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Forum: The Haven Topic: Friend Hearing Voices |
| thepurplefire13 |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2016, 10:20 pm
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| My friend is AS. She's also got OCD. Well, it involves religious themes, and it always tells her that her special interests are sinful which, textbook OCD, brings her great distress. Her most recent episode has her thinking things are signs from God that her OCD is right & she's sinning. She eve... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: If God is a judge... |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 4:45 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,949
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| God's judgement comes in the next life. What we see now is life as a judge. And by 3rd grade, we all know that life isn't fair. Many Christians rely on God to cope with life's injustices. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Is this Normal? |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2012, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 19,031
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| You are the victim of steroetypes in society. I'm asexual and have interests that are more "masculine" then "feminine." This has nothing to do with sexuality, much more to do with personal preferences. Not all girls fit the typical mold of "a girl" in society, and there's nothing wrong with that. Th... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: When did your voice change? |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2012, 7:59 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 42,868
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| Girls voices gradually change throughout their lives. They get stronger to about 30 while getting gradually lower (not as low as a man's voice). After 30, a woman's ability to hit high notes declines and her voice gradually becomes lower still (still not like a man's voice but older women have lower... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anyone else have problems with their family? |
| thepurplefire13 |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2012, 5:41 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 915
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| please read my entire comment. I am a devout but nontraditional Christian (not affiliated w. any church and look at the Bible in a different way). If your family treats you with disregard and contempt because they're Christian and you're atheist....they're practicing their own religion wrong. Christ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Anyone else feel like the black sheep? |
| thepurplefire13 |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2012, 3:42 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 15,374
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| Yep, I definitely the black sheep. No one, except my awesome sister, understands me or even tries to understand me at all. The holidays are often painful reminders of how lonely being the black sheep is, but it's okay. There's a black sheep in every family, so even if you are the black sheep, you're... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Extremely Severe Sensitivity to Temperature |
| thepurplefire13 |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2012, 12:42 am
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Replies: 4
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| This happens to me too. Air conditioning at "normal" temperatures is cold to me, and I really love the heat. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Is sex important? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2012, 12:30 am
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Replies: 51
Views: 13,908
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| Sex is not that important. What is important in a relationship is love and emotional intimacy. Please don't risk your ability to walk for the ability to have sexual intercourse. Most people I know who've had sex, value their ability to walk over their ability to have sex. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Everyone Must Sacrifice |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2012, 5:23 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,794
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| You shouldn't be expected to develop perfect social skills, just to try your best, and NTs should also be expected to try their best to understand people with AS. Unfortunately, this last part is often ignored due to lack of awareness. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My marriage is about to end if I cant figure this out.. |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2012, 1:55 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,857
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| I think your wife may feel as if you've lost interest in her or that you no longer think that she is attractive due to your tendency to focus on your thoughts rather than your environment (and the people in it). She might just need to be reassured that you love her and find her attractive. Complimen... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My marriage is about to end if I cant figure this out.. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2012, 10:47 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,857
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| Don't go for an open relationship. This brings jealousy into the equation which makes things worse and more complicated. As far as physical intimacy goes, even though you don't really like to touch or be touched, you could try a hug and kiss on the cheek when you or her arrive home from work. As far... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Everyone Must Sacrifice |
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Posted: 29 Jul 2012, 12:37 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,794
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| Sweetleaf, I totally see what you mean about society being conformist and alienating its members. I dress differently and hold different values than most of the people I'm around. I feel alienated and discarded by society, and I also agree that people should make an effort to understand those who ar... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The Perils of Socialisation |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 11:49 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,503
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| The best thing to do would be to stop rescuing her. If you continue to rescue her when she falls into trouble, she will continue to drain you two emotionally. It is also bad for her. If you bail her out of trouble each time, you are enabling her to make the poor choices that get her into trouble. En... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Mini golf, bbq tea.. and coming on strong |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2012, 9:17 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Well, you won't become less functioning if you associate with those who are less functioning, but you may learn how to communicate better and relate to those who are lower functioning. If your daughter is 15, why not let her decide whether or not to be friends with him? If she does, she has a new fr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: understanding humans |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2012, 9:03 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,065
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| Thanks for the book references. :) One thing I've learned about them is that they love to be listened to instead of just heard. People really appreciate it if after hearing something one time, someone remembers it at some point in the future, like birthdays and Christmas if they mentioned they liked... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "Social apex"... |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2012, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 916
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| Yes, twice. The first time, I managed to be a member of a group, but was extremely shy and didn't say much. The second time, I joined a social group and became an actual social member of the group. |
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