperger's r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdowns- what do you do? |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 21
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I just dose myself up on anti psychotics and wait for it to go away.
At worst I will likely smash something up if it doesn't work properly first time. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Indeed. When I think about my "working past" I just cringe. Some of the highlights include walking out of a busy shop and just going home, leaving it empty and unlocked. Kicking my store manager through a set of shelves because he kept throwing video cases at me. Being fired from a call centre job f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: You Might be an Aspie if... |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 9:24 am
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Replies: 4,649
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| You ask your family what is for dinner fifty times a day and then realise that you are cooking it at 6:30 pm ! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: do you have 'too many things' in head and the get confused |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 8:32 am
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Replies: 26
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| Yes ! I do ! You should hear me go on a phone call :? It's like some one opened the floodgates :? I have like a million things I want to say and I end up saying them all mashed in together. Gotta say I do feel for the people who speak to me, I must give them a right headache. Do you guys have troubl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Understanding the model NTs operate on |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 8:29 am
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Replies: 136
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I must say I can understand the model NTs seem to operate on. Get up, go to work, repeat ad nauseum.
Sadly I just can't do it. I think inevitably that's where we differ. They can do the same thing in and out without thinking about it where as I spend my life thinking about it. Too much. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 8:27 am
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Replies: 16
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| Good news. Sitting here worrying myself sick about it all I decided to phone the local job centre who will inevitably have the final say. Spoke to a really nice lady who told me they have "deferred" my first interview until the end of June. After quite a lengthy discussion that got a bit muddled (go... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2012, 7:46 am
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| I did not go to ATOS. All I can imagine is that given my psychiatric reports and doctor's letters they did not want to see me (maybe they were worried?) I do have terrible temper tantrums. So they basically skipped that completely and just put me in the WRAG. I guess it just comes down to whether or... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2012, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Very few people are appealing, so just make sure you do that. It wouldn't surprise me if they have a very Low threshold for able to work and then rely on the appeals process to sort it out. Jason. Yes it definitely seems that they are trying to just shove people out of the way in the hopes they won... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2012, 11:24 am
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Replies: 16
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| They haven't said you're fit for work. What they have said, is that maybe in the future you can work. I agree with you regarding the odd questions from the job centre. They asked me what job would I like to do were I not visually impaired? I am not going to wake up tomorrow and be cured. So why wou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: DWP problems. |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2012, 10:44 am
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Replies: 16
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| Hi all. I had a few things I wanted to talk about. Obviously my problems go back to when I was born, but they only really came to the forefront over the past decade. When I was a child and a teenager I was living at home. However, I had terrible trouble finding work and then keeping it. It's probabl... |
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