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Forum: The Haven Topic: invasion of privacy |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 11:52 am
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| Who is more chomping-at-the-bit to get married? You or him? (I'm assuming it's a him) You may want to deeply examine the situation. If he's the one pushing for the wedding, there may be some kind of agenda, or that may be me remembering where being naive and vulnerable got me, but at this particula... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: invasion of privacy |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 11:21 am
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| I majorly shut down this morning. I've found this happens most frequently the day after I am exposed to a lot of stimuli. Last Sunday I shut down right before the service started at church and spent the rest of the time there outside on a bench with my fiance- who is usually extremely supportive and... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: wedding planning and obsessing over imperfections |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2012, 7:17 pm
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| [quote="Sarah81" You have an underlying perfectionist assumption "The invitations MUST be perfect, or everything is terrible". You challenge that assumption and replace it with a more useful thought "I would prefer it if the invitations are perfect, but it's okay if the margins are a little out. The... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ASMR |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 9:16 am
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| WOW. i didn't know this was a thing. but it makes so much sense. i think this is 90% of the reason i'm obsessed with origami. the combination of the paper's texture on my fingertips and the sound of my skin rubbing across the fibers... the crinkle, the crumple, the soft scratchy quality of paper aga... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: wedding planning and obsessing over imperfections |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 9:25 pm
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| Ah, I appreciate your sentiment, but I have to say I am in no way, shape, or form a "bridezilla". I am paying for most of the wedding expenses myself. My parents graciously purchased the dress and have contributed a small but very workable fund to the wedding budget. The rest of the wedding is being... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: wedding planning and obsessing over imperfections |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 7:42 pm
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| Is it just me? I am obsessing over the tiniest little details. No matter how many times other people tell me it's not a big deal, no matter how much I don't WANT it to be a big deal, no matter how small it is... I cannot stop obsessing about these things!! Prime example: The left and right margins o... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "You just want something to be wrong with you" res |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 7:17 pm
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bnky wrote: So denial is defense against letting the problem in
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...I actually suspect, given that she shares some traits with me, that she may have some similar neurological differences. I think maybe her concept of "neurotypical" is somewhat clouded by her own lack of neurotypicism. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "You just want something to be wrong with you" res |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 7:07 pm
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hanyo wrote: Giving it a name and knowing more about it makes it more likely that you can do something about it.
EXACTLY. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "You just want something to be wrong with you" res |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 7:06 pm
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| Your mother might have difficulty accepting why you are the way you are but you should accept that she has difficulty accepting this and find a more positive center point of your relationship with her. Tell her more positive things and reserve putting the weight of your negative things on the shoul... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: "You just want something to be wrong with you" res |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 3:35 pm
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| Anyone else ever had this response? I was trying to talk to my mom this morning about my recent Asperger's diagnosis, hoping it might bridge the gap between us and help her understand the source of a lot of the conflicts that we've had in the past. Before I could even get there, she pretty much shut... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: My story may be a little unique, so bear with me! |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2012, 10:27 pm
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| Hi, I'm a newbie too, and a newly-diagnosed Aspie at 24. Also, share your uncertainty about how/when to tell parents, and what their reactions will be. I always kind of felt like my mom dismissed my ADHD diagnosis, too, and thinks I am exaggerating when I say it is nearly impossible to function with... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Salutations and Introductions! |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2012, 10:22 pm
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| Thanks! Yeah, the diagnosis (or pseudodiagnosis) is a HUGE relief but has also become a bit of a preoccupation in the last few days. I have yet to bring it up with my mom, though I feel it would make SO much sense if she were willing to accept it, when thinking over all the conflicts we've had, part... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should it be weird for me to dislike going to a class where |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2012, 9:14 pm
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| I don't think that's weird at all, because I have the same issue. I don't have any advice for you, though, which is probably totally un-helpful. I've never known anyone in any of my classes- so I'm pretty used to it. I just sort of put my head down and stay in my head the whole time and try not to w... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Salutations and Introductions! |
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Posted: 30 Mar 2012, 9:01 pm
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| Hi! I'm new to wrongplanet, though I've been lurking a lot for the last week or so. I'm also new to the concept of my "quirks" having the name Aspergers! I'm a 24-year-old female whose upcoming wedding (and short guest list!!) has necessitated taking a closer look at a severe difficulty to form and ... |
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