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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 17 May 2012, 6:37 pm
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| I have problems like this with my mother. If I'm reading this right. Basically, by telling us the plans, we overthink the plans and get overwhelmed at them, if that makes any sense. I feel in my own life, I have to plan out everything I do in advance, and nothing seemingly "happens" and even a thin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 17 May 2012, 6:30 pm
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| . . . This forum (and everyone here) has helped me tremendously. I know that my son will also visit here from time to time since learning about WrongPlanet. That's great, and also maybe a little dicey. :bball: I mean, won't your son find it a little embarrassing? Maybe you ask him, you might suspec... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 12:29 pm
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| That sounds on the positive side that he brings a friend along. If there are one or two events you most want you son to attend, maybe you could just tell him this. (some 'obvious' stuff is not obvious to us and that's the zen of it all! we still do care about others) Thank you for this. I am learni... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 12:24 pm
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| Does your son specifically have his own room? It helps me a whole lot knowing that a have a refuge available. Maybe you could ask your son if he would like, for example, to be the one who plans the zip-lining? Yes. I always get each son a 2 bedroom condo which consists of the 2 bedrooms each with t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 12:17 pm
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| I find that sort of situation easier if i've bought into the plan. Would it be possible for you to include him in the plan making? I certainly would love for him to make any of the plans, especially if it was for something that he would enjoy doing. Unfortunately, much of his time is spent in his r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is planning ONLY ok if you made the plans? |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 11:22 am
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| I just read the thread regarding what you hate about NTs and saw that one of the things was the "lack of planning" or not adhering to a plan. As an NT to my adult son with AS, I am a bit confused. I ask questions best by actual example, so here goes: Every year, I have planned a family vacation to C... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I Seek A Second Diagnosis? |
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Posted: 11 May 2012, 10:45 am
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| My adult son, by all indications, seems to have every characteristic of a person with AS, even from the day he was born (as described by the parents of an Aspie). My son's psychiatrist was convinced as well. However, we went to a center in Santa Barbara which specializes in Autism/Asperger's only to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you need to know "details" about everything? |
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Posted: 08 May 2012, 11:48 am
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Replies: 47
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ghoti wrote: his_mom wrote: By the way, I am unable to see the results of the poll. Can anyone else see the results? so far: Yes 94% [ 32 ] No 5% [ 2 ]
Thank you so much! I have clicked on the "see results" tab which does nothing for me. Is there something else I need to do in order to see the results? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you need to know "details" about everything? |
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Posted: 08 May 2012, 11:19 am
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| By the way, I am unable to see the results of the poll. Can anyone else see the results? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you need to know "details" about everything? |
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Posted: 08 May 2012, 11:11 am
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| I hope that you all don't get frustrated with my, seemingly, ridiculous questions. I am just trying to understand my son as much as possible. It is hard at times and I know that he gets frustrated with me when I just "don't get it". Again, all of your responses are so helpful and it's actually uncan... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you need to know "details" about everything? |
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Posted: 07 May 2012, 8:00 pm
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| My son is this way. Any time I invite him somewhere or offer to help him with anything, he wants to know "the details". Some things just can't be known ahead of time and details can't be given. Example: I offered to go over and help him straighten up his house. He wanted details. I told him that I w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Misdiagnosis for my adult son? |
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Posted: 07 May 2012, 10:19 am
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| I'd be concerned about those meds, too. They put me on some pretty heavy-duty meds when I was hospitalized for the first time about eight years ago, and all they did was tranquilize me and make me tired. That might have made me seem less anxious and agitate to an outside observer, but inside, I was... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Misdiagnosis for my adult son? |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 8:22 pm
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| As I am writing this, I continue to get texts from my son telling me how miserable he is. Then he starts saying stuff like, 'if we would have listened to him when he was a child, he probably would have gotten treated earlier'. and that we are trying to "run his life" by telling him what to do. (Keep... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Misdiagnosis for my adult son? |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 8:05 pm
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| Autism is passed on in the genes so there must be a heck of a lot of autistic people having relationships and children. I have yet to meet anyone with AS who doesn't want a relationship or friends but it's like we're shackled by our condition. I can also hold a conversation like an NT. For a while ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Misdiagnosis for my adult son? |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 7:49 pm
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| Also, my son's conversations almost always end up returning to whatever he is interested in at the time (for the past 2 years he has been consumed with his mental condition). He will dominate the conversation as long as anyone will listen. He will repeat himself quite often as well. That can certai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Misdiagnosis for my adult son? |
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Posted: 06 May 2012, 7:36 pm
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| Hello, My biggest concern is when he goes into a meltdown which seems to be happening more frequently lately. I am very concerned with the heavy duty meds he is currently taking and what effect they may have on him if he does have AS. He becomes so enraged for little or no reason (in my NT mind). H... |
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